Roxy125 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 I just found out my current boyfriend of about 6 months had hooked up with one of my best friends about a year ago before we met. According to my friend, they only made out, but part of me questions if she's just saying that to avoid hurting my feelings. She said they had been very drunk and met at a bar at the beach. My other friends who were with her at the time don't even really remember meeting him. My friend just realized after the last time we all hung out and he started talking about the beach that it had been him. From what my friend is saying he probably doesn't remember it happening. He hasn't said anything and doesn't act differently toward her from what I can tell so I think that might be true. I know it's in the past and it was before I met him, but I still feel hurt because it is one of my best friends. Should I bring it up to him? They had never met before thus and it was such a random hookup, so hearing it completely took me aback. I have some insecurity issues from past relationships which isnt helping. I'm just so confused about what to do. It's inevitable that we'll all hang out again because she is one of my best friends - I'm even going to the beach where this happened with him this summer the same time she and my friends are going too so we all planned to hang out. Any help you guys can give is so appreciated. I just feel so irrationally upset with this, and would like any advice on how to handle this.
Fondue Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 What are you exactly afraid of? Or rather, why are you insecure about this? Like you said, it happened way before you two even met. People kiss each other all the time. Be it that it means anything or not. It was mostly just innocent fun (like you said, it was at a bar). I don't really understand why this is an issue. I think you have absolutely nothing to worry about. 1
Deerhunter Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 The past is the past. Leave it there. It was way before you two knew each other. Are you gonna hold this against him? If you can't get over it, break it off. That's not fair to him. Living in the past ruins today and spoils tomorrow.
Deerhunter Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 The past is the past. Leave it there. It was way before you two knew each other. Are you gonna hold this against him? If you can't get over it, break it off. That's not fair to him. Living in the past ruins today and spoils tomorrow. 1
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