lifeiscrazy10 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 (edited) Hi, I am new here, I am looking for advice on my situation. I was seeing this girl for about 2.5-3 months, a close family member of her's introduced us. our chemistry was pretty good but I put more effort in towards the end. Anyways we had been dating and we had a blow up or two. She got along great with my friends but when we met up with her friend she acted(her friend) like a bitch so I told her how i felt(girl I was dating). She did not like it. Everything up to this point was fine, we texted and talked regularly. we had a few more dates that went well and then one night I called her after not hearing from her for a few days, after a date, and I asked her what was up? she basically said she did not want to see me any more because she did not see it turning into love. I said ok. A few weeks went by and I called her, no answer, she called back and we met up over that weekend, she was excited, so was I. we had a great time she initiated making out with me and I could see she wanted to come over but I said I was busy, which I was. Anyways, After that date I have been the one texting her and initiating contact and its starting to turn me off, its been a week or 2, but I like her still, whats going on? this has been bothering me , any help would be great, should I contact her a last time or just leave it? my last few messages havent been to hang out but to see how she is doing, any help is great! Edited May 27, 2013 by lifeiscrazy10
Author lifeiscrazy10 Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 Nobody? I am just trying to figure out if I should contact her 1 last time or just leave it....we are both mid to late 20s
metal_chick Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Nobody? I am just trying to figure out if I should contact her 1 last time or just leave it....we are both mid to late 20s She's not keen, otherwise she'd be texting you back. Move on.
aisuru Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 This is gonna hurt but give her space. She will need it to make her decision on how to proceed with you. Likely she is not interested any longer. I'm sorry.
Author lifeiscrazy10 Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 she has been texting me back every time I contact her but it takes longer and longer each time to reply.....
metal_chick Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 she has been texting me back every time I contact her but it takes longer and longer each time to reply..... Yep. She's not interested. She's just having trouble saying it. She's hoping that you'll get the hint without her having to say it. Humans are masters at avoiding the uncomfortable conversations. She's not interested, don't waste any more time.
aisuru Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Time for you to stop initiating contact. See what happens then. I'm sorry.
Author lifeiscrazy10 Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 Thanks? guess the truth hurts, even though you know it the whole time.....
metal_chick Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Thanks? guess the truth hurts, even though you know it the whole time..... It's not about hurting you. It's a very common situation you're in. If someone is keen on you, they're texting you. They're staying up late to text you. They're initiating texts. She's letting the gap go longer and longer because saying "I'm not interested" is super awkward and we'd rather just avoid the awkwardness altogether. The quicker you get the right advice, the quicker you can make an action plan. aisuru is right - don't contact her see what happens. We humans are SO predictable. 1
Author lifeiscrazy10 Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 What I dont understand is that this girl stayed over all the time before then just went crazy, anybody else?
Author lifeiscrazy10 Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 Well, I broke nc after we went out two Weeks ago and asked if she wanted to go out, she said I was great but that whatever we had, never came back to her. I believe she is worth fighting for, should I try one last time by calling her and not texting her? I mean, my friends say it sounds like she never wants to hear from me again, I just want to let her know she is worth fighting for.....
Zahara Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Well, I broke nc after we went out two Weeks ago and asked if she wanted to go out, she said I was great but that whatever we had, never came back to her. I believe she is worth fighting for, should I try one last time by calling her and not texting her? I mean, my friends say it sounds like she never wants to hear from me again, I just want to let her know she is worth fighting for..... What will it take for you to understand that when a woman isn't interested in you that way, it means exactly that. There is no fighting for someone when that someone doesn't want to be with you. Leave her alone. It's frustrating and annoying when a man keeps contacting even when he's told no. Plus, it makes you look weak and desperate. Quit it.
Chi townD Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Well, I broke nc after we went out two Weeks ago and asked if she wanted to go out, she said I was great but that whatever we had, never came back to her. I believe she is worth fighting for, should I try one last time by calling her and not texting her? I mean, my friends say it sounds like she never wants to hear from me again, I just want to let her know she is worth fighting for..... Look, here's the deal. She's not interested, but if YOU contact her, then that's fine in her mind. Basically, all she's doing with you is using you. You're filling the void and boosting her ego until someone else she's interested comes along. Once that happens, she'll throw you under the bus in a New York minute. And you can't get mad! "Because, we weren't together! So, you need to get over it!" You're gonna love that one, and I see it coming a mile away. Best that you heal up and move on, dude. 1
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