Cantwaittosee2012 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Ok so here is my story: I dated a coworker for several months. It started to get really serious hot and heavy to the point that our colleagues started to ask us when was the wedding going to be. Not to long after that point he pulled the I'm not ready card so we "broke up" and because of how our job works we didn't see or speak to each other for two months. Once work started up again things got odd. Immediately coworkers began talking about him still being into me (apparently he talked about at a happy hour i didn't attend) and being perplexed at why we weren't together that it seemed like we were still crazy for each other. We did not start sleeping together again but most everything else felt the same. He wanted me around him during our breaks, gets really upset over other male coworkers being around me, even to the point of asking them to get away from me. He almost always tells me what he's doing at night or over the weekend. If he is on his phone he tells me who it was and why (might I add I do not ask him). He lets me know that he is not involved with anyone. There is a lot of silly staring down the hallway and smiles. It feels like i am his go to person for some very private personal things. He ask me about my life and how I am doing. Hints at wanting to know if I'm involved but never outright ask me. He has yet to ask me out n a date. Unfortunately right now we are having a bit of an argument. There is a particular at guy at work that I'm semi close to and he does not appreciate it at all. It's hard for me to tell if its just jealousy or he really just thinks the guy is a douche. I could say that I have never felt like this for another human being in my entire life. Everything in me screams that he is the one. Here is my dilemma: I'm terrified to tell him this, to even ask him out alone with me. Should I go for it? Will I hear no?
leafguy Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I personally in this situation before even committing to a date with him would be to sit back and question things with him. By the sounds of it, he seems interested, however, based on what you are stating about male coworkers being around you get him mad. That is the thing that stands out in my mind right now and he's not even with you. That sounds like he is very possessive, has trust issues and very jealous. It may not bother you now because you aren't tied down, but if he sees you with a male coworker if you do get together, how is he going to react? It's not like you can avoid them if you work with them. I would tread with caution due to your posted issues. If you like him that much, I say go for it, but lay the ground rules down clearly with regards to jealousy. I can tell you that alot of guys are uncomfortable with females having friends of the opposite sex, as we see them as threats at times, but he is demonstrating this behavior without actually being yours. Follow your heart, but be careful
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