should i remove my religion from OKC

[starla33]

I put that I'm jewish because my family is culturally jewish, but we don't practice at all

 

I don't really care if I date a jewish guy or non....but I've been getting all these jewish guys emailing me assuming i'm super jewish (it says I'm jewish and laughing about it on my profile). Should I just put spiritual or atheist or something?

[MalachiX]

I'd lose it if it seems like it's attracting guys you aren't interested in.

 

The problem with OKC is that there's so much stuff you can fill out but a lot of it ends up limiting you in unrealistic ways.

[Art_Critic]

You put what you are, if you are Jewish then you put Jewish.

Nothing will turn someone off more than if you lie WHEN they find out.

 

If you are a non practicing religion then pick the religion and explain in your profile that you don't practice it.

[starla33]

I'd lose it if it seems like it's attracting guys you aren't interested in.

 

The problem with OKC is that there's so much stuff you can fill out but a lot of it ends up limiting you in unrealistic ways.

 

It's not that I mind them it's just I don't want to cut out the other guys and putting jewish and laughing about it I hope they don't assume I'm super religious or anything because I'm not at all

[starla33]

You put what you are, if you are Jewish then you put Jewish.

Nothing will turn someone off more than if you lie WHEN they find out.

 

If you are a non practicing religion then pick the religion and explain in your profile that you don't practice it.

 

Um so everyone who was raised catholic puts catholic? I highly doubt this. I"m not AT ALL religious. The thing with the jewish religion is it is also a "culture"

 

Not sure how this is lying at all

[Art_Critic]

Um so everyone who was raised catholic puts catholic? I highly doubt this. I"m not AT ALL religious. The thing with the jewish religion is it is also a "culture"

 

Not sure how this is lying at all

 

A lie is lie...What is wrong with telling the truth ?

 

Religion is huge.... think I'm wrong.. then put on your profile that you are an atheist and go find out, 100-1 that a guy will care when he finds out you are Jewish.

 

and yes.. people raised Catholics put they are Catholic..unless they change their religion.

 

Like I said.. you can explain in your profile that you don't practice the religion but were raised Jewish.

[starla33]

A lie is lie...What is wrong with telling the truth ?

 

Religion is huge.... think I'm wrong.. then put on your profile that you are an atheist and go find out, 100-1 that a guy will care when he finds out you are Jewish.

 

and yes.. people raised Catholics put they are Catholic..unless they change their religion.

 

Like I said.. you can explain in your profile that you don't practice the religion but were raised Jewish.

 

no offense but you sound kind of rude about this. I myself am not religious and have never in my life practiced soooo why should i force this down my throat exactly?

 

And no guy has ever given a crap

[Star Gazer]

I was born and raised Catholic and I do *not* put Catholic in my profile. I put "spiritual but not religious," because that's the truth.

 

What you're born and raised is irrelevant if it doesn't match what you are *now*.

[apple OR orange]

If your not worried about being a Jew or not then you dont need to put it down.

 

If this setting on the profile is pulling in people you dont want to date then change it.

[Star Gazer]

When I was on POF, initially I put Jewish, and you would surprised as to the amount of anti-semitic people out there. I am not practicing as well. As evident in my photos you can some of my tattoos. I know shame on me. I will not change it, but thats just my opinion. If my religion is going to turn someone off, then they have bigger issues in the scheme of things.

 

Being Jewish may make you incompatible, or turn people off you, for reasons that have nothing to do with anti-semitism. For example, I don't date Jews, or Christians, or Muslims, etc., because I don't believe in organized religion and don't want my children raised within an organized religion either.

[MalachiX]

A lie is lie...What is wrong with telling the truth ?

 

Yikes. Maybe ease up on calling people liars ok?

 

If she's never practiced the religion herself then it's not a lie not to put it on her profile. This isn't biology. You're not genetically part of any religion.

 

and yes.. people raised Catholics put they are Catholic..unless they change their religion.

 

Ummm...no.

 

You have no control over how you are raised so it's silly to say that someone must identify as a religion that they never chose and had no control over. Whether you convert to something else has nothing to do with it.

 

Seriously, when did this board get so orthodox?

[MalachiX]

It's not that I mind them it's just I don't want to cut out the other guys and putting jewish and laughing about it I hope they don't assume I'm super religious or anything because I'm not at all

 

I don't think it's likely to cut out many guys (save for anti-semites and others you probably wouldn't want to date in the first place). That said, if it's not something that you feel really represents you or is something that's holding you back, then feel free to toss it.

 

I've had a few female friends who have complained after putting "jewish" on their online profiles because it seemed to attracted a lot of people who were just interested in dating a jewish girl who their parents would approve of. I'm not sure if that's true about other religions on OKC but I've heard the most "horror stories" as from the Jewish end.

 

It sounds like you don't really care who you date and you're not religious so I don't see an issue with leaving this off your profile if you think it might be holding you back or attracting the types of guys who are less interested in your personality and more interested in your background.

 

I think faith is something very personal that isn't easily summed up into a few words. I'm an ultra-liberal guy but I was raised Christian (Episcopal) and there are a lot of things about Christianity that I still care about (though I havn't been to church for some time). I don't feel the need to put "Christian" on my profile because I think it doesn't really due justice to my feelings about faith and it tends to come off as more of a "statement" then I want it to.

 

I figure if I get serious with anyone, we'll have a talk about how we feel about religion. I think that's a much better way to explain to someone what you believe rather than typing "X religion and laughing about it."

[Star Gazer]

I totally agree. In my case if I talk to a woman, and I find out we are incompatible, a few have become vindictive and had made comments using the K word. I do agree about the compatibility issue. The anti semitism was utilized in response to rejection. If that makes sense.

 

I don't think I know what the K word is. I suppose it's better that I don't know!

 

For the record, I do date Jews, Christians, etc., that are like me: raised, but not practicing.

[TaraMaiden]

I'm Italian, was christened Catholic, I practice Buddhism, I have Jewish blood and have taken part in Wiccan rituals.

 

If I were on a dating site, for religion, I'd probably be tempted to write 'Minestrone'.

[ffw]

OP, put on your profile which you think is true to you. A person doesn't have to be religious to be spiritual, IME.

 

 

For the record, I do date Jews, Christians, etc., that are like me: raised, but not practicing.

 

 

I completely agree with the above sentence. Our thinking matches on this one . In my opinion, approaching with an open mindness is very important. I think there are wise teachings and dumb teachings in every major religion.

[Star Gazer]

I'm Italian, was christened Catholic, I practice Buddhism, I have Jewish blood and have taken part in Wiccan rituals.

 

If I were on a dating site, for religion, I'd probably be tempted to write 'Minestrone'.

 

 

I was raised Catholic, have some Jewish blood, and often find my beliefs falling somewhere between Buddhism and paganism. Minestrone it is!

[Eternal Sunshine]

I was raised Catholic and I put "agnostic". I go to church occasionally and I find that I feel really at peace there...usually during hard times, although I don't care if it's a Catholic church or not. I would date both, relegious men and atheists as long as they are not too hard core about it.

[mortensorchid]

I think that feature is there just so others who look at the profile "know" something about you, which includes a religious faith like it or not. I've met both ends of the spectrum. If you are devout then you'd naturally want to go out with another who is the same because that's something you have in common. Really, what would a Born Again Christian person be doing with an atheist or vice versa?

 

It can also be a filtering device, like if you don't want to be with someone who is/isn't one faith for online purposes. Real life? THat's touch and go as well. It can play a bigger role in people's lives than you think it does.

 

But if you're non practicing in your faith (whatever that may be), that's really something between you and the other person.

[jcrew11]

I think it depends on what kind of guy you want. For most single jewish men and jewish women, there is a lot of pressure to marry a jewish person - either self-imposed or by their families/communities.

 

It also depends on where you live, if you live in a big city like NYC, then that might change the type of guy you want, or you may want to avoid the deeply religious jewish conservative banker types.

 

I would take the religion off - and talk up the things you are more passionate about - like art/creative/atheism/spiritualism etc.

 

Besides if a Jewish guy is really looking for a jewish girl, he can usually guess if she's jewish based on her picture or just directly ask her about her religion. But then there are also some guys who are devout christians or catholics, so you want to be upfront with them that you are not christian.

[SJC2008]

Starla why don't you come over some time and you can try my "motza balls". Lol I couldn't resist.

 

On a serious note, being Jewish can be classified as a race OR religion as I'm sure you're aware. It's been a while but IIRC OKC doesn't offer Jewish as a race it you are ethnically Jewish. The fact that you have it listed as 'and laughing about it' should tell anybody with common sense that you aren't practicing/serious. If it is hurting your pool my guess it's only minimal and would be due to sterotypes of Jewish women. Change it to non religious or SBNR for a bit and see what happens.

[edgygirl]

I'm Jewish too and when I was on okcupid I initially also wrote in my profile in the what are you looking for section that I was looking for a Jewish guy. Mostly Jewish guys wrote me. After meeting several aholes and getting sick of it, I changed it to "I'm not sure if I necessarily am looking for a Jewish guy as I thought", guys from other religions started writing me.

 

What I mean is most guys DO read profiles as opposed to what most people think. Just state something like: "You don't have to be Jewish" and varied people will write you. That's what Jewish guys who aren't necessarily looking for Jewish girls do.

 

Excuse me but the previous poster who said you can always tell who is Jewish by a picture is absolutely wrong. That's almost an anti Semitic remark and honestly not appreciated.

[ChessPieceFace]

Is there a place where you can fill in nationality? If so, put Jewish there, and blank for religion. That seems like the most accurate based on what you've said.