lymon017 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 (edited) My girlfriend of a month broke up with about a week ago and I've been pretty beat up about I since then. Things were going well the first week or so but one issue arose. I don't want to go into too much detail about it because it may be distracting but it involves her parents (more so fathers) acceptance of me. This is a issue because shes big on family and in so I posed a question to her. "If we were to ever actually fall in love one day would you see us having children or getting married?" She reluctantly replied "no". It hurt but I didn't want to accept that so I broke up with her, but not for long though. A few days later we were back together but my problem is that I'm too overprotective of my heart and I just have a huge fear of being heartbroken. So when we continued the relationship I somewhat put my heart in stand by mode which in turn had her seeing somewhat distant. The whole time I was seriously feeling this girl but in the pit of my heart I was telling myself don't fall for her, this isn't going to go anywhere. It came to one point though that she gave me the classic line "I need some time to think." I knew it was pretty much over then. When we actually got to the actual break up conversation and hearing her giving me the speech it was disappointing, but it didn't hurt too much. Then we ended up going over the same issue which we haven't even mentioned since that first week which I mainly avoided bringing up. Amazingly though this girl tells me she would have fought for me "tooth and nail" she said. She definitely would have not let her father get in the way of us. I was just so floored by how different her answers were, maybe it's because shes a gemini I don't know. After we broke up the first time she really didn't want to loose me and I truly did see her trying to be a good girlfriend to me but I didn't want to believe it. Just so cautious about giving my heart to her that I ended up losing hers. I don't want to give up on her though I see too much good potential between us I just want to give it a second chance. I don't want to hear any "you should let her go" because in not going to give up on her that easily. I'm trying to no contact thing right now. I've made no contact so far for four days so far. But I'm sitting here wondering is this month thing too long? We've been together for a month it seems like it should be 2 weeks. I don't know though I just want to know the best course of action to take to attempt to get this girl back for a second chance. Edited May 26, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
aisuru Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 No contact is not to get a boy/girl friend back. It's to help you to move on. Quite frankly, the breakup of a one month dating relationship wouldn't hit on my radar (too much). Count yourself lucky you discovered differences now instead of a year down the road.
Author lymon017 Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 I know its mainly a healing process for myself and I want to get to the point to where I know I can live without her until I try to contact her again. But like I said I at least want to give it one more shot. After I feel like this was given a real chance to work I'll feel irritated. It's like the feeling of eagerly await to hear the lottery numbers on tv then hearing that you lost you shred the ticket in anger. Then you realize that you had simply just misread the numbers and instead of millions of dollars your left with confetti.
aisuru Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I'm not sure a one month relationship ever gets reconciled. In my mind, that really isn't a relationship so much the potential to be a relationship. Accept it didn't work out and move on. You'll be better for it.
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