bobwhite007 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Can the warning signs be there and there actually be no affair????
findingnemo Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Do you mean warning signs that your partner is vulnerable to an A or warning signs there is an A and you fail to find proof?
Author bobwhite007 Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 Do you mean warning signd that your partner is vulnerable to an A or warning signs there is an A and you fail to find proof? All the signs are there.can't find proof.she started leaving the phone where I could easily access it.she called the guy a dork and did a complete turn around in the br. I know she is vulnerable and its my fault. The attention I haven't gotten in a loooong time was nice but I still woke up this morning and the "feeling" isn't gone.
Bryanp Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Maybe you should have a discussion with her and let her know that any cheating will be a deal-breaker and the end of the marriage.
BetrayedH Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 She likely just stopped using that phone. She may have a prepaid phone. I recommend a voice activated recorder under her steering column or driver's seat. They always call each other first thing on the way to work and again on the way home. I caught my wife via a GPS I placed on the car. Caught her at a hotel from 10pm to midnight on the first download. Keep investigating but do it quietly. Confronting just gives up information.
Author bobwhite007 Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 Maybe you should have a discussion with her and let her know that any cheating will be a deal-breaker and the end of the marriage. She knows that and we had a discussion. It all came back around to me which is what I was trying to do. Its my imagination and he is a dork. The var is somthing I will be looking into.
aliveagain Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Try a VAR(voice activated recorder)attached under her car seat attached with Velcro tape. Cheaters often hide a second phone and have many of their conversations with their affair partners in the privacy of their car. You can buy one at RadioShack/ BestBuy for around $50.00, don't get the one that beeps when it activates. They can also be attached to bedposts or bed frames. GPS on her phone or car will help you with her whereabouts, but if she is on to you she can leave her car at a business and go with affair partner in his vehicle. Trust your gut. Check her undergarments, they will usually hide them at the bottom of the laundry. 1
Author bobwhite007 Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 Check her undergarments??seriously???????? I just dont know what to do.Try a VAR(voice activated recorder)attached under her car seat attached with Velcro tape. Cheaters often hide a second phone and have many of their conversations with their affair partners in the privacy of their car. You can buy one at RadioShack/ BestBuy for around $50.00, don't get the one that beeps when it activates. They can also be attached to bedposts or bed frames. GPS on her phone or car will help you with her whereabouts, but if she is on to you she can leave her car at a business and go with affair partner in his vehicle. Trust your gut. Check her iundergarments, they will usually hide them at the bottom of the laundry.
findingnemo Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Check her undergarments??seriously???????? I just dont know what to do. I'm also interested to know about the undergarments! Really? You can tell? Whenever my xH had an A, my subconscious picked up on it. I'm not sure what exactly would trigger this. But I started watching how he dressed. He would ALWAYS come home for dinner, have a shower, dress in track suits (normally would be a nice shirt and pants), spray on cologne and then leave. For me, track suits meant not a regular meeting but a OW one. I guess he thought if he dressed down, I'd suspect nothing. He did it every time. The bagger. Track suits and cologne in the evening = an A in my fM.
Author bobwhite007 Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 Iam not doin too good .cant sleep found out some other atuff today that imo removes all doupt.i tried so hard to push it away but it keeps poppin back up i dont know what im gonna do.Pretty sure the undergarments remark was in reference to semen tests that you can perform if you suspect a WW and you know you haven't been having sex with her. A few people on MB used it 2 confirm their suspicions. -ol' 2long
BeholdtheMan Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 All the signs are there.can't find proof.she started leaving the phone where I could easily access it.she called the guy a dork and did a complete turn around in the br. A "complete turn around" sounds like she's trying to throw you off her trail. Smells like a cover-up. You might want to share facts in a more coherent manner, otherwise it's really hard to give you proper advice.
BetrayedH Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Iam not doin too good .cant sleep found out some other atuff today that imo removes all doupt.i tried so hard to push it away but it keeps poppin back up i dont know what im gonna do. What happened?
justwondering77 Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 I wouldn't pay any attention to her calling him a dork. My wife called the guy she was messing with an old man (15 years older than her) and all kinds of stuff. She was just covering up. She hid her phone, put a code lock on it. Changed her Facebook password etc. If you gut is telling you there is something going on then I would listen. Her actions are just trying to make you stop suspecting what's going on. Sorry man. 1
Chi townD Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Well, experiment concluded. I guess warning signs ARE an indicator to an affair. Dude, first your gut is telling you something was off even before you started to look around; always go with your gut. What happened?
Author bobwhite007 Posted June 1, 2013 Author Posted June 1, 2013 Well, experiment concluded. I guess warning signs ARE an indicator to an affair. Dude, first your gut is telling you something was off even before you started to look around; always go with your gut. What happened? All I can say is if it gets to the point you hafta start sniffin panties hire a professional. I blew the whole investigation.
Author bobwhite007 Posted June 2, 2013 Author Posted June 2, 2013 Why do you keep posting random, ambiguous posts in this thread that don't answer any of the questions people keep asking you, and are just designed to make people ask you to elaborate on yet another confusing post? It's really hard to give ANY advice when all your posts are 2 sentences long and just put more confusion into the mix. I'm sorry. I'm not a troll iam real ans and this is all very real. I've been taking and using advice from here and tried some of the tips.they work. Someone tell me more about the app handcent please.how does it work.can it be incognito? If she read this thread I think she would know who were talking about.that's why I'm so vauge
Author bobwhite007 Posted June 2, 2013 Author Posted June 2, 2013 I'm sorry. I'm not a troll iam real ans and this is all very real. I've been taking and using advice from here and tried some of the tips.they work. Someone tell me more about the app handcent please.how does it work.can it be incognito? If she read this thread I think she would know who were talking about.that's why I'm s o vauge Ok here it is...the same number kept showing up 30 time last month 36 the previous. The guy owns a plumbig co.Wife is a estimator for a contsruction co.when I show her the phone b she looks at me like I'm stuupid and walks over to her laptop and pulls up her bid calander.every text to him was on bid day around bid time. All the warning signs were there, no doupt. they were there cause i let them get there.my fault.she has always been a fixer od everything for everyone.she is a great woman.She has this huys phone number in her phone cause i gave it ro him several years back.he asked me for something i said call her.she has dealt with guy for over 20 years in this capacity she has helpes him make a pile of money.they are friends i would say.he lives in another state and I have made a fool of myself with my wife.the good thing is that she has opened up and we have talked eztensivily.we are true soul mates together till death do we part.my inner being was reduced to thoughts of suicide if she had cheated, seriously. I am feelingsmuch better now.she has admitted that she has takin our relationship for granted and yes she can see how all this led to that conclusion.we have both grown from this and we are getting better.without a ton of Prayers from me and two close friends therea no tellin where it could have ended up.seek the Lords guidance before jumping to conclusions.yea the signs can be there and nothing happining. I will be paying cloaser atten to her now and I am taking her for a new outfit as soon as I get outta here. We have been married aince 1981 btw.
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