LostGirl11 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Did your ex ever make you feel completely worthless? Like you were nothing? Whether it was during the realtionship or after. I'd like to hear your story.... Or make a list of all the times he/she made you feel worthless.
lailax3 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 I kinda feel insignificant, yeah. He dropped the 'don't know how I feel anymore' line about a week ago. I've initiated contact THREE TIMES since then, no response. But he decided to unblock then block me on whatsapp, twice yesterday. It did knock some self esteem tbh, but I know where I stand now and I can only move upwards and onwards from this.
TheMink Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 (edited) Did your ex ever make you feel completely worthless? Like you were nothing? Whether it was during the realtionship or after. I'd like to hear your story.... Or make a list of all the times he/she made you feel worthless. I completely understand by what you mean when you say that you're ex has made you feel worthless. I was with my girlfriend for around 9 months. I absolutely loved this girl to bits, I treated her like a princess, and she was my everything. Although this was true she came with some challenges which I accepted graciously. She suffered from depression and anxiety issues. She was abused as a child, grew up in a violent household filled with domestic abuse, and her Dad is currently serving a 12 year prison sentence for a road rage murder incident. But all of that stuff just made me love her even more, I was always there for her to talk to. It was our first relationship for the both of us, so I was the first person that was able to tell this stuff to. None of her friends new this stuff. One night we were just chilling in my room and she broke down have an anxiety attack in my arms when she told me the time someone tried to kill themselves in front of her. Throughout the course of the relationship I was worried about her mental well being, because I knew that she cut herself, and had told me that she was having suicidal thoughts, of which was very chilling. I was was always there for her, being a shoulder, at one stage I even asked her mum to take her to see professional help for her mental issues (of which her mum made a joke out of!), she got to see her Dad for the first time in 5 years during our relationship. I had never cared about something, or someone as much as I did for her. But about 6 weeks ago she sprung it on me, she said that she was sick of my insecurities, that she was bored of me, had fell out of love and had no desire to be in a relationship with me. She broke promises that she made when we broke up (i.e she said that she still wanted to go to prom with me, but she found someone else). About a week after she broke up with me I tried to get her back, but she said no and when I asked her for her reasons why, she said that she didn't want to talk about it and she said that..."I don't owe you anything". The last month and a half have been the most difficult I've gone through. I feel like I've been betrayed, stabbed in the back, I'm heartbroken, I feel like I wasn't valued at all and that I was just an emotional crutch so she could deal with her issues. And I wonder if she was telling the truth all the times that she said she loved me. She's blocked me on FB and completely cut me out of her life, which I'm glad of in a way because I know that being friends would be too hard. So yes, I do feel worthless...for now. Edited May 27, 2013 by TheMink
Harradin Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 My ex cheated and ran off with someone I had considered a friend. A week before she had found out about her parents getting divorced and she was absolutely devastated and she changed so much in a week it was like she was a completely different person. I felt worthless because the guy she ran off with was fat, ridiculously ugly and in the social group I used to be in he was nicknamed "Kevin the virgin" because he was that hopeless with women, he had never kissed a girl, had a girlfriend, he just tried to use money and manipulate the girl when she was upset. Comparing this to me, I race motorsport nationally, do judo/kickboxing, in good shape, had experience with women, read maths at university, extremely loyal (I treated her like a princess without being a doormat.) My self confidence/esteem basically got blown apart because I thought that if she had to leave me for that, I must be worse. So yes, after the relationship I felt utterly worthless. Its been 8 months since then and 7 months NC, I sometimes do feel worthless, I've not dated or really gotten with another girl, I don't think I'm really ready for a relationship. I've never done one night stands and not really interested in them, weird considering I'm 20 when one night stands are pretty common!
Giha Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Nah. Maybe a bit in the first week. I just know I treated her like she was my world, the way a woman should be treated by a loving partner and then some. Truth is she missed out. 1
ConfusedT Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Unfortunately, yes!! If you suffer from low self-esteem, of course they can make you feel worthless. And you actually kind of allow them to make you feel that way depending on what you put up with during the relationship. I feel worthless and like a failure sometimes because i couldnt MAKE my relationship work, the problem is really: I shouldn't want to! Only good, solid relationships should be worked on. Abusive, toxic relationships should be let go of! This is probably harder than working on them though. Just pray and stay focused on you! 1
Jord11 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Thanks for asking this question, I was in a relationship for 8 months with her, gave her the world, was always there for her,loved her cared for her, always gave 100 % in it, went down for my bday everything was fine, about a week after my bday she said she didn't love me that way anymore and left, I'm on day 93 no contact something like that I've stopped counting, but yeah you really do feel worthless when you gave everything and she just falls out of love, how do some people do that I don't know have a clue, hopefully one day she comes back and says she made a mistake but it probably won't happen and I will never talk to her again until she does, I'm still hurt and betrayed on what she done and what I thought we had. 1
omit Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 I wish I could add to this, but in my case I made mistakes and if it helps you at all, the person making the mistakes doesn't get away with it. they carry it ever day guilt and regret are heavy. Hope they only realise when they can handle it.
OzHeartache Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Yep, was with my girl over a year, I had a little boy from a previous marriage and she told me she wants to have kids but she wants to have them with someone that doesn't already have them..... Guess that rules me out, definatley made me feel pretty worthless!!
s.a.i.n.t. Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Yes man i feel worthless as hell. My ex girl a week before talks about getting married, kids, love u blah blah. The following week she hits me with im no longer feeling you, your not attractive. 5 days later she "with the ladies" at black bike week, heres the breaker she has no friends,female or male.... She won't even talk to me unless its about the got damn cell phone bill. Like i did something to warrent this. I dont even know why im still paying insurance on her car with my plates. Soon as the title comes im switchin it over and giving the broad 30 days. I never felt for low, i cant even do guy talk cause i feel disgusted with them talking about infidelity even when i know they wouldnt cheat on their wives. Hell i can't even listen to rap music. I use to goto the gym everyday now i look in the mirror and say screw it. I got so much going for me, and i know i do, and this girl has made me feel like a weak chump. Sad thing is I want her with my heart but my head says over and over you can do a hell of alot better. Its a constant battle, im going to win it. Sorry for rambling.
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