I broke NC grrrrr I can see myself learning from this mistake!

[CelticGibson]

"Keeping ONE medium of contact open in the case in which he needs me is not breaking NC"

 

Yes it is. It's the equivalent of leaving an email address free to accept his message. No Contact is exactly that NO CONTACT AT ALL. Whether it's initiated by you or him, it constitutes breaking NC. Why? Because if he contacts you and you refuse to answer thinking you are maintaining NC, you lose because his action will set you back. Any action that affects you will set you back hence why you must close off ALL avenues until such time as you are completely over him and feeling indifferent to any and all attempts at communication....

 

Also something to keep in mind. So long as there is one channel open, there lies hope. Hope that someday he will call that one channel to want you back...

That is torture, don't do it to yourself.

Edited May 26, 2013 by CelticGibson

[Leigh 87]

Oh-I just enjoy wearing clothes. I love it. It is something that really brings me joy. I like the fact that I'm an individual. I love the notion of being able to wear all my favourite colours. I enjoy wearing clothes that I find pretty. It brings me peace to have clothes that I love too look at.

 

I am highly offended that you assume fashion, something I enjoy FOR ME, somehow has a negative connotation: it really is just a way that I enjoy expressing myself.

[Leigh 87]

And I am annoyed that ppl think I'm not strong enough.

 

I lived through anorexia and I recocalovered. I count calories, I weigh myself every 4 months or less, and I don't ever deny myself what I feel like eating.

 

I had no friends, no life and nothing but my anorexia to be happy about.

 

Now at least I'm physically healthy, I'm studying towards my dream career, I have a lot of friends and I am fit and healthy albeit without over doing it.

 

I was also hit by my dad. Who I now get along with. He is very ill and is actually dying.

 

And I still wake up and love a lot about life.

 

I enjoy simple things like wearing clothes. I love c

Colourful things. I love pretty things.

 

I will be damned if I am going to ruin things for myself by pining over a dude that doesn't want to be with me.

[Leigh 87]

I've come close to dying.

 

Like others who have been through a near death experience, I am seriously happy to be alive.

 

I really enjoy living.

 

I am an eternally positive women.

 

I miss the person who was closest to me, but I am still happy in life.

 

I just have a few things I need to work on with my therapist to ensure that I'll be ready to handle the next serious relationship.

 

And I seriously know that I have everything to lose. If I ever talk to him again.

[Leigh 87]

Fine.

 

I never thought you had to actually block his number.

 

I guess his his best friend will let me know if anything happens.

 

I'll block it today even though I'm super busy.

 

I'll have to call my phone company, the store I got my phone from is really helpful. They would tell me how to block his number without making me feel stupid.

 

I need to live and breath no contact.

 

He would get to me somehow if he truly needed to.

[aisuru]

Leigh, you do realize that your ex and his friend are probably getting a chuckle at you giving the friend your number right?

 

This is not a healthy spot for you. BLOCK HIS NUMBER.

 

My cell phone provider allows me to block numbers for 90 days on their website under my account. I can pay $5 to block 10 numbers forever. I am fairly certain you're not in the US so not sure how it works in other countries.

 

I really really hope you are able to get over this sooner than later.

[Leigh 87]

I have blocked everyone who knows him.

 

His best friend just has MY number. I don't have his.

 

I think his dad actually has my number too!

 

Wow I can't believe I didn't just block him sooner.

 

 

 

 

I'm starting to feel angry towards him now. After the pain he made me go through I have no reason to hold on.

 

I would never have left: I would have stuck by a person I was in love with no matter what.

 

Therefore it feels ..... annoying to bother with all this.

 

I'm not that angry. I just feel it's useless thinking about a person who did not return your love in quiet the same way.

 

I give everything to men I fall in love with..... I don't get into relationships with dudes that I'm bot very in love with or think are worth it.

 

It sucks to give everything to someone who didn't do the same for you.

 

I guess if their in love with you enough, they lose the motivation to stick by you no matter what.

 

He saw me at my worst. With no job, no friends at first, and me sitting around doing nothing. He fell for a ****tt version of me.

 

Hence why I know the best is yet to come.

[aisuru]

I have blocked everyone who knows him.

 

 

 

HOLD. UP.

 

I thought it was so much work to block numbers through you cell provider? Like you had to call them... blah, blah, blah.

 

So you blocked everybody but Andrew???????!!!!!!!!!

 

SMH

 

You think I'm talking out of my ass. Like I haven't been there. Like I'm stupid. Actually, you think that about any of us giving you advice.

 

I give up. I need a drink.

[aisuru]

Pour me one! Vodka. Fresh lime. Thanks

 

I'll pour you two. It's that kind of night.

[Leigh 87]

Leigh, you do realize that your ex and his friend are probably getting a chuckle at you giving the friend your number right?

 

This is not a healthy spot for you. BLOCK HIS NUMBER.

 

My cell phone provider allows me to block numbers for 90 days on their website under my account. I can pay $5 to block 10 numbers forever. I am fairly certain you're not in the US so not sure how it works in other countries.

 

I really really hope you are able to get over this sooner than later.

 

 

 

 

Him and his best friend wouldn't think it funny.

 

Look, Andrew really loved me. We had a serious relationship. His best friend saw me as the closest person to Andrew.

 

His friend agrees that Andrew should be able to reach me if his father dies.

 

I meant too much to Andrew for him to just want to forget in a heartbeat.

 

I find it extremely sick what you said about them laughing at me. His friend is not the type to go telling my ex ''hey your loser ex actually thinks that you still give a crapp about her hahhhaaaaa''

 

Look this was a propper relationship. My ex actually loved me too strongly to simply act as you suggest.

 

I find it rude of you to constantly undermine my relationship. He had issues, but I mean a lo5 to him and he acted like he adored me every day.

 

Not all guys who leave a girl have no love or adoring feelings towards her.

 

Not all men regard their ex as a piece of garbage.

[Leigh 87]

Almost certainly. What an ego boost - "Look at how much she loves me, even after I slept with hookers and told her SHE was the problem in our relationship."

 

The friend probably said "Sure, no problems" and then threw out the piece of paper with the number written on it.

 

Don't bet on his friend actually keeping your number, Leigh.

L

 

 

 

This is disgusting.

 

Look stop alluding that my ex and his mates never believed that Andrew gave a damn about me.

 

They told me that I was the only girl he ever loved.

 

Look sorry but I was not just a piece of trash that he kept around cos he was bored.

 

He was extremely close to me and it was obvious that he was crazy about me.

 

Your NEVER going to convince me that he never loved or cared that much about me!!!

 

Your NEVER going to convince me that his mates looked at me as some girl he used for company.

 

His mates KNEW I meant a lot to him. They would often comment about us getting married.

 

I am the first girl he loved and your behavior towards me is absolutely disgusting.

 

He left. It does not mean him and his mates are laughing about how much Iove him, cos he is so over me already.

 

We are both messed traumatized by the break up.

[aisuru]

Him and his best friend wouldn't think it funny.

 

Look, Andrew really loved me. We had a serious relationship. His best friend saw me as the closest person to Andrew.

 

His friend agrees that Andrew should be able to reach me if his father dies.

 

I meant too much to Andrew for him to just want to forget in a heartbeat.

 

I find it extremely sick what you said about them laughing at me. His friend is not the type to go telling my ex ''hey your loser ex actually thinks that you still give a crapp about her hahhhaaaaa''

 

Look this was a propper relationship. My ex actually loved me too strongly to simply act as you suggest.

 

I find it rude of you to constantly undermine my relationship. He had issues, but I mean a lo5 to him and he acted like he adored me every day.

 

Not all guys who leave a girl have no love or adoring feelings towards her.

 

Not all men regard their ex as a piece of garbage.

 

Leigh, he probably did love you. I have no doubt that he has told you the things you say he's told you.

 

But men are total cads when with other men. It's their macho ego.

 

I know you don't want to hear it, but it's highly likely they are having a chuckle at your expense. I have too many guy friends to not believe otherwise.

 

I want you to keep that in mind.

[Robert]

Thread is closed, it is a shame that some posters take someone's pain and convert it into a way to make fun of someone.