Elias18 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 My BU was 3 months ago, it was a very short relationship and I was the dumper. Long story, but trust me I had my reasons and they were legimitate. I loved her very much and did everything for her. Yesterday morning I had a strange feeling, I realised why I dumped her and that these reasons were good reasons. I came to the conclusion that I don't want her back. I was struggling last couple of weeks because sometimes I regret my descision and missed her a lot. It was love, love I haven't felt for over 5 years, but then again the relationship wasn't working. Last week she contacted me trough facebook, asking how I have been. I didn't respond because I felt a emotional rollercauster, I was sad, melancholic and the only thing I wanted was to say I love you. This morning I woke up, and I realise the pain is gone. I really don't miss her at this time and I don't have the urge to contact her ever again. This is so strange because 2 weeks ago I saw her and I my heart was going beserk in my chest and I was very sad afterwards even this week I was sad for the most of the days. I wanted to call her, text her and see her fb page all of the time, I'm glad I sticked to NC. My question, is it possible that I am moving on and I'm accepting my reasons for the BU? That I let go off all of my hope to come back together? I feel great, i feel a little bit indifferent. I hope I will feel this way, I want to move on and not spending 24/7 thinking about her! (sorry for my bad english!)
siankat Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 yes it's the turning point. It happens to me, and usually has something to do with them or me getting in touch (even if the other doesn't respond). It's all pent up, time does it's thing, then one final peek to see...yep, it's really gone It is a good feeling, when, for me, same as you, my reasons were good reasons You are now open and ready for something with someone who won't give you reasons and with whom you want to be with! I am happy for you
Author Elias18 Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 Let's hope so, I'm not even thinking about her with other guys and stuff. Don't have the urge to look at her fb and I don't hope she will contact me and says she loves me. But maybe, when I see her again I will talk different, let's hope not!! Her birthday is over 2 weeks, I think I won't wish her a happy birthday (it wasn't a bad BU) but I think it's for the best!
crederer Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Seems like you're turning a corner. This is the time the ex always seems to come creeping back....
Author Elias18 Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 She contacted me last monday and I didn't respond, so I don't think she will contact me in the near future.
Author Elias18 Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 Hahahaha **** me! I was watching television and there was a song on the background that she always normally would sing to me. But I turned off the television, sometimes I think someone is ****ing me.
youngnlove89 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 She contacted me last monday and I didn't respond, so I don't think she will contact me in the near future. What you are feeling is POWER. She gave you power by contacting you, you ignored her and it over fed your ego. You are "stuffed". Balls in your court. I guarantee you are not over her yet. Just wait. This happens every time. Enjoy the moment while it lasts. Read my thread in my signature "I'll tell you how it ends" It's basically what you go through in a breakup. And PS you are crazy to think that she won't contact you again. She damn will. You ignored her, her mind is probably going crazy right now. She will contact you again.
Author Elias18 Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 This girl has a big ego so I don't think she will ever contact me again and "lose" power. I also saw her a couple of weeks ago with a new guy, so I think she contacted me to say she was doing well and is dating someone blablabla. I want to move on now and I really really think I have made a step this weekend and I'm moving on. There will be some bumps on the road (seeing her again, seeing her with an other guy etc.) But I feel I am more in control of my emotions and that I now strongly believe in the reasons why it wouldn't work out between us. My rational thoughts and emotional thoughts about the relationship are coming to the same level. Rationally I knew when I broke up with her this was for the best, but emotionally I didn't see it that way. So I think this is a huge step in the process.
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