wd Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 Well I got my heads up in 2001 when one day before work she informed me she didn't like my attitude and that if it didn't change she was going to see an attorney and get me out ! This from a woman who constantly whines and complains about every little thing in front of her, NEVER initiates sex, expects things her way only. I do the cooking, cleaning, bills, child care, and hold 3 part time jobs. All she had to do was go to work for 8 hours a day. I got smart quick, I was in my attorneys office that day! My wife and I had switched roles a year before and I was now a stay at home dad with part-time income so I needed to find out what could and could not happen. Well the bottom line is I would most likely get custody of my child, she would have to pay alimony and child support to me. Talk about feeling relief. That was in 2001 and since then everything I do is with one thing in mind ... PROTECT MYSELF and prepare for the day she either serves me with papers or my son turns 18. I have a written plan as to what I will take from the house ( the mortage is no longer in my name ) to contacts I need to call. I have clear title to 2 of the cars in MY NAME only and secret bank accounts that I have opened. I settled a lawsuit recently and for all she knows most of the money went to the lawyer fees. Sure it did. I took my son on a very much needed and enjoyable vacation this summer....just the two of us. Three weeks with no nagging, whining wife. HEAVEN !! I 've been married 22 years and only 2 more to go ! Anyway, thats how I'm dealing with it. Thanks for letting me vent.
ready2moveon26 Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 I am a little confused by what you have written. Are the two of you still living together? How happy can you be living a lie? Are you only waiting two more years to get more money? I agree that you should protect yourself and your son, but what about her? Do you still have feelings for her, and if so is it just because you have a child together?
wd Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 yes I am still married to her and no its not about money. Its about providing a home for my son and she does have a right to be in his life. But after he's out of the house I see no reason for my being here. I don't feel i'm living a lie in that I do not tell her I love her, or try to give a false impression that I care about her. I have my own friends, and interest and she has hers and I don't discuss things other than what I want her to be aware of. When we are together we don't share any deep emotional intimacy that a normal couple would. A crappy existence for sure, but its not forever.
sjs61 Posted October 13, 2004 Posted October 13, 2004 What made this marriage go to the dumps? Was it her nagging or being "Mrs Know it all?" Reason I ask is cause my husband left me cause he feels that I want it my way all the time but I don't. I just the kind of person who had her set ways meaning there's more to this story but I been a single parent for nearly 18 yrs and I'm below poverty so I guess it grew on me to have such an attitude. You sound like me. I hide money from my husband. I changed bank accts numerous times. I keep tight on the money so this way I'll never be broke but currently we're filing bankruptcy. Anyways, my concern was how can you do this to your kids? You know this will rub off on them when they get involved with romance. I been married only 3 yrs but know my husband nearly 13 yrs and now we're separated for many reasons one being domestic volience. He claims he left due to the car..long story but I just was curious about your situation. I wonder if there was something more to why he left so unexpectedly...
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