Armena Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Hello, I have liked the same guy for months. I know he's attracted to me, I can see the way he looks at me, the attraction is mutual. We have kissed a few times, etc.. however, because we work together (or because of any other reasons), he won't date me. Lately I have been resenting the way he's handled things, since he's been acting like nothing happened. I gave it right back, and proceeded on ignoring him for a couple weeks. However, for a few days, he's been initiating conversation, which I reciprocated for the most part. I realized it's not good for me. I rather keep some distance; I like it better that way since I really, overwhelmingly, like this guy. I just go through my day with peace of mind when I don't have to worry about my feelings. I am going to ask for a few minutes after work. If not, I want to simply text him that "I appreciate his friendliness but I'd rather keep some distance". My question is.. is it a good way to state it? I mean let's be clear, if he was interested, it would have happened. I don't want to start any drama, not trying to get the guy interested, just want to distance myself. We're both 39. Thanks
apple OR orange Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 - "because we work together (or because of any other reasons), he won't date me" nice guesswork there - " if he was interested, it would have happened", so hes telepathic then, or maybe hes not interested (see above guesswork to think he really wants you)? - "I appreciate his friendliness but I'd rather keep some distance", because is so obvious based on the first guesswork and it "would have happened" you have decided your not interested is something that wasn't there in the first place? No, i would state it like this "", see what i did there, say nothing!
Author Armena Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 (edited) - "because we work together (or because of any other reasons), he won't date me" nice guesswork there - " if he was interested, it would have happened", so hes telepathic then, or maybe hes not interested (see above guesswork to think he really wants you)? - "I appreciate his friendliness but I'd rather keep some distance", because is so obvious based on the first guesswork and it "would have happened" you have decided your not interested is something that wasn't there in the first place? No, i would state it like this "", see what i did there, say nothing! Well what am I to say? "Hey, I really like you, let's go out!". I mean fudge, I don't think I'm that cryptic, I don't kiss guys randomly. He knows I'm not slutty (if there is such thing). But, Apple, I do appreciate your input.. don't get me wrong. I wish I could "get the guy". Just don't think that's gonna happen and I like my peace of mind. I thought about throwing myself in the water. Who likes rejection though? Edited May 27, 2013 by Armena
Author Armena Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 Fine, fine.. I do appreciate the advice from the "pros". Am I allowed to go back to my "ignore list" mode? Without having any talk. I got that part.
Author Armena Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 I am surprised. This is not the answer I expected. It bothers me some because I had put any idea of dating him in the waste basket. I suppose rejection hasn't killed anybody yet. I'm not sure though. I suppose I can give it a try.
paigej91 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 That sounds like a great thing to say. It protects you from being hurt, and if he IS actually serious about you this time, it'll make him work for it and he'll have to show you he wants to be real.
Author Armena Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 They're right though.. text is a bad idea. I don't know what I was thinking.
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