I can't do relationships

[nickgroves]

 

I am dating an awesome girl for the past 7 months who says she loves me. we spend alot of time together and I know she likes me alot. because well she said she loved me.

 

but there is always that voice in my head that says "you aren't good enough for her" "she's gonna dump you"

 

I replay everything in my head and then freak out if i did something wrong and it sucks

 

because then I end up coming off as clingy when

im

with her and it just feels like I push her away

 

i just have no self confidence

[Tinie]

Quit overthinking your R and enjoy it. You're more likely to hurt her with this overly obsessive behaviour. If she says she loves you, trust her, unless she's got some ugly history of cheating or something (but in that case she'd be red-flagging all over the place, which is probably not the case).

[DarrylP2]

Hi nickgroves,

 

I would suggest to not over think how you feel. By over thinking one can easily head into a downward spiral of negative thoughts and then before you know it, your projecting those feelings in your relationship. Typically, with any type of negative thinking there are assumptions being made about where the relationship stands and how the other party feels. It sounds like you need to strive for clarity regarding how she feels about you. After that gradually express how you truly feel little by little.

[USMCHokie]

but there is always that voice in my head that says "you aren't good enough for her" "she's gonna dump you"

 

Methinks you just want some strange...

[apple OR orange]

part of the plan to make things happen is to first get your mind to make you think it will.

 

so yes, she will dump you as you are constructing that to happen, however you will have been right from the start.