banksy2020 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I liked this girl and she said all she could offer was frienship, so I deciced to just get her outta sigh and outta mind. I delelted her off of facebook and she like freaked out about it and it really upset her. I kinda feel wtih her reaction like that she was a little more interested than what she says. Well two days ago I had a lapse in strentgh and messaged her kinda late, saying I had a question to ask her. She replied back like right away asking yes? I didnt think she would reply back that fast and I kinda froze and just put I met this guy from jersey, my firend told me to put it because he was from there and we just met ha, but then after that I told her something that happpened earlier in the night and she never messaged back? I mean I oobviously didnt have nething to ask her but she replied back sooo fast kind of like she had been waiting for me to message her and then she just stopped probably because she realized I was drunk but why would she do that? What would my next step be?
Adele0908 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Maybe she replied back fast because she was online and saw your message. If she said all she could offer is friendship, then I would just believe her. If she hits you up later then maybe she might be interested
Author banksy2020 Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 i dont get ur response... she did say she wants just friends and then it was awhile and she replied back? like really fast
salparadise Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 she did say she wants just friends and then it was awhile and she replied back? like really fast Some women will pull this friend crap with the expectation that you'll be forever following them around, pining, sniffing, hoping for another shot at romance. They like to have guys on queue apparently for validation, ego, identity enhancement, and perhaps security in knowing there are several men who would have them right now, if only... while they continue shopping for whatever better deal they think they deserve or might be able to attract. The problem is that it's a one-way deal. You meet their needs in some way at the expense of your pride, and they give you absolutely nothing that you need. In fact, they will keep you stuck in their sphere for as long as you'll act like their puppy dog. They'll say patronizing, condescending stuff that sounds like charity, and they'll think of themselves as charitable, but it all just erodes your sense of self and keeps you stuck. Don't do it. I went through a breakup not so long ago wherein she wanted to end the romantic relationship and continue to be friends. It was painful and initially it seemed like a good thing that we could still talk occasionally. The last time we talked I really got into sensitive stuff (not angry or negative) and I could hear her sobbing on the phone. I told her that we'd talk again, sooner next time, and I meant it at the time. But I realize that while it might be good for her, it keeps me stuck in her sphere. I'm not going to be her puppy dog. So I send her a one-line text message every few months (b-day, mother's day) to say hello and hope she'd doing well, but then I don't engage any further. This keeps me in control, turns the tables in a sense. She wanted to keep the emotional benefits of our connection alive without having to meet any of my needs. My advice is don't hang around hoping for a scrap here and there from a woman who has FZ'd you. Cut'em out and move on to the next.
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