I broke NC grrrrr I can see myself learning from this mistake!

[crazy1234]

There's no being friends with someone you always had a different soft corner for ever.There's no looking back leigh 87,even if he ever comes back to you years later telling you how much he had missed you,don't fall for that.DONT.If you don't want yourself to be back to square one again..don't..there's no going back once the love is broken.Its good you dont have the urge to call him.Now time will heal things faster for you than you have imagined.

[Leigh 87]

There's no being friends with someone you always had a different soft corner for ever.There's no looking back leigh 87,even if he ever comes back to you years later telling you how much he had missed you,don't fall for that.DONT.If you don't want yourself to be back to square one again..don't..there's no going back once the love is broken.Its good you dont have the urge to call him.Now time will heal things faster for you than you have imagined.

 

 

 

The R and love we ONCE had was enough to last a lifetime. It could work if we made changes to the negative elements of our personalities.

 

I do not think all second chances fail.

 

However, he will not come back and we will never be together again.

[Leigh 87]

Sorry, the love was not there from his part actually, or he would not have left.

 

LOL.

 

I meant to say that I think we had a shot if we both changed. And if he realised, after time apart and experience with new women, that he did, in fact, love me enough.

That is not going to happen though, it is very unlikely that the love was there or he would not have left.

 

It so rare for a man to have the potential to DEEPLY love a women and be totally IN love with her, and to LEAVE.

Even MORE rare than a man leaving a women he truly had the capacity to love as much as he COULD Love, is: coming back to a girl he has the capacity to fully love.

 

The more I write it out the more certain I am that our exes never loved us enough because people that do don't leave; and even more rarely do they return, with the realisation that they WERE truly IN love.

[Leigh 87]

I feel ashamed and embarrassed that I ever thought he would be back....

 

The more I state the logical facts, the more it hits me: I was completely deluded.

 

I mean duh. People can really love and care about a women without actually being deeply IN love with them.

 

And men who are deeply in love DO. NOT. LEAVE.

 

Ands they DO. NOT. RETURN - cos men who have the CAPACITY to love you deeply, do not leave..

 

Therefore they cannot return?

 

I think Kiss_andmakeup, the poster on here, is the ONLY success story of a second chance I have heard about in my entire life.

[rather_confused_girl]

I think it is twice as hard to get over a break up when the other party seems legitimately concerned about you. Im facing that myself right now, it is hard to imagine that they care so much yet still not want you. It's a mind**** for sure!

 

I actually asked my ex to be more mean to me so I could hate him lol

[Leigh 87]

I think it is twice as hard to get over a break up when the other party seems legitimately concerned about you. Im facing that myself right now, it is hard to imagine that they care so much yet still not want you. It's a mind**** for sure!

 

I actually asked my ex to be more mean to me so I could hate him lol

 

 

 

I disagree. I think it would be harder if a man you really felt loved you (even if it was not enough in the end) lied to you in a way that you NEVER saw coming; and left you for another women, cheated on you, or found a girl he that he fell for right away.

 

I am glad I was right about him; that although it was not enough love from him (or he would have stayed), he still loved me dearly and therefore was not able to do the dirty on me in the way in which some men do (leave them for another women, screw them over, etc)

 

I would feel very unsure of myself lol, if I FELT a guy was legitimately into me and that he loved me right, and then turned out to well.. not care that much and therefore have the capacity to leave me for someone else right away.

 

It would make me question other guys: well my ex 100% convinced me that he was not the type of guy who would catch feelings for someone else and yet be able to act normally.

 

I felt in my gut that my ex was not the type who could lose feelings to a noticeable extent, and be able to fall for another person and still act THE SAME. I just do not "feel" that is in him to do.

 

If something happened that was outside what I believed, I would find it harder to trust. Even though life IS unpredictable and you can never trust someone 100%.

 

Like the other on here who I feel terrible for: her ex jerked off to her after they broke up:sick: And left her for someone else who he felt something special for!!!

 

He was totally nice the entire time.

 

Man. It really happens. I Am glad that, to my knowledge, did not happen to me.

[youngnlove89]

Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful, it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident, it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.

 

Leigh, sometimes I read your threads and I want to SHAKE you. Wake up. I seriously can't even keep up with everything you post and I don't really need to because the moral of the story is that you are in denial. Utterly and coldly in denial.

 

I'm going to try to say this nicely and hopefully I can portray that, but it's really hard to be nice to someone who frankly needs someone to rub it in hard so maybe she might wake up. This will be for your own benefit.

 

Your heart hurts and I wish I could say that you want to move past it, but I really don't think you do. I don't think you are ready. Do you know why? I see a little of me in you. It's drama. It's thinking that things will change, it's expecting them to, demanding that they do or else. You don't want to let go because you are so stuck in your mind that what you had was this great fairy tale. You are like a foolish moth clinging to the heat of a light bulb. You can't let go. You are attracted to this infatuation, this drama, this nightmare. You feed off of it. It has become you. If you let go now, you won't have anything left of you.

 

Andrew this. Andrew that. It's tiring. Forget about the "love" you had. Forget about it all. You try to make excuse after excuse to continue being in this predicament. His dogs. His father. His love. Whatever. And then you go and break NC in the most unhealthiest, unattractive way and then you tell us, "but I really do want to move on!" Bull sh.t!!! That's a fallacy on all fours.

 

Your self esteem has completely fallen to the way side. In fact, I don't even think that you have any left.

 

I get frustrated writing this, saying anything to you, because fact is: you will still do what you are doing no matter what any of us say. We can harp on you all day long, but when you log off from here, you are your own victim. You will continue to do what you solemnly do best: become weak. You are only growing weaker post by post. We all see it and you chose not too.

 

What you need is more than any of us on here can give you. And the only place you will find the power to do what you need to do is within yourself. I don't even think you can count on you at this point.

 

Hope is the most dangerous emotion in the world. It has the power to blind the most perceptive individuals, silence the most rational of doubts, forgive the most heinous injustices. Hope has the power to heal, but only in equal measure with its power to destroy.

[Leigh 87]

I have reached a new point.

 

I had a dream about him lying down and chatting to another girl who he was dating and looked like he was about to be intimate with.

 

I have come to the realisation that I MUST act like he is DEAD; metaphorically but sort of as though he IS dead.

 

I CANNOT afford to concern myself with whether or not he is dating or hooking up.

 

Yes, the truth will likely NOT be the worse case scenario: that he will date and hook up right away. We had a big relationship for us both and I genuinely do think he was too attached and adoring of me to just throw me away and replace me with a girl he genuinely has feelings for.

 

TO ME NC is replace thoughts of him and NEVER think about my past with him as though HE IS DEAD.

 

I have to NOT EVEN CONCERN MYSELF IN HIS LIFE WHATSOEVER.

 

I need to REALISE that he could move on right away and NOT concern myself with that!

 

....................................

 

Now, I have made the decision to not block his number: I move hours away and my parents live overseas. He would not be able to reach me by driving over to my flat, if his father were to pass away.

 

I will only block him if I cave in and break NC even one more time though.

 

I really believe that, first of all

 

- HE gets that I DO NOT want to be his friend ANY TIME SOON

 

- that I ONLY want him to reach out to me if he is single and realises that he is still in love with me enough to want to try again with me

 

- I made it clear that it will be a VRY VERY LONG TIME before we can be friends: YEARS not months.

 

.......................................................

 

I know I can avoid contact and ignore any breadcrumbs he may send.

 

I had that dream because I am accepting that yes he will be doing that eventually and I CANNOT concern myself with that.

 

.....................................................

 

The only difference between me and Tara Maiden and Metal chick is: I DO want to support him if his father dies.

 

..........................................................

 

I would appreciate it if people respected my decision to cut ALL contact (facebook block, him and his friends, and never seeing or TALKING to him again)

 

Without "blocking" his number from being able to contact me.

 

..........................................................

 

I am at the phase where: I realise him and other girls cannot be my concern whatsoever.

 

He is dead to me.

 

But I CANNOT make it impossible for him to contact me when I am in a new town.

 

He could be desperate to say something to me, and yet not be able to, if I were to block his number

 

 

................................................................

 

You can think I am justifying contact, but I am in fact NOT planning to ever TALK to him or ANSWER him again.

 

I just do not agree with moving towns and there being NO WAY for him to actually contact me if his father passes.

 

His father has cancer, albeit in remission.

 

.................................................................

 

Just because he will be dead to me, does not mean I can shut myself of 100% with no way of him contacting me, if a death DOES physically happen.

 

.....................................................................

 

So anyways that is my decision. To act like he is dead, to never contact him again, and to delete his number, social media, and I have told him 1000 times I never want to hear from him again because I CANNOT handle being his friend within the next TWO YEARS minimum.

 

.........................................................................

 

I know I can do this, so plz I do not need people to assume I am hopeless and will fail, it is negative and assuming.

 

Only get assume the worst if and when it happens.

 

I am not the only one that was in love, I am not some girl who wants a man who cares little about her; he is going through what I am, it was a big relationship to him too.

 

I Hate how people assume he will easily move on and I will be some pathetic girl who loves a guy that has moved on fast.

 

I will not be that girl.

 

And I am not the only one in the past R that loved a lot.

[aisuru]

Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful, it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident, it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.

 

Leigh, sometimes I read your threads and I want to SHAKE you. Wake up. I seriously can't even keep up with everything you post and I don't really need to because the moral of the story is that you are in denial. Utterly and coldly in denial.

 

I'm going to try to say this nicely and hopefully I can portray that, but it's really hard to be nice to someone who frankly needs someone to rub it in hard so maybe she might wake up. This will be for your own benefit.

 

Your heart hurts and I wish I could say that you want to move past it, but I really don't think you do. I don't think you are ready. Do you know why? I see a little of me in you. It's drama. It's thinking that things will change, it's expecting them to, demanding that they do or else. You don't want to let go because you are so stuck in your mind that what you had was this great fairy tale. You are like a foolish moth clinging to the heat of a light bulb. You can't let go. You are attracted to this infatuation, this drama, this nightmare. You feed off of it. It has become you. If you let go now, you won't have anything left of you.

 

Andrew this. Andrew that. It's tiring. Forget about the "love" you had. Forget about it all. You try to make excuse after excuse to continue being in this predicament. His dogs. His father. His love. Whatever. And then you go and break NC in the most unhealthiest, unattractive way and then you tell us, "but I really do want to move on!" Bull sh.t!!! That's a fallacy on all fours.

 

Your self esteem has completely fallen to the way side. In fact, I don't even think that you have any left.

 

I get frustrated writing this, saying anything to you, because fact is: you will still do what you are doing no matter what any of us say. We can harp on you all day long, but when you log off from here, you are your own victim. You will continue to do what you solemnly do best: become weak. You are only growing weaker post by post. We all see it and you chose not too.

 

What you need is more than any of us on here can give you. And the only place you will find the power to do what you need to do is within yourself. I don't even think you can count on you at this point.

 

Hope is the most dangerous emotion in the world. It has the power to blind the most perceptive individuals, silence the most rational of doubts, forgive the most heinous injustices. Hope has the power to heal, but only in equal measure with its power to destroy.

 

Very well said.

[Leigh 87]

Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful, it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident, it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better.

 

Leigh, sometimes I read your threads and I want to SHAKE you. Wake up. I seriously can't even keep up with everything you post and I don't really need to because the moral of the story is that you are in denial. Utterly and coldly in denial.

 

I'm going to try to say this nicely and hopefully I can portray that, but it's really hard to be nice to someone who frankly needs someone to rub it in hard so maybe she might wake up. This will be for your own benefit.

 

Your heart hurts and I wish I could say that you want to move past it, but I really don't think you do. I don't think you are ready. Do you know why? I see a little of me in you. It's drama. It's thinking that things will change, it's expecting them to, demanding that they do or else. You don't want to let go because you are so stuck in your mind that what you had was this great fairy tale. You are like a foolish moth clinging to the heat of a light bulb. You can't let go. You are attracted to this infatuation, this drama, this nightmare. You feed off of it. It has become you. If you let go now, you won't have anything left of you.

 

Andrew this. Andrew that. It's tiring. Forget about the "love" you had. Forget about it all. You try to make excuse after excuse to continue being in this predicament. His dogs. His father. His love. Whatever. And then you go and break NC in the most unhealthiest, unattractive way and then you tell us, "but I really do want to move on!" Bull sh.t!!! That's a fallacy on all fours.

 

Your self esteem has completely fallen to the way side. In fact, I don't even think that you have any left.

 

I get frustrated writing this, saying anything to you, because fact is: you will still do what you are doing no matter what any of us say. We can harp on you all day long, but when you log off from here, you are your own victim. You will continue to do what you solemnly do best: become weak. You are only growing weaker post by post. We all see it and you chose not too.

 

What you need is more than any of us on here can give you. And the only place you will find the power to do what you need to do is within yourself. I don't even think you can count on you at this point.

 

Hope is the most dangerous emotion in the world. It has the power to blind the most perceptive individuals, silence the most rational of doubts, forgive the most heinous injustices. Hope has the power to heal, but only in equal measure with its power to destroy.

 

 

 

Your the deluded one.

 

I think quiet highly of myself thanks. I like the way my life is, and I like the person I am.

 

Having a broken heart does not mean I feel undesirable to other men.

 

I do not think I will have great trouble in finding a man who truly loves me and wants to be with me.

 

I am moving towns - and I happen to want him to let me know if his father dies.

 

I find it completely callous to not be contactable (not home, blocked his number) if his father dies.

 

Just cos I am happy to support him if his father does, it does not mean that I will contact him.

 

Cut out saying I have " no self esteem".

 

I do not feel not worthy or not good enough cos one dude did not want to marry me. Give me a break!

[Leigh 87]

I do not have one shred of hope for my ex and I.

 

But I am moving towns and I cannot make myself so that has literally NO WAY of contacting me if his father dies.

 

It really is that simple.

 

I mean - going NC, acting like he is dead, being a happy and positive person who likes herself and her life

 

I think NOT contacting each other, and not having each other OR our friends on social media, is enough for us both to move on.

[Leigh 87]

Save your stupid pitty party for those women who are truly depressed and hate their lives and have nothing to be happy about!

 

Sorry I find it to be deluded.

 

There are women on this site who wake up EVERY DAY crying and hating life!

 

There are women on here who ARE NOT made happy by friends, being active and fit, the prospect of new hot men, and life in general!

 

SAVE your " oh dear you have no self esteem" bullcr@p for the women on here who had exes who made then feel undesirable and worthless.

 

Your directing your " you poor little girl I feel sorry for you, you sure hate" for the women WHO ACTUALLY FEEL that way.

 

You two, their PAIR of you, are completely deluded if you think for a second that I love life any less than you do.

 

It is possible to love life and be a positive person and to have self esteem even when a man you love does not want to be with you.

 

I am not even embarrassed that I freaked out yesterday to him. I think he adores me and understood why I freaked out, since we were attached 24/7 for years and now we are not.

 

I do not feel "undesirable" in the slightest for making a normal mistake.

 

There are other men for me that will think the world of me and not leave anyway, which is what NC will allow me to find one day, when I am not looking.

[aisuru]

Your the deluded one.

 

 

 

You're deflecting. No need to be rude. She was kind and honest in her advice to you. Even admitted she sees some of her own behavior in your behaviors. She has a good heart and just like the rest of us, is trying to get through your thick head of delusions.

 

Cut out saying I have " no self esteem".

 

 

I guess if you say your self esteem is just fine TYVM, we'll start to believe you. Or not.

 

Leigh, if only you could listen when we provide you the advice and support you're so obviously craving. Unfortunately for you, we're not providing you what you want to hear.

[youngnlove89]

Your the deluded one.

 

This is a symptom of being in denial, thinking everyone is wrong and you are right.

 

I think quiet highly of myself thanks. I like the way my life is, and I like the person I am.

 

You think highly of yourself? Sure doesn't seem like it by accepting Andrew's behavior and purposely falling back, every time.

 

Having a broken heart does not mean I feel undesirable to other men.

 

You aren't even close to the right frame of mind to even fathom this.

 

I do not think I will have great trouble in finding a man who truly loves me and wants to be with me.

 

You don't even love yourself, how can someone else?

 

I find it completely callous to not be contactable (not home, blocked his number) if his father dies.

 

At this point I have given up.

 

Just cos I am happy to support him if his father dies, it does not mean that I will contact him.

 

This a total contradiction?! What the heck?

 

I do not feel not worthy or not good enough cos one dude did not want to marry me. Give me a break!

 

This one "dude" is a guy you speak highly of in every gahdamn post. This is more about marriage.

 

Give you a break? My pleasure. One by one people will be falling off of your threads because you continue to push away any plausible advice. We tried the amicable route, it didn't work. Now we are laying it on thick, and you shut us all out.

 

Goodbye. Good luck, you are sure going to need it.

[Leigh 87]

And you cannot blame me for, within the first week or two, thinking that he may have loved me enough to come back one day. I did not FEEL we would be together, it was rather I had not closed off the idea.

I honestly knew he was done and would not have me back, in my heart.

 

I see exes who treated you like crapp and made it clear that you were not everything to them.

Well sorry, but I do not feel like some poor little girl who's ex mostly treated me badly and showed me often that I was not his world.

I believe we can't be together, yet I thought we had a very loving relationship and I know he adored the way I was as a person.

 

I simply think that yes he did not love me enough to be with me for life and get past our personal demons.

So yeah your not going to convince me that I am sad and pathetic and was with a guy who really did not love me very much and that we did not have a very special and loving relationship.

 

I honestly believe it was just a case of not loving me quiet enough to endure my issues or change his

I am by no means a bitter or jaded women who has come out of a relationship with a dude who cared very little about me and yeah.

I feel we had a high level of love and I am nothing like the women who pine after an ex who DOES NOT GIVE A DAMN ABOUT THEM

Sorry but that is not reality for me.

 

I don't think I am worthless or any of that... really sad crapp you here on here!

I am not less happy than I was while with him. I was in shock at first. And sometimes I acknowledge that it is a different life that I am now living.

 

You do not need to worry about me though, as I sure don't wake up with a heavy heart that is filled with despair

If you feel bad about your lives or if your not really positive and happy people fair enough, but I am and do not need you strangers telling me who Leigh 87 is.

[Elias18]

As a psychologist I think it's wise to reinforce good behaviour, there are many things that Leigh is doing well, she had made progress. It's a proces and it's important to keep motivating people, even if they are stubborn sometimes. I know it's very frustrating when good advice is set aside, but let's keep it civil here. We all have been trough a lot and for some people this is the only place to vent their emotions. But nevertheless sometimes it's important to let people see themselves in the mirror and be confronted with their negatives in their healing proces!

[Leigh 87]

This is a symptom of being in denial, thinking everyone is wrong and you are right.

 

 

 

You think highly of yourself? Sure doesn't seem like it by accepting Andrew's behavior and purposely falling back, every time.

 

 

 

You aren't even close to the right frame of mind to even fathom this.

 

 

 

You don't even love yourself, how can someone else?

 

 

 

At this point I have given up.

 

 

 

This a total contradiction?! What the heck?

 

 

 

This one "dude" is a guy you speak highly of in every gahdamn post. This is more about marriage.

 

Give you a break? My pleasure. One by one people will be falling off of your threads because you continue to push away any plausible advice. We tried the amicable route, it didn't work. Now we are laying it on thick, and you shut us all out.

 

Goodbye. Good luck, you are sure going to need it.

 

 

 

 

How can I get through to you that

 

- I do like myself as a person. A lot

 

- I do not feel unworthy or undesirable because one man did not want me

 

- I enjoy being active, healthy, having a great body ( I am thin again since him) and I love the fact I use self care and have goals for my future

 

- I am not even close to a women that is unhappy and not driven by life just cos I do not have a man in it anymore

 

- you DO NOT know how I feel

 

- I love myself. I think I have issues yes, but I do not want to change my core personality, appearance, or life goals. I LIKE who I am a lot.

 

- As I mentioned before, I know that I deserve a guy AND WILL FIND a guy who loves me more than my ex did.

 

- I believe therapy, self love, and loving life without my ex in addition to no contact will heal me just fine.

[youngnlove89]

I'll say one last thing and I'm out...

 

If you feel bad about your lives or if your not really positive and happy people fair enough, but I am and do not need you strangers telling me who Leigh 87 is.

 

We are not telling you who you are, you are SHOWING us.

[Leigh 87]

Your the one who feels bad about yourself so your projecting your insecurities about your ex not caring much about you onto ME, a very positive and happy person.

 

I don't think I had a lacklustre relationship with a dude who did not care much about me for starters. It was close to the real deal/marriage/ etc.

 

Secondly, while I am not even contemplating finding the love of my life anytime soon, I genuinely believe I will find a better fit for me if I work on myself so that I never look for a men to begin with.

 

And I AM DOING everything you suggest

 

- I have self love

 

- I work out and look and feel good about myself

 

- I have spent every day with friends

 

- I have taken up w new hobby that requires total focus on my part

 

- I am more happy than I am sad, due to having a great life that is not going to feel worthless because one guy does not love me ENOUGH to be with me/marry me.

 

- I am clearly doing EVERYTHING I can, so what the FCK are you talking about?

 

You sound UTTELY deluded when you paint me as other women who are not doing ANYTHING to better themselves or to make their lives good.

[Leigh 87]

I'll say one last thing and I'm out...

 

 

 

We are not telling you who you are, you are SHOWING us.

 

 

 

 

I DON"T HATE LIFE

 

SERIOUSLY.

 

STOP TELLING ME WHAT I THINK.

 

I am happier since the break up, after a week or two of crying and being heartbroken over it.

 

I look better, am around friends a lot more, and I LOVE life.

 

I am an EXTREMELY positive women.

 

This comes from having had a hard life, and reading MANY... MANY books on people who have been through way worse hardships than us.

 

Really. I am really happy to be alive each day. I love being a life lol./

 

I am way happier, more positive, and MORE GRATEFUL to live life than most people.

 

STOP painting me as some women who cries every morning and feels worthless?

 

You are very much deluded.

[Leigh 87]

Yes I will have moments where I miss him. But I am still very happy.

 

You do not seem to fathom that: I am not going to let one guy not wanting me take the happiness and joy away from my life.

 

I am being very sincere here. I am not lying lol.

 

The only case of me failing here is if I think there is any chance of getting my past back with him.

 

Everything about my life is wonderful right now, and that is THE ONLY risk I have of getting hurt again.

 

I really feel no doom or gloom here.

 

Life does not depress me.

 

It only will if I break NC again because I cannot handle anything he has to say.

 

...................

 

 

WHAT is your advice exactly?

 

to block his number so once I move towns, he has literally NO WAY to ever talk to me again?

 

Why is NC not good enough, if we, you know: NEVER TALK?

 

It is disgusting to not be there for a person that you were once everything to, if their immediate family member dies.

 

I can prove to you all that I will NOT break NC. Without having to BLOCK his number.

[Echo000]

the notion that people think you are unhappy---why does that bother you so much?

 

if you are so happy, a strangers online thought should not bother you. And btw, you can be a happy person who isnt always happy. Thats called being a human being.

 

You have to let go of him and anything that connects you both. That includes his father, and that includes those dogs. So although you want to know, its no longer your business. If he wants to share regarding his fathers health, he can. Otherwise, stay out of his life and keep him out of yours.

 

Good luck.

[Leigh 87]

the notion that people think you are unhappy---why does that bother you so much?

 

if you are so happy, a strangers online thought should not bother you. And btw, you can be a happy person who isnt always happy. Thats called being a human being.

 

You have to let go of him and anything that connects you both. That includes his father, and that includes those dogs. So although you want to know, its no longer your business. If he wants to share regarding his fathers health, he can. Otherwise, stay out of his life and keep him out of yours.

 

Good luck.

 

 

 

Yes that is the plan, to stay out of his life.

 

Since I am moving towns though, there will BE no way for him to contact me if he truly is desperate to reach out to me.

 

He will not be able to just drive by my place - both myself as well as my parents will not live there anymore.

 

Keeping ONE medium of contact open in the case in which he needs me is not breaking NC.

 

Me contacting him is breaking NC

 

Him contacting me with breadcrumbs and false hope is not healthy

 

Him breaking NC for reasons other than his dad dying or wanting to desperately talk to me about something, is fine by me. I can live with that.

 

And It bothers me how people paint me to be some poor loser @ss women who does not have a fabulous and happy life JUST cos I got left/dumped.

 

Your right though: I am a very positive and happy person while still feeling sad over my huge loss.

On the whole though, I am very happy with life in general, although it is still upsetting at times to be without a person who was everything to me.

 

People on here do not fathom that I can be very happy, even though someone left me and does not want me anymore.

I do not believe in feeling bad about yourself and feeling unworthy of a loving guy just cos' one guy did not want you.

 

I believe in mourning their loss, without having it lessen your self esteem.

[rather_confused_girl]

oh my god i'd break up with you too, listen to yourself lady! seriously you gotta just be still within yourself and learn to listen not attack! I can't help but wonder if that is not the root cause of him leaving. Who wants to wage a verbal battle whenever they disagree with you

[siankat]

Leigh, be sure to let us know in a few days if you've maintained NC.

 

 

Haha that is a back handed slap with a velvet glove ..