How I Said Goodbye

May 27, 2013

The last conversation I ever had with my ex:

Look, I am looking for advice as to how I handled the situation.

Do you think I left no HINT that I NEVER want to be his friend?

I am not pining away for him; I literally had my last convo with him a few days ago, with the hope that we will never talk again in our lives.

It is deadly serious, saying goodbye forever. I just need to vent about such a huge event.

What was your last time like before YOU went NC?

It feels identical to a death, insofar as the range of emotions I felt.

HELP and support please.

He agreed and respected my wishes; for him to never contact me again, unless he desperately wanted to be with me; he knows anything besides being together again will only kill me.

He accepted that I need to act like he is dead. I literally told him that.

I said " I have to act like you never existed, or get back together with you. We are obviously going to have to do the former"

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Our last convo.

Stupid Ex: Leigh 87, I will always maintain that I am truly in love with you, yet we have both done stupid things. Me with the hooker and etc, and you with your drama"

" The love was there Leigh 87 but sometimes love is not enough to save a broken relationship"

Leigh 87: Okay stupid ex, can you please never contact me again? I loved you ENOUGH to work through things; I have gotten help. I Can see how I need to change"

" You say you want to be with me badly and you miss me like hell, yet your letting me go"

" you realise that this means that I never want to talk to you again"

"anything less than a loving and committed relationship from you that is headed towards marriage, and I would rather NEVER talk to you again. In my life. The pain of never talking or seeing you again is FAR better than keeping in contact with a man I am in love with, that does not want to be with me"

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Stupid ex: " I want to text you once a week to check up on you"

Leigh 87: NO FCK OFF lol I NEVER want to hear from you again. Unless you made a mistake and feel the desperate need to tell me"

" if you care about me, stupid ex, you will never contact me again, cos I really cannot HANDLE whatever you have to say to me. Seriously. I cannot handle a man I am in love with ever talking to me again unless he wants to be WITH me"

Stupid ex: Okay I care so much about you and never want to hurt you again, I will agree to your conditions"

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That was the last thing I will ever say to him

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I wanted people on here to know the situation I have been dealing with.

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Can anyone relate? How did you feel as NC passed?

Did it literally feel as though someone close to you had died?

It feels worse than when someone close to me died, because they are still THERE and the notion of the with other people made it way worse than the death of a close person to me.

Although I push him out of my mind now and think about other things (hot guys, funny ****e, etc)

I needed to write this down. It felt so final, our last convo. It was the hardest conversation I have ever had.

I thought I was okay. Turns out, mourning is a tough thing to go through:(

May 27, 2013

I told all my friends about my goal of No Contact.

They know how deadly serious it is.

They know that I am never supposed to mention it to them again.

I sort of need to vent here though one last time. I am mourning something strange; a person that is not dead.

Which is harder than if they did die. Sick, isn't it?

My friends will keep me in check if I feel weak.

Strangely; none of the people in real life that I know even knew what No Contact was!

May 27, 2013

Leigh, I know exactly what you mean. I would have been better off if I had never talked to her again but I tortured the hell out of myself by meeting her for coffee once a month. You are doing exactly what you need to do. Treat him like he is dead because a truly great love will feel that way. I know thats how I felt most of the time. After our monthly meetings I would go back to nc and feel like she died all over again. Be strong. And I wish you well.

May 27, 2013

Once it hit me that it is forever, it felt worse than when a person close to me DIED.

I mean. This is full on.

it REALLY felt worse than a person close to me dying.

It took me a while to realise that I truly would need to cut him out, and act like he was dead OR: stay stuck on him for MONTHS.

I never had real hopes. I just knew it was over for good from the start; too much had happened between us.

It hit me hard, like an actual DEATH though, when it really hit me that I can never talk to this man again.

It will be easier if we never talked again, than if we stayed in contact.

...Like..... Never talking to him again, as harsh as it seemed at he time, is BETTER than hearing what he has to say; and what he does not say (that he wants me back).

May 27, 2013

I had never heard of it before LS.

But it really does do the trick.

You are supposed to try to keep your mind off of it too. Find something new and fun to do.

May 27, 2013

It has taken a few days since this convo to fully process things.

I am happy in general, but all of a sudden the finality of it will dawn on me.

It is just a very heavy feeling. I cry.

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I spent mere weeks talking to my ex, with 3 meetings in person.

It was hell not being able to be intimate with him; he did the right thing, and say " Leigh 87, your looking great, I want sex but dude we just broke up and I am traumatized, sex is unhealthy right now"

It was nice at first to be around each other, as we make each other laugh...

We just " get" each other and feel completely at ease unlike we have ever felt before.

....Then I started to feel un desirable and ****te cos he did not want to have sex with me like he did before the break up.

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So GRRR. I handled the texting part at first, just seeing him always ended up sucking. He held my hand, put his arm around me, called me darling as always; it is hard to break an almost 3 year habit!

In the end we spoke less and less, I told him I would cut him off, tried a few times, and in the end I FELT that he accepted the No Contact method.

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In the end I feel better with No Contact than I did with contact. It is only early days though! I can only feel better as NC goes on; while I will lose EVERYTHING if I ever contact him again.

It is really harsh to know that... even ONE text to him, even ONE conversation with him, will only serve hold me back.

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Why did you agree to meet for coffee for a month?

We just naturally.. saw each other initially.. We were too much apart of one another to ... I dunno. Let go the second we parted ways romantically.

May 27, 2013

It feels identical to a death, insofar as the range of emotions I felt.

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Did it literally feel as though someone close to you had died?
It feels worse than when someone close to me died, because they are still THERE and the notion of the with other people made it way worse than the death of a close person to me.
Although I push him out of my mind now and think about other things (hot guys, funny ****e, etc)
I needed to write this down. It felt so final, our last convo. It was the hardest conversation I have ever had.

I thought I was okay. Turns out, mourning is a tough thing to go through:(

Yes, Leigh, mourning is tough and you will get through it.

What I can tell you is that, although you may feel as if it's the same as him dying - it isn't! Death is far, far worse.

I understand what you're saying, and you may be different from me, but death is absolutely final and there is nothing but a big, blank empty space in the world, where that person used to be.

I know this because, when my ex husband left me I was devastated and, yes, I felt as though it was probably worse than if he'd died. I was wrong! He died in January and, even though we had both moved on, the pain was (and sometimes still is) unbearable.

You will go over this Leigh. It doesn't really matter how other people think you handled it as long as you are keeping your head above water. Distract yourself in whatever way you can and be glad that he is still around - even if he's not with you.

May 27, 2013

Yes, Leigh, mourning is tough and you will get through it.

What I can tell you is that, although you may feel as if it's the same as him dying - it isn't! Death is far, far worse.

I understand what you're saying, and you may be different from me, but death is absolutely final and there is nothing but a big, blank empty space in the world, where that person used to be.

I know this because, when my ex husband left me I was devastated and, yes, I felt as though it was probably worse than if he'd died. I was wrong! He died in January and, even though we had both moved on, the pain was (and sometimes still is) unbearable.

You will go over this Leigh. It doesn't really matter how other people think you handled it as long as you are keeping your head above water. Distract yourself in whatever way you can and be glad that he is still around - even if he's not with you.

Wow. That knocked the wind out of me. I had a bad gut feeling....

I suppose I should not say things like that, since I don't know how I would feel if he did die; I am sure I would be in for a surprise.

I am sorry for your loss, I can't imagine what it would feel like.

I thought I could imagine actually, but .... I care about my ex ansd want him to be happy.

At first it is just too unbearable to want them to... be alive and happy with another women.

After a while though, the fact I DO Love him and always will love him in a way (albeit not romantically anymore) will enable me to WANT him to be happy.

May 27, 2013

He said something that stuck me:

" Leigh 87, even though I don't want you with another guy and it sickens me, I do want you to be happy in life, I care so much about you and always will"

It is like.. it sickens us; makes us want to pass out, the thought of us with new people.

Yet we are not meant to be, but it is MUCH BETTER for us both to be alive:o:o:o:confused::confused:

I guess I am mourning something very epic to me, that is still far better than him dying.

I made the mistake of telling him he is as good as dead to me, the day he left me.

It made him cry.

He seldom cries. At all.

I am glad he did not take it the wrong way when we last spoke; he said he understands why I have to pretend that he never existed"

I hope he takes a leaf out of my book and does the same though, as I do not want bread crumbs of confusion and would rather he actually forgot about me for a bit.

May 27, 2013

hi,

i hope that you will be okay after this tough conversation -- and that you will be able to get through the grieving process that is ahead of you with minimal pain.

i don't think your ex believes that he will never hear from you again. he is holding firm with his resolve to move past the relationship, at least for now. he knows how much you want him and he knows how emotional you are. he knows that you were willing to stick with him even after cheating with a hooker. and he knows that your saying that you will never contact him is your way of attempting to get a handle on a situation over which you have no control (his unilateral decision to leave the relationship). my strong advice to you is to never contact him. and beyond that do not respond to any contact from him for a long long time. this will help you to get a bit of your personal power back.

good luck!

Edited May 27, 2013 by inaya42

May 27, 2013

It's impossible to control the other person's reaction to NC (oh, would that we could!) I have employed hard-core uncompromising NC before and the person has still come back. That's because that person was selfish and put their need of contacting me, above my desire to move on and get over things.

So don't expend too much energy worrying about whether Andrew will honour your wishes or not. Sadly, that's an aspect we can't control. What you can control, is making sure that you block all possible avenues of communication between the two of you. That's the absolute best you can do. Control your life, control your actions.

As for the grief, see what I mean? Until you actually employ NC and stick to it, your grief winds up in a holding pattern. Which consequently holds you back. It feels like rubbish, but don't be too worried about that. You've got to hit the bottom, before you can climb out.

As for NC - an analogy, if you'll permit me.

A breakup is like an open wound. It's bloody, it's nasty, it hurts like hell. It makes you feel nauseous when you look at it. You can's sleep, you can't eat, and all you want to do is lie still in the hope that you won't aggravate it and make it worse.

You're pretty worried about it. After all, it's a nasty wound. You think it won't heal. It won't stop hurting. You keep poking it and prodding it, which only makes it worse. It hurts more and more all the time. You ask yourself why it isn't healing.

Eventually, someone tells you to just stop poking and prodding, leave the damn thing alone, and let it heal. So you do. You keep your interfering fingers away from it and...miraculously... you notice things are getting a little better. You can't pinpoint exactly when it happened, but you notice at some point, that this day, was a little easier than yesterday. And the day after, it was a little better still.

Ah! But welcome to the hardest part of NC. The wound is looking good. The skin has started to knit together. It no longer oozes. You can sleep, you're not feeling nauseous anymore, you're even back to doing some of your old activities. But then... the wound starts to itch. It starts to itch bad. All day, and all night. It's going to drive you crazy. Suddenly, you're back to not sleeping again. The itching occupies all your thoughts. You're not feeling as crook as you did, but you're not feeling great, either.

But you know what they say - don't scratch. If you scratch it, you'll knock the top right off. It'll bleed again. And if you pick and dig at it, you'll just make the forthcoming scar a little worse.... so you don't scratch. You fight the urge, you distract yourself, you let it keep healing. Because the itching, it'll stop, much like the pain did.

Ok, so I've gotten all story-teller on you, but hey... whatever. But it's true! This is what NC is like - IF you trust the process. If you crack after 3 days, it won't work. It's just prodding that wound over and over again, making a deeper, uglier scar.

It's fine to care about people. It's fine to care about what will happen to them. But we have to remember, we're actually the best possible people when we care for ourselves first. We're in no position to help others, until we make sure that WE are ok. Leigh, right now, you are not ok. And neither is Andrew. You both need a serious break from one another. Only once you've done that, can you properly assess your feelings for him, and your feelings about yourself. Right now, your thoughts are word salad. Pretty common after a breakup. But for now, whatever he does, don't worry about it. It's not your life, it's not your problem, and neither of you need to justify what lengths it takes to heal. If it entails hooking up, go for it. If it entails journaling and ice cream, go nuts. But let him do what he has to do, and you take care of you. ONLY you.

Edited May 27, 2013 by metal_chick
i am a grammar nazi!

May 27, 2013

Wow. That knocked the wind out of me. I had a bad gut feeling....

I suppose I should not say things like that, since I don't know how I would feel if he did die; I am sure I would be in for a surprise.

I am sorry for your loss, I can't imagine what it would feel like.

I thought I could imagine actually, but .... I care about my ex ansd want him to be happy.

At first it is just too unbearable to want them to... be alive and happy with another women.

After a while though, the fact I DO Love him and always will love him in a way (albeit not romantically anymore) will enable me to WANT him to be happy.

Thanks Leigh, I hope you don't ever know what it feels like.

I just thought a little perspective might help you to accept things as they are. If you care about him as much as you say, then you willwant him to be happy with someone else. Just as you, too, will find happiness with a new partner in time.

May 27, 2013

When my 18 year r/ship ended it felt a like a death, with the added extra of feeling rejected, abandoned, feeling unloveable, and with self esteem through the floor, single again at 43, great, lost my soul mate, the person I was growing old with, then having to cut ties as it was more painful to see him with an old friend of mine than it was to stop contact at that point.

So yes after a long term r/ship it feels like a death, I looked for supportive sites for r/ship break ups but there isn't any, they all cater for people whose partner died, which made me feel very alone, but I grieved just the same as if it were a death, and went into a deep depression, never fully got over it.

NC was tough, but it was a necessity.

May 27, 2013

Leigh; you're absolutely right. Saying goodbye, all while knowing it's the last time that you'll ever talk to that person is very serious.

I was just 'let go' three weeks ago after a short 4 month relationship and I've been full NC since. It was a case of 'everything seemed fine, but wasn't'. The break up conversation was actually not that bad. She called up sobbing and crying and just talked about everything she had been feeling lately. The whole conversation lasted about an hour. She admitted that she felt a strong emotional connection to me, was still attracted to me, was going to miss me, only wanted to date just me, but still felt it wasn't working. (How's that for a head-scratcher)

I had learned about NC from my first relationship a few years prior. In that one, I did all the bad stuff for about 2 weeks after. I hated that I felt like crap, felt pathetic, and just finally gave up. A few weeks later I found this site, learned about NC and started on my new journey. And always promised myself that the next one would be different.

With this last one... well, she was amazing. An absolutely lovely woman, somewhat inexperienced, but someone who was always very genuine. In the middle of the conversation, I had prepared myself. I let her speak, cry and get everything out. I snuck in a few light jokes to make her stop sobbing and chuckle (our humor was 100% matched)... And then I tried one time to work it out, speak my thoughts. I knew it wouldn't change anything, but I wanted it on record. I ended it by simply saying that I wished her all the best, no hard feelings said a final 'good bye' and then hung up.

Inside I was a wreck. Outside, I was the positive, upbeat guy she always knew. I wanted that to be her last impression of me.

And it's rough knowing those are the last words you'll say to each other. I mean, you never know if you're paths will cross again, if she'll ever reach out or not, but you can't plan for that.

May 27, 2013

The worst part is knowing that we both know that the other person is NOT okay.

And .....we cannot do a thing about it.

He finally gets it, though.

At first, he's like ''hell no, Leigh 87, I need to have you in my life!! What the hell is with the NC bullcrapp... ?!?! Your the closest person to me IN MY LIFE''

It feels unnatural to just STOP interacting with the only person in life who you have EVER felt 100 % comfortable around.

He is very much in the same boat.

We both desperately want to talk. It's palpable. ...we can sense very strongly that our other half wants to re unite.

We are both missing a big part of ourselves.

One nice thing out of this haunting experience is: we both take GREAT comfort in the fact, that we both felt SUCH an overwhelming sense of love and comfort. Just from being in love.

To know that feeling existed with another person, and more remarkably; we are letting it go and have faith that we will feel that great sense of being loved AGAIN one day.... is something.

Edited May 27, 2013 by Leigh 87

May 27, 2013

Leigh; you're absolutely right. Saying goodbye, all while knowing it's the last time that you'll ever talk to that person is very serious.

I was just 'let go' three weeks ago after a short 4 month relationship and I've been full NC since. It was a case of 'everything seemed fine, but wasn't'. The break up conversation was actually not that bad. She called up sobbing and crying and just talked about everything she had been feeling lately. The whole conversation lasted about an hour. She admitted that she felt a strong emotional connection to me, was still attracted to me, was going to miss me, only wanted to date just me, but still felt it wasn't working. (How's that for a head-scratcher)

I had learned about NC from my first relationship a few years prior. In that one, I did all the bad stuff for about 2 weeks after. I hated that I felt like crap, felt pathetic, and just finally gave up. A few weeks later I found this site, learned about NC and started on my new journey. And always promised myself that the next one would be different.

With this last one... well, she was amazing. An absolutely lovely woman, somewhat inexperienced, but someone who was always very genuine. In the middle of the conversation, I had prepared myself. I let her speak, cry and get everything out. I snuck in a few light jokes to make her stop sobbing and chuckle (our humor was 100% matched)... And then I tried one time to work it out, speak my thoughts. I knew it wouldn't change anything, but I wanted it on record. I ended it by simply saying that I wished her all the best, no hard feelings said a final 'good bye' and then hung up.

Inside I was a wreck. Outside, I was the positive, upbeat guy she always knew. I wanted that to be her last impression of me.

And it's rough knowing those are the last words you'll say to each other. I mean, you never know if you're paths will cross again, if she'll ever reach out or not, but you can't plan for that.

That sounds painful.

Lol we both thought very highly of each other too, although we didn't even like each other initially.

I thought he was a bit of a loser lol. And to him, I was a freak.

It was not all infatuation and some fairytale beginning.

We just had an unmistakable feeling.... a very odd vibe that we had come across another person that we HAD to ..... know. Never felt that before.

I tried dating others. ...a more suitable dude. Then the hot body builder from my past shows up (I actually just had a dream about hooking up with him!!!!!). In the dream, my ex found out! He was like REALLY!?? You have gone and hooked up with the dude that I was furious about ALREADY (THAT soon after the breakup).

Anyways. I was never physical with others. He kissed a girl at a club a week after we met too. And I senced something was off that night! Yet we never agreed to be exclusive.

In the end, we could not stop wanting to see each other, even though we did NOT think we were suitable for each other.

May 27, 2013

That sounds painful.

Lol we both thought very highly of each other too, although we didn't even like each other initially.

I thought he was a bit of a loser lol. And to him, I was a freak.

It was not all infatuation and some fairytale beginning.

We just had an unmistakable feeling.... a very odd vibe that we had come across another person that we HAD to ..... know. Never felt that before.

I tried dating others. ...a more suitable dude. Then the hot body builder from my past shows up (I actually just had a dream about hooking up with him!!!!!). In the dream, my ex found out! He was like REALLY!?? You have gone and hooked up with the dude that I was furious about ALREADY (THAT soon after the breakup).

Anyways. I was never physical with others. He kissed a girl at a club a week after we met too. And I senced something was off that night! Yet we never agreed to be exclusive.

In the end, we could not stop wanting to see each other, even though we did NOT think we were suitable for each other.

It seems like it was only you that felt this 'vibe', and maybe you're just hoping he felt it too.

Seriously, if he felt it he wouldn't have kissed that girl. A week after meeting you too? In that stage you normally can't even think of anyone else because you're on such a high with beeing smitten....

If he loved you that much he would have wanted to work things out, but he didn't, he left. Like my ex did, like all ex's do

Just stay NC now. If you get the urge then come on here. Good luck.

Edited May 27, 2013 by LostGirl11

May 27, 2013

It seems like it was only you that felt this 'vibe', and maybe you're just hoping he felt it too.

Seriously, if he felt it he wouldn't have kissed that girl. A week after meeting you too? In that stage you normally can't even think of anyone else because you're on such a high with beeing smitten....

If he loved you that much he would have wanted to work things out, but he didn't, he left. Like my ex did, like all ex's do

No. Not all people are smitten right away.

And we both felt the vibe. Sorry, but you really don't know what you're talking about.

He met like twice before that kiss at a club. It's not the norm for all men to meet a girl, and decide they want to be exclusive and ignore all other girls at a club within a mere week of meeting someone.

Sorry you're bitter. But my ex actually loved me. Not all exes left us due to not loving us.

We had a lovely story and very loving relationship.

If your ex really didn't give much of a crapp about you, then frankly; it ain't my problem. You don't need to make out that you know that my own relationship was one sided.

Plus I read his diary and I know for a fact that he felt the same way about me lol.

In the diary, he said he kissed some girl at a club. .. but he literally ran away from her after the kiss because he had just met me. He didn't want to risk losing me. He said in the journal that he had no idea why he felt that strongly for a strange girl that he had only just recently met.

It was wrong of me to read his diary thing........ it was on his computer. He has no idea that I have read it.

Wrong wrong wrong of me I know:(

May 27, 2013

Lost girl- it sucks that your ex left you. But please, there is no need to go and tell other posters on here how their exes sucked too.

Not all dudes leave us cos' they lacked strong feelings for us.

Some guys leave girls that they were in love with due to the a actual relationship not working.

He didn't love me enough to work things out, but we still had a MUTUALLY loving relationship. It was not just coming from me.....

In his journal, he also wrote: '' When I was in hospital overseas, without Leigh 87, and I felt gravely ill... she was all I thought about. She is all I think about when I want to get through hard times... be it a long day at work or a near death experience''.

Look, it sucks when a guy doesn't love us enough to stay... but please, it does not always mean that the relationship was one sided. They often love us equally, yet for THEM love aintt enough (to overcome problems).

I didn't have a mean ex. He was just a jerk occasionally! As was I.

May 27, 2013

No. Not all people are smitten right away.

And we both felt the vibe. Sorry, but you really don't know what you're talking about.

He met like twice before that kiss at a club. It's not the norm for all men to meet a girl, and decide they want to be exclusive and ignore all other girls at a club within a mere week of meeting someone.

Sorry you're bitter. But my ex actually loved me. Not all exes left us due to not loving us.

We had a lovely story and very loving relationship.

If your ex really didn't give much of a crapp about you, then frankly; it ain't my problem. You don't need to make out that you know that my own relationship was one sided.

Plus I read his diary and I know for a fact that he felt the same way about me lol.

In the diary, he said he kissed some girl at a club. .. but he literally ran away from her after the kiss because he had just met me. He didn't want to risk losing me. He said in the journal that he had no idea why he felt that strongly for a strange girl that he had only just recently met.

It was wrong of me to read his diary thing........ it was on his computer. He has no idea that I have read it.

Wrong wrong wrong of me I know:(

I'm not attacking you Leigh. And I'm not bitter. You just keep banging on about how perfect your relationship was, yet he left?

May 27, 2013

I never said our relationship was perfect.

But we did feel a special feeling from the second we first spoke.

There is really no need of you to say that it was all in MY Head, that he felt something "strange" when we first spoke.

The relationship was not perfect, but that has nothing to do with how he FELT about me.

You do not seem to comprehend that some relationships do not work, yet both people involved DID truly love each other a lot.

It is just plain rude of you to make such comments, suggesting that HEY he got with another girl with a week, therefore he must not have been very into you.

THAT is rude - umm hello, he had a almost 3 year relationship with me, and told me how crazy he was about me every day.

It is just ignorant of you to suggest that a single action he did in the early stages, kissing a girl a week after meeting me, a stranger to him, signals they he must not have felt anything special towards me.

How would you know that all men who are really into a girl automatically stop kissing other girls the first week they meet a girl, who they actually think is relatively strange (as he thought I was)

There IS no set way that all men act like when they are into a girl. Heck. I know guys who have hooked up after meeting their future wives! Because they barley knew them initially; had never met them before, therefore it was not a GIVEN that they would refrain from all other sexual activities just cos' they met a women they had a good feeling' about.

Not all men are like that.

Lost Girl - you need to stop making assumptions about other relationships, and telling strangers like myself rude things, such as how our exes must not have really been all that into us.

It is rude. Do you understand how you were rude to assume me ex just did not feel the same way about me initially?

It paints you as bitter, cos' it seems like you have had a bad experience with your ex, and therefore project it onto others and assume that other peoples exes must not have loved them either.

It is good to see your not bitter though.

May 27, 2013

I never said our relationship was perfect.

But we did feel a special feeling from the second we first spoke.

There is really no need of you to say that it was all in MY Head, that he felt something "strange" when we first spoke.

The relationship was not perfect, but that has nothing to do with how he FELT about me.

You do not seem to comprehend that some relationships do not work, yet both people involved DID truly love each other a lot.

It is just plain rude of you to make such comments, suggesting that HEY he got with another girl with a week, therefore he must not have been very into you.

THAT is rude - umm hello, he had a almost 3 year relationship with me, and told me how crazy he was about me every day.

It is just ignorant of you to suggest that a single action he did in the early stages, kissing a girl a week after meeting me, a stranger to him, signals they he must not have felt anything special towards me.

How would you know that all men who are really into a girl automatically stop kissing other girls the first week they meet a girl, who they actually think is relatively strange (as he thought I was)

There IS no set way that all men act like when they are into a girl. Heck. I know guys who have hooked up after meeting their future wives! Because they barley knew them initially; had never met them before, therefore it was not a GIVEN that they would refrain from all other sexual activities just cos' they met a women they had a good feeling' about.

Not all men are like that.

Lost Girl - you need to stop making assumptions about other relationships, and telling strangers like myself rude things, such as how our exes must not have really been all that into us.

It is rude. Do you understand how you were rude to assume me ex just did not feel the same way about me initially?

It paints you as bitter, cos' it seems like you have had a bad experience with your ex, and therefore project it onto others and assume that other peoples exes must not have loved them either.

It is good to see your not bitter though.

Jesus. You need to calm down. You seem like a very angry woman.

Telling strangers rude things on here? Ok lol.

You have argued with people on every one of your threads. Jeez. Me thinks you're the bitter one.

Your pretty horrible actually, telling posters they're sick and heartless, ect, when all they're doing is trying to help?

I'm done. You're far to angry to even talk to. Stinking attitude.

Good luck.

May 27, 2013

Yes, some r/ships break up despite there being love there still on both sides, love doesn't conquer all sadly.

And very true not all break ups are because the two people no longer get on, break ups don't always involve rowing and bitterness.

Hugs to you Leigh xx

May 27, 2013

Jesus. You need to calm down. You seem like a very angry woman.

Telling strangers rude things on here? Ok lol.

You have argued with people on every one of your threads. Jeez. Me thinks you're the bitter one.

Your pretty horrible actually, telling posters they're sick and heartless, ect, when all they're doing is trying to help?

I'm done. You're far to angry to even talk to. Stinking attitude.

Good luck.

Honey... I am far from horrible.

What I won't stand for, is when people try to convince me that hey, my ex never really liked me that much; that it was all in my HEAD.

You're the one who said that my ex must not ever loved me.

May 27, 2013

Yes, some r/ships break up despite there being love there still on both sides, love doesn't conquer all sadly.
And very true not all break ups are because the two people no longer get on, break ups don't always involve rowing and bitterness.
Hugs to you Leigh xx

Thanks:)

I'm glad your mature enough to understand that, while we were not the loves of each others lives, he DID still love me dearly.

I am actually alarmed at how several posters on here have been audacious enough to flat out tell me that my ex never loved me; that he was not even that into me; that he did not view the relationship in th3 the same way that I did.

One of the posters even said that it was just a relationship of convenience to him.

It is quiet disgusting actually, how posters that don't know my ex from a bar of soap, want to tell me that I am deluded if I actually believe that my ex cared about me a lot.

......

Luckily for me, I don't have people in my lives who are toxic and draining. I associated with people who care about me and who think highly of me.

The last thing I would do is maintain a relationship with a man who did not show me DAILY how much he adored me.

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