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I've generally been doing really well but I guess today not so much.

 

I heard she went out with him last night the way we used to. I'm sure he's in her bed this morning too. They've already got pics posted together. I don't know why I can't stop thinking about it... but just two short weeks and he's really forgotten me? It just doesn't make sense to me. How can you spend a year of your life with someone and have a great time and make memories and fall in love and then just *snap* fall out and date someone else and forget me?

 

I don't even know why I care because I don't want him anymore... he turned into a complete douchebag and I shouldn't have even put up with it as long as I did. So why do I keep thinking about this and why am I so mad? I guess I just feel like he threw everything away. That's usually been the reason I can just forget about it and realize I deserve better, but today it's the reason I can't stop thinking.

 

I'm sure it'll pass but :(

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I've generally been doing really well but I guess today not so much.

 

I heard she went out with him last night the way we used to. I'm sure he's in her bed this morning too. They've already got pics posted together. I don't know why I can't stop thinking about it... but just two short weeks and he's really forgotten me? It just doesn't make sense to me. How can you spend a year of your life with someone and have a great time and make memories and fall in love and then just *snap* fall out and date someone else and forget me?

 

I don't even know why I care because I don't want him anymore... he turned into a complete douchebag and I shouldn't have even put up with it as long as I did. So why do I keep thinking about this and why am I so mad? I guess I just feel like he threw everything away. That's usually been the reason I can just forget about it and realize I deserve better, but today it's the reason I can't stop thinking.

 

I'm sure it'll pass but :(

 

 

The difference between him and you, is he has a distraction. This is why it seems so much easier for him to move on. Do I think they will last? Probably not. 9 times out of 10 the relationship right after yours is a rebound. You'll be ok, and you will eventually move in.

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They're already posting pictures of them kissing and ****... he never did that with me. *crushed*

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They're already posting pictures of them kissing and ****... he never did that with me. *crushed*

 

This makes me really sad. I'd actually die if I saw anything like that! Block him from everything. You don't need to be seeing stuff like that.

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They're already posting pictures of them kissing and ****... he never did that with me. *crushed*

 

BLOCK HIM! You don't need to be seeing stuff like that... out of sight out of mind. It will take some time, but eventually you will be able to live your life as though neither of them exist. I think I'm almost to that point myself... maybe another month or so.

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They're already posting pictures of them kissing and ****... he never did that with me. *crushed*

 

Mine never did that with me either. I find that people who have to act that way start out with intense infatuation, and burn out quickly.

 

I've been reading your situation as well and it is helping me to know you are going through something similar to what I am. We are both good worthwhile people. We are better off without them and both of us will realize this fully in time.

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Aww that is sad, my ex started seeing someone right after me as well. I choose to work on my own issues and better myself. I got the satisfaction of having her calling me crying saying how sad she was because her and her bf got into a huge fight. I wouldnt want her back anyways just as your shouldnt with your ex. Block and delete all traces, its hard and it takes time for your mind to forget. Having other people as a distraction is only temporary anyways, the feeling supressed will come back soon enough..

 

Good luck to you, from your profile pic you are pretty and shouldnt have a hard time finding a new guy when you are ready :).

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Time to get off my facebook my dear. It's putting you in a bad place and just isn't worth it. You will drive yourself crazy wondering. Why put yourself through that?

 

Take care of you, put yourself first. What are you doing to keep busy and take care of yourself? You know, besides reading their Facebook. ;)

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I'm not friends with them on FB (infact he blocked me thinking I wouldn't find out) but the profile pic is there and blegh

 

I know I shouldn't look I've just taken a step back today and it really sucks I want to forget it all...

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I start to feel okay again and then I feel worse.

 

I can't even follow his FRIENDS on instagram now. His friend just posted a pic of him and the girl in the car saying "seaside".

 

So now he's also doing things with her that he would never do with me

FML FML FML and I'm sitting home because nobody is around

Why is his friend even posting that god damnit I couldn't feel any worse than I do now :'(

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They're already posting pictures of them kissing and ****... he never did that with me. *crushed*

 

I totally feel you... My ex is doing the same. Why? 'Cause she knows I'm watching. Or at least was... till i stopped caring.

She used to tweet stuff about sex. I'm sure she just made it to make me jealous. Along with the photos of her fat douche boyfriend, or rebound for that matter. He is just trying to show you how "happy" his is right now. False... But it's really none of your business anymore.

 

You don't want him back, so it won't really cost you to ignore him. Very important: stop torturing yourself watching his profiles at social networks. It's hard, but trust me, it's a necessary step for you to move on. Focus on yourself and leave your ex as a good memory, but nothing more.

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I start to feel okay again and then I feel worse.

 

I can't even follow his FRIENDS on instagram now. His friend just posted a pic of him and the girl in the car saying "seaside".

 

So now he's also doing things with her that he would never do with me

FML FML FML and I'm sitting home because nobody is around

Why is his friend even posting that god damnit I couldn't feel any worse than I do now :'(

 

Wooow... lots of similarities. She also posted some photos of her trip to Cancun with this douche. Almost like a honeymoon... imagine how I felt seeing her in a bikini with this fat douche with his fur bikini. We always had a good time, but never really had a trip like that. It really made me feel terrible.

 

Anyway... don't torture yourself watching those photos. It's not worth it. Enjoy what you have and be sure someone much better will come along. Just don't get desperate and start dating the first guy that comes along only because your ex already is dating someone.

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I start to feel okay again and then I feel worse.

 

I can't even follow his FRIENDS on instagram now. His friend just posted a pic of him and the girl in the car saying "seaside".

 

So now he's also doing things with her that he would never do with me

FML FML FML and I'm sitting home because nobody is around

Why is his friend even posting that god damnit I couldn't feel any worse than I do now :'(

 

I know it hurts, but be glad you're rid of the guy. Posting pics that he knows you will see and be hurt by is telling you the person he really is - an immature, insensitive douche bag! Stop looking at the pics because it will only feel like you're stabbing yourself in the heart sweetie. Disappear from that group for a while so you can heal and move on from him.

 

(((Hugs))). I know it hurts. :(

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Who needs water-boarding torture when you've got Facebook? For the life of me I don't know why people torture themselves with that crap!

 

My ex lives (unfortunately) maybe a quarter-half mile from me, know what? I have not driven past her house in a YEAR. Matter of fact, I shop at a different food store, drive a route she does not take, etc....

 

I do not want to see, or know a damned thing! I would never torture myself with social media. Just to painful.

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I wasn't TRYING to torture myself. I blocked him and her from all media at that point, and then his FRIEND posted something (I mean come on who posts pictures on instagram of other people!?) and wound up unfollowing him.

 

Trust me, I don't WANT to see anything.

 

I feel better today though. I keep thinking about him being down the shore with her and though it sucks, it doesn't bother me the way it did yesterday.

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ddlove, I know exactly how you feel. 3 days after the last time I saw my ex she ended up in another guys bed and now theyre dating. It kills me to know she could replace me so quick after our whole year together. I have a lot of anger and hate towards her.

 

I just wish she would feel bad about all the **** she did. Oh well, **** her Im gonna go work on myself and you should too. Forget that *******. If that picture is you then youre gorgeous and you won't have a problem finding another guy that is better.

 

Best of luck in your recovery

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