mortensorchid Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 So tonight I went out on my first POF date for the summer. I have weeded out the obvious weirdos (I don't even open one that does not contain a picture nor the headless torso shots), and I only responded to the ones who have shown interest in me. So tonight, went out with the one who did just that. Impressions? Well ... We met at the place, sat down. He said he did not finish college because he wanted to be a fireman and was accepted into the training program to become one. He was about to start it, then he was in some horrible car accident at age 22 and injuries sustained prevented him from doing it. Then he worked for a bank, then he now works as a cable guy. He's a "blue collar guy" he said. I'm more white collar myself. He stopped a waiter to ask him what the final baseball game scores were, I thought that was a little ... Well we're out on a dinner date and he has to stop it to ask about that? I asked what he does for fun, he watches sports (duh!), hangs out with his friends and family. He hadn't traveled much, I've been overseas many times and been all across America. He asked why I've never been married or had kids, I said "Well ... the short answer is that no one's ever asked me. But the long is ... I never really thought about it." Unfortunately for him, I know that he will also be in that category. He can't hold his own against me, I hope that doesn't sound arrogant on my part. He's not a loser, but I'm out of his league. I'm better educated, more adventurous and he's Joe Average. Ended the evening well, he was alright but I'm not going to hear from him.
BluEyeL Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 It's pretty typical for OLD. It's gonna be others. It usually takes years to find someone compatible. Is much like blind dating. I'm personally very tired of it, literally, tired.
Tres Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 So tonight I went out on my first POF date for the summer. I have weeded out the obvious weirdos (I don't even open one that does not contain a picture nor the headless torso shots), and I only responded to the ones who have shown interest in me. So tonight, went out with the one who did just that. Impressions? Well ... We met at the place, sat down. He said he did not finish college because he wanted to be a fireman and was accepted into the training program to become one. He was about to start it, then he was in some horrible car accident at age 22 and injuries sustained prevented him from doing it. Then he worked for a bank, then he now works as a cable guy. He's a "blue collar guy" he said. I'm more white collar myself. He stopped a waiter to ask him what the final baseball game scores were, I thought that was a little ... Well we're out on a dinner date and he has to stop it to ask about that? I asked what he does for fun, he watches sports (duh!), hangs out with his friends and family. He hadn't traveled much, I've been overseas many times and been all across America. He asked why I've never been married or had kids, I said "Well ... the short answer is that no one's ever asked me. But the long is ... I never really thought about it." Unfortunately for him, I know that he will also be in that category. He can't hold his own against me, I hope that doesn't sound arrogant on my part. He's not a loser, but I'm out of his league. I'm better educated, more adventurous and he's Joe Average. Ended the evening well, he was alright but I'm not going to hear from him. In fact, you could ask him what he did for living before the date. So, you would not waste your time on the guy.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 That kind of makes you seem snobby, no offense. I mean idk I personally like the average Joe type guys, I mean educated is good too and I like that but guys who are too well traveled and stuff are just weird to me. I want to experience things with them I don't want to know all their stories. IDK I figure as long as he graduated HS I will date him, college is great but if he hasn't I don't care much. 4
Col1 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 He asked why I've never been married or had kids, I said "Well ... the short answer is that no one's ever asked me. But the long is ... I never really thought about it." A good question to contemplate privately. Not an appropriate first date question at all. 3
FitChick Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I don't want to waste my time (or theirs) and the things you didn't like about him could have been ascertained in an email or phone call. 1
CC12 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 He asked why I've never been married or had kids, I said "Well ... the short answer is that no one's ever asked me. But the long is ... I never really thought about it." Unfortunately for him, I know that he will also be in that category. He can't hold his own against me, I hope that doesn't sound arrogant on my part. He's not a loser, but I'm out of his league. I'm better educated, more adventurous and he's Joe Average. Wow, yeah you do sound arrogant. Which I normally don't really have a problem with, but you're arrogant in like, a needlessly cruel way. And why did you feel the need to post about how much better you are than some average dude you met on a dating site? Congrats on being leagues above some guy, I guess? 2
phineas Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Wow, yeah you do sound arrogant. Which I normally don't really have a problem with, but you're arrogant in like, a needlessly cruel way. And why did you feel the need to post about how much better you are than some average dude you met on a dating site? Congrats on being leagues above some guy, I guess? And she wonders why she can't find a guy. People like her exude this attitude & even men who "can keep up with her" see it & are turned off by it. 2
apple OR orange Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 (edited) although i agree no one should state how much better they are then others. Problem here is for this one guy, there will be 1000 others who will keep persisting in chasing. There was a TV program, 100 guys (from all walks of life, alpha, idiots, geeks, nice guys) where chosen, one very nice (latino if i remember) was in a room, they had tests, like dinner, dancing, etc.... to see who would bail first and how the other guys acted. It boiled down to about 20 (none where geeks, and nice guys, they bailed as they sai others deserved her more, this is interesting, read below). These guys all said without even thinking they would get her and each one put all the others down. Even when they where told "she didnt choose you" they then said, shes wrong, i need to prove more to her". My point is, no matter how a woman acts she will also had at least 20 people who will want to "go out" or "have sex" however you want to put it. The numbers never go well for what "should" happen, i am a great believer in "its worth what people will pay" meaning you might think something is worth alot of money and maybe it should, however if 99% will only pay x for it, then its worth that no matter what you think, or what it should be worth. Women should go for nice guys, they dont, they have idiots who treat them bad so that's how it is, that's what happens the majority of the time. The basics is, if you (guys) act like all the other guys who get women or sex then you will get a women and sex (no matter what women say on forums or chat rooms), its identical to the item being worth way more than what people would actually hand over cash for. I can get a 1993 Rolls Royce for about 10-20k, this car was worth well over 250'000 when new (at that time a standard car was about 15k, so thats 16 cars worth new value), it should be worth way more money, now, like for like, age for age it should be worth about 80k, it isnt, people pay 10-20k, that's what it goes for, its just the way it is.... Women should go for nice guys who treat them well, they dont, they go for the ones who put them down, treat them bad then decide to be "FWB" as a compensator, its the way it is.... (for anyone wants to prove me wrong, i spotted 2 already in the past 24 hours on this forum, and there are loads more on others). Edited May 26, 2013 by apple OR orange
Maleficent Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I see nothing wrong with having standards. This annoys me with OLD. Just because I meet someone online and agree to go on a coffee date doesn't meet I have to give him a chance at wooing me. I feel a connection or I don't. Same for men. I've gone on date where the man never contacted me again. 2
phineas Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I see nothing wrong with having standards. This annoys me with OLD. Just because I meet someone online and agree to go on a coffee date doesn't meet I have to give him a chance at wooing me. I feel a connection or I don't. Same for men. I've gone on date where the man never contacted me again. Standards. sure but OP complained about everything that should of been in the guys profile. Things she should of known before she met with him. Considering how much she claims she scrutinizes a man's profile before-hand why would she even agree to meet him? It looks like she set this man up just so he could fail. 1
GB25 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 He asked why you have never been married or had kids, and you just answered why in detail. Arrogant, self entitled, rude, demeaning of his profession not to mention that monster chip on your shoulder. Sadly, your educational curriculum did not cover tact 101 and couth 101. dam you got Served
Author mortensorchid Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 The fact of the matter is that if you have not heard from the person within the first 24-48 hours after the initial meeting, you won't hear from him again at all or he will be a friend but nothing else. It's been proven to me time and again. He was alright, but I will not hear from him again. Facts are facts.
sweetheart5381 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Ya, this one is just rude. I'll have you know that I work in a professional position, in the engineering field and am educated of course. I am a white-collared woman too. I also happen to be in a relationship with my "cable guy", your so-called blue-collar man. He is incredibly smart, intuitive and respectful. Sparks flew when we met and I never once considered his job at all, all that mattered was that we connected in a way I've never experienced before. In addition, he has knowledge in areas that I don't have a clue about and vice-versa. We can talk for hours about everything under the sun, regardless of our professions. Having a narrow mind, regardless of education, status, etc is what causes loneliness, hence the need for OLD. Open your mind and you may have a much better time, all the time.
GB25 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 OP I have read you're other posts and you do sound like a sweet lady and sorry for everyone jumping down you're throat.. But, re-read you're original post. Please re read it ..it's really awful
Maleficent Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Standards. sure but OP complained about everything that should of been in the guys profile. Things she should of known before she met with him. Considering how much she claims she scrutinizes a man's profile before-hand why would she even agree to meet him? It looks like she set this man up just so he could fail. I haven't seen OP's other posts. The way I see it - OLD is different from RLD. My only serious relationship was with a man who met none of my 'standards'. We met through friends and we had a connection. This kind of connection is absent in OLD. Sometimes we just have to take a shot at something. I'm sure there is a reason she accepted to see him.
phineas Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 (edited) I haven't seen OP's other posts. The way I see it - OLD is different from RLD. My only serious relationship was with a man who met none of my 'standards'. We met through friends and we had a connection. This kind of connection is absent in OLD. Sometimes we just have to take a shot at something. I'm sure there is a reason she accepted to see him.[/QUOT] I've never met someone from OLD & not known what they do for a living. I've never met someone from old without knowing something about them either. Why waste either of our time? Actually, i'm fairly certain i've never went out with someone in real life without first talking to them & finding out a little about them. OP has made at least one other post about her "mission" with OLD and how she is going to be looking hard at men's profiles before meeting them. OP sounds like she went on a blind date instead and seems intent on ignoring anyone's posts on the subject so I doubt she will ever say why she met with him in the first places when she feels she is above him and was pretty much complaining about his status in life. Edited May 26, 2013 by phineas
Mrlonelyone Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 (edited) I'm gonna give the OP some slack. I don't think it was just his job that turned her off. If he were a cable installer but acted in a more intelligent way on the date that may not have been such a big deal. I'll bet he did other things along the lines of asking the waiter for a baseball score, and asking inappropriate questions that she didn't write about. Mortensorchid seems to be very focused on getting a relationship. She also refuses to multidate to find one (based on past threads of mine discussing it). That only leaves serial dating man after man after man until one has first date "instant relationship" magic for her. This man did not create that magic and acted like a boob so she nexted him. Now if she were willing to go up to date two or three with a guy, no sex, and just give each of them a chance to show her different sides maybe Cable Guy would be good for her. As it stands he came across like this..http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VhtIydTmOVU Edited May 26, 2013 by Mrlonelyone
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