Sweeetie Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 (edited) I'm a 23-year-old single girl. I love to party, but I don't get to go out clubbing that much because I don't have many friends who like it. Last Friday, my friend and I went to a club. My friend's an incredibly gorgeous girl and a lot of my male friends have taken a liking to her when they've met her, but she has a boyfriend. She is also quite shy and her English isn't very strong; she came here from her homeland Cyprus to study. At this club we met a really cool guy, Phil who was speaking to both of us a lot. He spoke to me more than my friend because she wasn't as talkative as me/ couldn't understand the English that well, and I got on really well with him. Phil came with a friend who was also a bit quiet. Phil and I danced together, I liked him and he asked me if I was single. When Phil went to the bathroom I made conversation with his friend because I like meeting new people. His friend also asked me if I have a boyfriend, I said no and I also told him that my friend had a boyfriend since we came together (she was dancing with someone else). During the night my friend and I got separated from the pair, but I spotted Phil dancing with another girl so it seemed to me he was just doing it to everyone as guys do at clubs. When my friend and I were leaving we bumped into Phil's friend in the cloakroom who wasn't feeling that well and he was waiting for Phil. I took his number because I thought we could all go out together again sometime (as I said I don't know that many people who like partying!). I texted him the next day to ask if he felt better after being ill, and a few hours after that I got a text from Phil, he said his friend gave him my number. He said "it was really nice to meet you both" and that he was having a get-together at his place that night and asked me if me and my "Cyprus friend" wanted to go. I had actually made plans to visit my family this weekend and was on the train to see them when he texted, so I said I'd definitely go next time. At around midnight last night I asked him how the get-together went and he still hasn't replied to me. I'm just wondering what people think about this; for one, does it seem like he might be interested in me or my best friend, since he asked me if we "both" wanted to go to his place? I did tell Phil's friend that my friend wasn't single so perhaps he told Phil this? Also does it seem as if Phil is just looking for a hookup since he's not replying to my text? Edited May 26, 2013 by Sweeetie
apple OR orange Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 A few ground rules. a. when your under 30 and any guys do this they "never" (never EVER) want to be your friend (unless hes gay), hes doing it to line you up for "sex" or "relationship" (which at that age will likely be based on sex). b. Either one of these "guy" friends arnt sure who wants to speak with who depending how hot both of you are (Cyprus women are hot generally). c. It wont matter your friend has a boyfriend, the guys will still want sex. With that in mind, they dont want to be friends, they want sex (and will be your friend to keep getting it). AND Guys (if there intelligent) will stay friends with your friends so you get good vibes from your friend that hes a nice guy.
PogoStick Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Coincidentally I lived with 2 Greek Cypriots (you should know that's important!) for 2 years. You shouldn't expect a text at midnight from a guy hosting a party. WTF!? He might think you're friend is hot but that doesn't mean he isn't interested in you. Why don't you just hang out with him and find out?
Author Sweeetie Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 Coincidentally I lived with 2 Greek Cypriots (you should know that's important!) for 2 years. You shouldn't expect a text at midnight from a guy hosting a party. WTF!? He might think you're friend is hot but that doesn't mean he isn't interested in you. Why don't you just hang out with him and find out? Don't worry, I know all about the history of Cyprus, my friend is a Greek Cypriot not Turkish and although the two are as different as day and night I don't see the relevance of that to this thread. The guy didn't text me at midnight; he texted me at around 3pm saying he is hosting a get-together that night. He texted me briefly during the thing and I texted him to ask him how it was at midnight and he didn't reply. It is now 9.30pm here so I'm assuming he is not interested in me (anymore). My question is why would he invite both me and my friend to a get-togetherif he was just interested in me? Is that a normal thing to do, to invite someone you were getting close to at a club plus their friend so that they feel more comfortable coming to a party and only knowing 1 person there?
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 He is either interested in a friend or hookup. If he was really interested in you, he would have suggested a 1-1 date. He is obviously not shy as he already went through the trouble of getting your number.
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