Munkeysuit Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I have been talking to this girl for about 3 months now and she gives off this vibe that she just cannot be trusted. When I first met her, she approached me on Facebook (of all places) and started making conversation with me, immediately letting it be known that she is physically attracted to me. I was newly single for about 6 months at the time and thought that this was just some good luck finally coming my way after a very bad break up that is until I did some looking around on her Facebook page and found out that she was in a relationship at the time. I approached her and asked if she was still in this relationship and if not? what was her current status? and she had never gotten back to me with it an answer, so I just continued to keep everything between us exclusively online only. About maybe a month later, I see that she has followed me on Instagram (yes i know) and her profile there stated that she was single! So of course I elect to talk to her and try to get to know her a little better, because I am very attracted to her and needed to fill in more blanks to further this mutual attraction somewhere closer where we can become friends. To my surprise she gave me her cell phone number and we began talking and texting...only to find out she has another bf (different guy) with whom she lives with!!!!! I began playing it off as "maybe bad timing" or "just my luck" but just recently she has been telling me that she has feelings for me and that she is planning to leave this dude cold! Am I being suckered? am I the next in line for her to get what she wants then leave for another guy she could be talking to? I constantly remind her of how me and my ex had a very bad break up and how fragile my feelings are because of it, and how much harder it is to immediately trust someone or anyone for that matter, but she keeps telling me she has feelings for me and we havent even hung out yet! I know this must sound like a crazy "no brainer" of a post, but I'd really love some feedback if anyone got any. Aloha
Imported Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 You have your own place? She could be one of those girls bouncing from one guy to the next to have a place to stay. Seems to happen in Hawaii a lot. My buddy there still can't bring himself to kick out a girl that is basically a live in FWB that moved in with him after a week of meeting. She was living with some other guy "a friend" before that. Had a co-worker when I use to live there also met a girl that went to Hawaii on vacation, didn't go home and instead stayed there bouncing from one guys (or maybe a friend) place to another. Maybe this girl is just setting up her next place to stay before her welcome is worn out where she is currently. I don't really know, I am just making guesses. I am sure she will be very easy though if that is the case, because she needs to get you hooked, so don't let your guard down. Don't let her move in. Or let her move in and use her. 2
apple OR orange Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 wow, you really want to find every excuse to do what you want.... reading your post it would be identical to the below statement. "wow, they let the bomb off, no, wait, maybe they slipped and hit the launch button, yeah thats it". You already know she was a bad idea, carry out the "bad idea" plan, means delete / erase / never contact again.
mammasita Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 She sounds like an untrustworthy hoe bag.......but as apple stated above.....you're trying to find a needle in a haystack to justify pursuing her.
FitChick Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 There are men and women who are afraid to be alone so even if they have a boyfriend or girlfriend, if they are thinking about leaving, they will start lining someone else up. The one they leave behind seldom sees it coming.
stillafool Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I constantly remind her of how me and my ex had a very bad break up and how fragile my feelings are because of it, and how much harder it is to immediately trust someone or anyone for that matter, but she keeps telling me she has feelings for me and we havent even hung out yet! I know this must sound like a crazy "no brainer" of a post, but I'd really love some feedback if anyone got any. Aloha If you know your feelings are fragile why would you get involved with this type of girl?
apple OR orange Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 If you know your feelings are fragile why would you get involved with this type of girl? This is an interesting statement, i know how i feel, this has resulted to online stuff only, i never meet anyone (ive never dated as have major issues with that). I really do prefer to never know. Trouble is by the time you realise this about yourself you are now extremely damaged by women and conduct on this planet.
Jbum5 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 OP, your third leg is doing all the talking right now. The focus of your post seems to be about attraction and unhealthy rationalization to chase a bad apple. These are both things people encounter while under the influence of lust. You are a lovesick fool driving on a crash course ready to die. Do yourself a favor, let your logic arrest you before you end up paying a hefty price for the damage that will be done.
edelveis Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 my friend please walk away while its still early.i know that she might seem to you interesting,exciting,"crazy" in a good way ,passionate and so many others but please dont invest more on her and start have feeling for her.stop it until its early.from my personal experience i understood that if we think for a woman that is too risky for us dating and that we might end up hurte we should walk away early.hope to hear from you and ur desicion soon!
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