Jeremyh55 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 hey guys, I have a problem. A few months ago my girlfriend dumped me, and im still not over her. Theres this new girl named holly who loves me but before i get into a relationship with her... i want to forget my ex first. Is that the right thing to do? and How can i move on from an ex? because im finding it difficult
crederer Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I'm having a similar problem. Ex dumped me almost 3 months ago now and I've been on a few dates. I want to be back with my ex and I found myself wishing that I was on a date with her instead. So I thought to myself I'm not ready yet. But I've never been dumped so I don't really know what's normal or not. Part of me thinks for me to fully move on and stop thinking about her all the time is to find someone new. I just don't know man...if you figure anything out let me know.
SadHumiliated Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 hey guys, I have a problem. A few months ago my girlfriend dumped me, and im still not over her. Theres this new girl named holly who loves me but before i get into a relationship with her... i want to forget my ex first. Is that the right thing to do? and How can i move on from an ex? because im finding it difficult If you are not 100% over your ex you will most likely end up hurting this new girl if she wants to have a real relationship. Only time and distance will heal you. I also thought about trying to do rebound relationships but I don't want to do what emotionally was done to me. Total NC with your ex, delete photos, texts etc You need to totally disengage from her memories. I would keep yourself as busy as you can be with activities. You can't strong arm your heart to moving on.
ddlovexx Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I agree that you should try to get over your ex first, but I've also heard time and time again and moving on to someone new helps you get over that ex. My ex got a new gf 4 days after we broke up and I guess he's happy. Me on the other hand...
LostOne1 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I agree that you should try to get over your ex first, but I've also heard time and time again and moving on to someone new helps you get over that ex. My ex got a new gf 4 days after we broke up and I guess he's happy. Me on the other hand... I think time helps.. but I think a new relationship helps when you feel ready. By that I mean you know you've changed and grown a bit. I think people think relationships are easy... but I think later on we learn they are actually a lot of work and hard. But that's probably the great thing about it.
ddlovexx Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Right. I know deep down his old habits will surface in his new relationship, and she's even younger than me so I doubt she will handle him in any kind of understanding way. OP, everyone heals their own way. If you feel okay to start with someone new, go for it. My sister always told me in with the new makes you forget the old.
siankat Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 yeah getting over the old by getting under someone new Seriously though, i don't know how you feel exactly but for me, my perspective changes a bit with each lesson so maybe i look for certain things and not others with the next person and there are plenty of ppl in between and being with them just made me miss that other person more but then, you meet someone who makes you forget all others and makes you realise that you are GLAD that you are not with said ex, as otherwise you would not have met the new girl. However, from what you are saying, it is not Holly Here is what i said once to a guy who i knew liked me alot, and we dated twice. 'I like you, but i like someone else more, and therefore it wouldn't be fair to continue this.' Wish them well, and that should be it. A self respecting person cannot argue with that, and you have ended things without being an ******* and having to list of explanations umming and ahhing. Hope that helps somewhat. If you look for hookups in the meantime, that is cool as long as the ladies know what is on, and what is off, the itinerary
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