Beware of those who are giving u advice..."A second chance is possible"

[theone44]

Hey it me again. I also strongly believe that a second chance with my ex gf will come about,cause i can feel it. You ever get that gut feeling that something good is about to happen. You see i have no anger,resentment or any ill-will toward my ex,i never did when she first broke it off back in July. Hey to those who hoping to get their ex.it will happen watch it. Even myself and some of ya'll have move on,just keep that hope of door open,i'm just speaking for myself.

 

Also be very careful of some of these advice u are receiving on here,cause some of these people are very anger,frustrated and resentment toward their exes,also very down and bitter. When people are having these symptom,they are subjected to give bad advice, cause everybody situation is a little bit diffence. Now if your u and your ex don't get back together....that don't mean, necessary....me and my ex want.

 

 

An old timer told me at one time,if u want to be successful and rich.....don't talk to a poor man go and talk to a rich man or woman,cause he or she already there. So,if u want good advice........go to people who are positive and not still bitter and who is having hope...and are not getting back together with their ex. Talk to very positive people and stay away from negative folk.

 

So,to all who believe that u and your ex will united....just keep that door of hope open and one day they will walk in one day. Stay away from negative advice....some of these people are still bitter,and resentful to their exes...and they know that their exes not coming back,they pro......was lousy to them anyway....and try to give u their opinion on what u should do.(some people opinion just such). Some people just don't want to see other happy,because they are still bitter themselves about their exes leaving them.

 

Remember it take time for the healing process to heal....it might take a few months or few years,but once that is healing is complete......that when they want to start talking to us again.....believe me "i know it happen" between me and my ex-WIFE.....and now we are talking and are on good friendly term. I know that if i want her back i can,but don't now,cause i just love my single life.....LOL

 

 

I bet some of ya'll, before this year is out.....will be posting on here about u and your ex have gotten back together.

 

 

Your are entitle to your opinion,but some people opinion suck like rotten eggs.....LOL

 

 

Mark 10-27- With man it impossible,but with "God all things are possible.

[Urban Rubble01]

That message brought tears to my eyes. (I know that's lame)

 

I'm having a really bad day, it's been a little over 2 weeks since my girl and I "broke up" (went on a break?), I've ben doing better but today was sort of a relapse. I want her back more than anything and I truly feel that no 2 people are more compatible. People on here don't seem to encouraging, but that's O.K, what happens happens. But thanks, your message helped, I love her and she says she still loves me, that's all I should focus on.

[misha&makulu]

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

 

My opinion? People here on LS are very nice people who would spend time to read others' problems and chip in their 2 cents. Good advice or bad advice, as long as it's genuine, is always helpful for me to assess my problem so that I can make my own decision.

 

Thanks, everyone!

[Urban Rubble01]

Yeah, I agree with that as well. I mean, people aren't intentionally giving anyone bad advice and the fact that they give any advice shows that they care and that they're good people. It's just hard to hear negative advice when you feel like this you know ? I feel worse than I've ever felt in my life, and then when people tell you that it probably won't work it just makes it so much worse, even if it's true.

[bluechocolate]

Often bad advice is the advice that you don't want to hear. It irks me when people come on here & post, don't like what they hear & then keep on posting the same thing hoping that eventually they'll get the answer they're looking for - the answer which will justify a course of action that they've already decided to take. If you know what you're going to do, regardless of what anyone else has to say or advise, then don't waste peoples time. Just go and do it.

 

I believe the most people on this site post advice & speak of their own experiences with the best intentions. If they've had a bad experience with trying to get back with an ex then that is what they'll tell you about. That doesn't mean it's "bad". It is entirely up to you how you interpret & use the advice given.

[weweregods]

Maybe so, blue, but you know what they say about the road to hell...

[bluechocolate]

Originally posted by weweregods

Maybe so, blue, but you know what they say about the road to hell...

 

That saying is applicable only to ones own intentions when travelling down their own road. Nothing to do with the advice you received along the way.

 

It is entirely up to you how you interpret & use the advice given.

[weweregods]

Uhmmmm... no, that saying is applicable to anyone trying to interefere, even by use of advice, with another person's life. You can mean the best in the world and still end up giving the worst advice possible. There is a such thing as bad advice, believe me! I've seen enough of it!

[bluechocolate]

anyone trying to interefere, even by use of advice, with another person's life.

 

Someone comes on here with a problem or dilema, looking for insight or advice & the people who offer that insight & advice are interfering?

 

LS the Rant Board anyone?

 

You can mean the best in the world and still end up giving the worst advice possible.

 

There is a such thing as bad advice, believe me!

 

And you have the free will to listen or ignore it.

 

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice.

[Lonestar]

Seems like someone just wants to debate with you, bluechocolate.

 

I back you up 100%. There are good people here giving the best advice that they can from their own points of view. No one has to listen, and everyone makes their own decisions in the end. It takes a lot of time to come here, read, and try to help others. One also starts to care about the regular posters and their situations, so to read a post such as this about a lot of bad advice being given pisses me off.

 

We're all trying to help each other get through the same pain, and we're all in different stages. I'm still here because I succeeded in getting back with my X, so I feel I have some advice to offer. If anyone feels it's bad, don't take it. I'm not your keeper, and claim no responsibilty for the outcome of your life, but I'm also still here to get advice from others on how to "be" in a relationship. I like to read what works and what doesn't for people, because it helps me to analyze my own situation.

 

weweregods

I'm not quite sure what point your trying to make unless you're caught up in debating with blue for some reason, because I see you giving advice all the time, even in some of my threads. Does this mean you're interfering? And that you have the intention to interfere when you're leaving advice? That wouldn't be at all typical of the other posters here.

[bluechocolate]

Seems like someone just wants to debate with you, bluechocolate.

 

yeah, I got that impression too, but it only took a few lines to respond & I type fast, so no skin off my fingers!

 

I back you up 100%.

 

Much appreciated - thank you.

[Good heart]

Dear theone44

please allow me to tell you that your post is pathetic, escaping from reality in the form of projection is nice but still the illusion that someone will get back to you so easily after they have spent some time in the arms of somebody else enjoying their moments with them and then after they feel you are in their mood , yes they will come back....for a while.

I am sorry to tell you that through my last 10 years of relationships experience ,when i break up with a girl and she comes back I keep on breaking up with her, and if somebody breaks up with me and i come back they break up with me again.

breaking uo with somebody is emotionally more damaging than being shot nonfatally by somebody, getting them back and still having all the positive feelings on both sides is a nice dream but it never happened to me, let us see what will happen to you in a few months.

 

A very happy, rich and successful man........

[backspn]

I always appreciate everyone's replies to my posts. I guess that we can take someone's advice and use it or not use it....thats the choice we make. Sometimes, as in my case, I use parts of advice I get. Since me and my ex are on really good terms and we talk almost everyday....I feel that she still has strong feelings for me otherwise why would she bother. I have not talked to my ex ex in over 4 years....when I left her for cheating on me, it was good bye forever. If I had feelings for her then I would have kept in contact with her.....but I hated her immensly and still do. I guess the point is that we can take it or leave it when it comes to opinions but it is always nice to have the choice and the GREAT advice of people who have been there. In my case I truly value the woman's p.o.v. in my threads, for they know the way a woman thinks....cause I sure dont. I do believe in 2nd chances or else I wouldnt still be here talking with her. We all know when its over...we get that little feeling in our gut. The same goes for 2nd chances. I know she still loves me even though she is really confused right now. I am willing to give it time and see what happens....but the one thing we all have to remember is that life happens......and we could move on without our exes. I didnt choose to fall so hard for my girl....it just happened.

 

Goodheart...sorry for all your heartache man...breakups do suck royally. Where would you be emotionally without them? I am a better person today because of this. Those women in your past must have severly screwed you...that sucks too but no wonder you cant hold on to them with thinking like that. Get some hope....without it we're nothing.

[Ilovehertodeath]

lol dont worry about how he thinks backspn, He knows what hes talking about. You just love to hear what you want to hear and that is that. When people tell you how it really is you refuse to believe.What planet are you from again? hrmm never heard of it.

[weweregods]

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice.

 

Well thank you bluechocolate, you proved my point! Simply because I give advice, I am not interfering because I do not care whether or not anyone takes my advice or believes that I am write. I have been thanked whole-heartedly for my advice and will continue to give it to those that ask. I will, as you have done (and is my right) to amiably disagree with any poster who I do not believe is dispensing the best advice - let the person taking the advice decide whether it is good advice or bad advice.

 

BUT, just because someone has good intentions doesn't make their advice good!

 

AND

 

Lonestar, I am not trying to debate anyone. I am simply disagreeing, which I am allowed to do in this public forum. It is no wonder, you - who has such a disagreeable personality - has had relationship problems. As long as you need to be right and recruit others to your childish tirades against any post who disagrees with you, you are the childish one. If you disagree with my advice, then offer some better advice... Do something constructive, instead of your childish "I will post on any forum that I disagree with you, but I won't debate why I am right - I just am"

[Lonestar]

::yawn::

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t48773/10-2

[R1PPED]

children, children, settle down.

 

advice be it good or bad is just subjective. neither right nor wrong.

 

leave it at that.

 

 

"I'm only sixteen and 9/12's, so why listen to me?"

[Naive]

There have been times when I've posted a thread that I want people to post just want I want to hear and dislike it when they post things that I do not want to see (that open my eyes) or don't agree with, but in the long run it's good that they post what they really think because it just may happen that they have a point or that what they say really applies to my situation. If it does not apply like they said it would it may help someone else in a similar situation, obviously I'm not the only one reading the thread. Just because things go great for me it does not mean it will go the same for someone else in a similar situation. It's always good to see the pro and the con side of everything. We come on here to get advice not to have people sugar coat things for us or agree with us. Everything can't smell like roses you know!

 

If you go around telling everyone that everything is going to be okay just because it went okay for you and it actually goes bad for them then wouldn't you be the one giving the bad advice. You really have to take time and take all the factors into consideration; not every situation is the same.