turnerik Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I'm probably going to be told not to, but I can't take it anymore. I hate not talking to her. I have to give it a shot. You miss 100% of the chances you don't take. I'm going to church tomorrow for the second time in my life. I'm going to pray this works to get her to see me. So this is the letter I'm going to send to her: I know I screwed up during the relationship and I screwed up the first month of our “break.” But the past month I’ve done as little contact as possible. I’ve worked on myself so much. Other people have noticed. I’ve actually been asked out by a few girls at my college, but I turned them down because after the zoo you asked me not to date anyone and to give you space. I’ve kept both of those promises. I’m not asking you to be my girlfriend. I know I can’t talk my way back into your heart. I just want a shot to show you I have changed. I’m just asking you to come see my new apartment, and grab a bite to eat.( We could go to BW3’s, Panera, Noodles, Denny’s or any other place you would want to go!) That would be like 1 ½ hours tops. I’m sure you are under a lot of stress because of exams coming up, and I don’t want to interfere with any studying, or time with your friends/family. My word might not mean much to you right now, but during our relationship I never really lied to you, and I still haven’t lied to you, so it should mean something! Everyone is shocked when I say you asked for your money back, but I understand, and I don’t really care about it. I’ve learned what’s important, and what’s not. I just want you to be happy, and I’d do anything to make you smile. I have learned so much over the past two months. Things I never realized that were going on while we were dating. I just want to give you the chance to see the new me, and see the new part of me combined with the old part of me that you fell in love with! I pray everyday you will give me the chance, so I can help provide the extraordinary life you deserve. I hope you enjoy your last few days of high school, and have a good day today!
aisuru Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Goodness gracious. DO NOT send that letter. It's awful and all about you!! You need more time apart. Think on this more. 3
CC12 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 You know, this is like the tenth thread you've started and not once have you responded to any of the people who posted their advice to you. You post your OP and then abandon your own threads. Maybe you could not do that with this one? You already know pretty much everyone is going to tell you not to send that letter, but you're probably going to send it anyway. At least take out the part about how everyone is so shocked that she's asking for her money back. You're implying that she's wrong and everyone agrees with you. It's an unnecessary jab, and since you apparently couldn't help but to include that little dig in a letter where you basically beg for an hour of her time, maybe you haven't changed as much as you think you have.
Author turnerik Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 I sold concert tickets she got me for Xmas we were suppose to go to since she didn't want to go. She told me to do that and then a little while later she came by me and asked if she could get her money back for them. Even my therapist thought that was wrong of her
CC12 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I sold concert tickets she got me for Xmas we were suppose to go to since she didn't want to go. She told me to do that and then a little while later she came by me and asked if she could get her money back for them. Even my therapist thought that was wrong of her You wrote in your letter that you didn't care about it. If you don't care about it, then why are you even mentioning it? If it's something you feel the need to speak with her about, then address it like an adult, without resorting to "Well, everyone agrees with me, even my therapist."
Author turnerik Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 I'll leave it out then. I'm just sick of having $250 in cash sitting in my car waiting for her to come,get it.
CC12 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Write a letter/text that says, "I have your money. I need you to tell me where to mail the check." Write the check from your own personal checking account, send it through certified mail requiring a signature, and be done with it.
Author turnerik Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 It's her money, she can come get it. I know her address. To be honest I'm sending this letter because I'm sick of getting strung along. A month ago she asked me not to date anyone, and she said she wouldn't. I'm at the point where I need answers. I need to know if she really just needs more time to get over this senioritis she has at high school, or she is waiting for something better to come along. I gave this girl everything. I went to school a semester longer, I took a 3rd shift job, and I lived closer to her than work which hurt my bank account. I need answers. If she won't respond to my letter, then I'll go spend the money on myself and I'll move on. I use to be scared of the answer, but my pain has got the better of me, and I just need to know. Homestly if she doesn't want me, it's her lose. I made mistakes, sure, I was clingy, but I've worked on it. I now know she doesn't want to be pressured to make me happy. I've learned a lot and I'm ready to be back together. I wouldn't risk it if I wasn't, because I know we would break up,again if I acted the same way I did. I know I won't. I'm not going to sit here everyday hoping today is the day she contacts me. I'm going to take my chance, and I know there's 95% chance she will reject me. I have to take my chance, instead of running a billion situations thru my head. I'm sick of living on the edge scared to jump. I will be jumping soon. I hope she will be there to catch me, if not my parachute will be opened, and I'll have to land away from her and walk away.
CC12 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 It's her money, she can come get it. I know her address. Right, but if you get it out of your hands, you won't have that one thing you're still waiting on her to deal with. And you won't be looking forward to the day that she has to see you to collect the money. To be honest I'm sending this letter because I'm sick of getting strung along. I get it. You should be tired of it. But there's something to be said for just taking it upon yourself to put an end to unhealthy relationships, without needing the other person's input or permission, know what I mean? I'm thinking it would feel better to be like, "I'm not standing for this **** anymore" rather than "I guess I have to move on because I've been thoroughly rejected." But if the letter is something you feel you need to do, then be strong and accept the outcome, good or bad. Good luck.
Sapphyre Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Read my thread. I did some crazy things during the 6 weeks I was seeing my 'ex' (can't even call him that though, I know) and since he ended things...but even I wouldn't send a letter like that. Saying you've been asked out by a few girls = wrong. It reads like you're trying to make her jealous...or making the point that you 'only' turned them down because she asked you not to date. Mentioning the money thing = wrong. Like someone else said, just post it to her securely. The rest of it was very "look how much I've changed" but surely the fact you're writing a letter like that proves you haven't really?
Author turnerik Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 I scraped that letter and just sent this instead. I just want to apologize for the way I acted during our break, especially during the first month of our break. I was trying to convince myself I wasn't clingy when I would call and text you constantly, but I was, and I now see how psycho I must have looked to you. I'm sure you had a lot of stress with school and everything else. Once again I'm sorry for the way I acted. I hope you enjoy your last few days of school and I wish you the best of luck on your exams
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