Ex of 10 weeks contacts me every now and then... how to respond (if at all)?

[michaelbluth]

Since my breakup my ex has sent a few emails to me. A few were to return things. A few were kinda pointless. Such as telling me that she hoped I got my things (they were put in a neutral location) and that she would be out of town on certain days so I wouldn't have to see her out (I told her during the breakup that I would be avoiding her in social situations to heal.

 

But a week ago she invited me to a party she is having. Not sure if it was to be nice or what. But the only times I have responded were to reply on where to put my things and not to the others. If she emails me again, what should I do? Ignore that I have been or reply and tell her to stop? What would you do and why?

[CelticGibson]

Unless she tells you that she's had a change of heart and wants to discuss your relationship, any and all communication from her is mere breadcrumbs designed to see if you are cool with the break up. Her inviting you to the party is the ultimate test to see if you are indeed over it and willing to just accept the break up.

 

You have to ask yourself this question: Does any contact from her stir any emotions in me? If you answered yes to this then cut off all contact and go No Contact until such time as you can go to parties and see her with someone else and be totally cool about it.

[michaelbluth]

Yeah, I haven't responded to any of the emails that didn't require a response. I was really pissed when she invited me to a party like everything between us was okay. Honestly, I would like to never see/talk to her again. I am very hurt as she always talked about our future, marriage, etc. Then she bailed. So she can go to 1134 (typed into a calculator and turned upside down).

[aisuru]

Ask her point blank what her intention is in inviting you. I can be a turd sometimes, so I'd have no problem putting my ex on the spot for an action like that.

[noneive]

I would say no contact. Tell her that you are not healed and that unless she wants to get back together, that you need her to stop contacting you. It seems like she's just being manipulative and might feel bad for the break-up or wants to keep you in reserve. If she really wants to get back together, she will ask to see you alone. You will heal so much faster if you don't talk to her or see her! I believe you can only be friends with someone long after you've decided you never want to be with them again. Good luck!