danny8630 Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 My g/f and I have been dating for many months on and off. Im starting to think about what is going to happen in about 6-7 months when the time comes for us to goto school. We had discussed our plans and we were going to goto the same school which was USF(Tampa). She told me a few days ago that the med program at UCF(Orlando) was better and it would help her better. This hurts me alot that even though our relationship is incredible, that we are inevitably going to separate. I guess the thing that gets me is that she was so insistent upon going to USF(she even was accepted in their Honors College) that all of a sudden she changes her mind spontaniously. =(. I'm sure there are people who have gone through a similar situation. Does anyone have any Tips or things that should be though about ? Thanks alot everyone
gersanos Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 Enjoy the time that you guys have together now. It's a very good thing that you guys are discussing what life will be like when you do go to college. Me and my now ex did the same thing when we were talking about law school. We talked about it from every angle, but when school finally started, things just weren't the same between us. Much of that was caused by stress, and the change in our lives and we didn't adapt to it together. Honestly though, I truly believe things will work out for us though. At this stage in the game you are doing the right thing by talking about it. If your gf decides on another school, support her decision. I know that you would love to be together at the same school, but let her decide what is best for her. Support her decision either way. She knows where you stand on the matter. And continue to discuss your relationship and how it'll be once school gets under way, make sure that you're both on the same page about things, and in the meantime, enjoy the time that you guys have. Also, it's natural to swing back and forth on schools. She's looking out for her future, and what will place her in a better position to follow her dream of med school. In reality, your undergrad doesn't matter much for med school. Grades are what matter, and even more importantly, it's your MCAT score that'll determine where you will be accepted. But if she feels thats she'll have an edge at UCF over USF, then that's what she thinks. It's a hard pill to swallow, but she wants to attain her dreams. She knows were you stand. Don't send her on a guilt-trip on how this will affect you. She's aware of that. Just let her make up her own mind on it, and just say that you support her decision, and you want what is best for her.
Author danny8630 Posted October 4, 2004 Author Posted October 4, 2004 Thank you for your lengthy response. I do support her decisions to whatever she does. I know not to guilt trip her because it wouldnt help me and by her not doing what she wants.....it just wouldnt be good. I enjoy all the time we spend together and i love her to death, it is just that creepy thought that in a few months this wont be here. I guess all i need to be told is that theres hope of getting back together in a few years or whatever. I know a lot of people go through this very situation, im one of the new comers.
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