Flatline Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Woke up not desperately in pain this morning. Just, lighthearted longing for her. Sigh..yesterday I decided to clear the slate. I took all of (most) her gifts and put it in a box, even the necklace from our first anniversary, which is very important to me. Im trying to get better this summer. For myself. I need to. Suddenly I see all i did wrong in the relationship and I just want to fix it. But I can't, I can only fix myself. Thats why I brought another journal yesterday. Clean life after graduation, new change. Big change. Im having a little trouble getting started though. I need a little push I guess. What do you guys think would keep me busy, and spur me to keep busy?
Exitleft Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Woke up not desperately in pain this morning. Just, lighthearted longing for her. Sigh..yesterday I decided to clear the slate. I took all of (most) her gifts and put it in a box, even the necklace from our first anniversary, which is very important to me. Im trying to get better this summer. For myself. I need to. Suddenly I see all i did wrong in the relationship and I just want to fix it. But I can't, I can only fix myself. Thats why I brought another journal yesterday. Clean life after graduation, new change. Big change. Im having a little trouble getting started though. I need a little push I guess. What do you guys think would keep me busy, and spur me to keep busy? Good luck flatline, I personally plan to be social. Go out and do things I don't normally. I've been taking quite a few drives to clear my mind. Workout, read some books. Get a boxset of dvds and watch them!! Maybe pick up a new hobby for a while or volunteer somewhere. Giving advice here and interacting with others is great also. Good luck
emmalynro Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 1) Do something for other people: volunteer! It's a wonderful way to get in touch with your community and really gives you some perspective about problems far more serious than your own. It's also a good way to meet new people and just get out of the house for a change. 2) Do something for yourself: go to the gym! Set some new records! It will build your confidence and give you pleasure in an accomplishment that's purely your own. The endorphins are addictive, too. My drug of choice is Olympic weight lifting.
KPChick000 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Im trying to get better this summer. For myself. I need to. Suddenly I see all i did wrong in the relationship and I just want to fix it. But I can't, I can only fix myself. Thats why I brought another journal yesterday. Clean life after graduation, new change. Big change. Im having a little trouble getting started though. I need a little push I guess. What do you guys think would keep me busy, and spur me to keep busy? I know what you mean about only being to fix yourself. That is the hard part- accepting that the relationship didn't work and acknowledging what you could have done differently. I'm struggling with the fact that I can't fix things for my relationship anymore. I know what my friends will say, "you now know what to do in your next relationship." I'm trying to see things in that way. I would suggest getting out of the house. Doing something active like running or biking. Meet up with friends as often as you can (but not talk about the ex). Do not look up things on social media.
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