Thegreatestthing Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I'm sure that can only mean one thing,I wrote him a second email and he didn't reply. It doesn't make sense because he always replies,and has told me he loved me five times or so.normally it's me that doesn't reply sometimes for weeks or months nearly every time he emails me back I don't reply.then a few weeks later I will. The last emails we had i told him to wait a year to be with me , because of some things in my life,I was happy when he said he would and wasn't going anywhere. I never replied to this email ,so he wrote another ,I replied nicely to this one and again told him to wait a year he replied ,and then I didn't reply at all,then he wrote again,I didn't reply. I left it a year and then emailed - , he was happy to hear from me I asked him if he still loved me he said yes but for some strange reason I dint reply for two weeks to that email??? This time I just asked again if he loved me? he said only if you let me? I replied that I want that etc but the last email I just told him I wanted him here, no reply its been two days.
Tinie Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Um, you been stringing him along for a WHOLE YEAR and NOW you wonder where he's gone? I'm surprised he's bothered to stick around for that long, if he isn't lying. I'd be long gone by then.
mortensorchid Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I have a friend in Detroit (a childhood friend who I call my Brother from Another Mother), who seems to attract whackjobs online. One he was going out with for a few months at the beginning of the year, she dumped him (I know nothing about her save for what he told me, and that's all the information I know about it), then came back and said that she wanted to remain broken up but he could come back in August. WTF?! I said forget this mess and move on.
drr6 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 You are blissfully young, so let's be gentle here: From your handle, and your description, you have a very self-centered view of how things should work. Your own replies to his apparently unilateral declarations of love were nonexistent or delayed by weeks. Yes, you had him well-controlled when it was just a fantasy cyber relationship. Now that you want him to materialize, you learn that things don't actually work like that IRL. Welcome to reality. 2
Author Thegreatestthing Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 I was not talking of myself with my username,I'd really like to fix this
ExpatInItaly Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 You expected him to come back to you after an entire year? Why? Move on from this; there's a good chance he already has, too.
ChessPieceFace Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 So... ... why'd he have to wait a year for you?
MalachiX Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Yeah...is this a joke account? I mean, it kinda sees like a post an angry guy who feels he's been used by women would make as some kind of lame "revenge" against the fairer sex. If this is for real, I highly suggest you actually go back and read what you wrote out loud. I think it might shed some light on your current predicament.
apple OR orange Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 really? you really think someone will wait 1 year OVER EMAIL???? When i sell stuff second hand people do this "yeah i am coming your way on Sunday, please keep it for me, i really want it". Response: "no, get some money to me or its gone". There is no way i would put my life on hold for an email, i would never do that if someone asked me to my face either..
Author Thegreatestthing Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 He replied yesterday saying he was away the weekend? Should I believe this? I straight away didn't want to reply because it s what I always do ,then I realized it because I'm afraid of getting attached etc.its been a day or so now and I haven't replied. How do I stop that?
Author Thegreatestthing Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 Ok so I overcame my issues and replied for once because I didn't want him to feel how I felt,and he hasn't replied. In the email I said he was lieing about being away,but I wasn't serious maybe he thought I was,that it was my bday on the wkeend,I told him I loved him before but I don't anymore. After I didn't get a reply,I wrote another saying I did love him,no reply. I'm a bit upset but not much,and can't believe I did this type of ignoring to him. Any chance he'll talk to me again.
D-Lish Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Ok so I overcame my issues and replied for once because I didn't want him to feel how I felt,and he hasn't replied. In the email I said he was lieing about being away,but I wasn't serious maybe he thought I was,that it was my bday on the wkeend,I told him I loved him before but I don't anymore. After I didn't get a reply,I wrote another saying I did love him,no reply. I'm a bit upset but not much,and can't believe I did this type of ignoring to him. Any chance he'll talk to me again. Are you just hoping he'll do all the chasing? I would have dumped the conversation after waiting for two weeks for a response from you the first time. Your writing and insight makes me think you're really young- far too young to have so much baggage.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 I did expect him to do the chasing,but I don't know why I waited two weeks to reply the first time,I was in love with him at that time. I just don't know why I did that,now I feel he is moving on. Do you think it is because I said he was lieing about being away that he hasn't replied. I'm not that young.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I did expect him to do the chasing,but I don't know why I waited two weeks to reply the first time,I was in love with him at that time. I just don't know why I did that,now I feel he is moving on. Do you think it is because I said he was lieing about being away that he hasn't replied. I'm not that young. Definitely, yes. Being accused of lying is incredibly frustrating and insulting. Add to that a 2-week delay (after a YEAR'S wait)....I wouldn't have responded either. Have you met him in person before?
Author Thegreatestthing Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 Ok he still hasn't replied and I'm upset. What do I do?
Author Thegreatestthing Posted May 30, 2013 Author Posted May 30, 2013 So... ... why'd he have to wait a year for you? Because I had to finish uni and other Privte reasons. But he said he would happily wait and when I contacted him now after a year he was happy and said he still loved me.
2sunny Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Ok he still hasn't replied and I'm upset. What do I do? End it and start dating a guy you have a REAL relationship with - in person.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 30, 2013 Posted May 30, 2013 Ok he still hasn't replied and I'm upset. What do I do? There isn't really anything you can do. He's not interested. Next time, begin a relationship only when you're ready for it and the guy is someone you know in person.
shexy Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I'm extremely confused by this entire thing.... It really doesn't even sound real, it sounds made up.
marigo Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 Uhhh whats up with this whole playing games. He'll send you a message and you wont reply for weeks or months and then reply then stop again? Im surprised this guy even waited for you for an entire year. And then he actually messages you and then you dont reply? I understand if we love someone, we will wait for them (i did). BUT the problem is after he waited for you, he gets nothing back. No offense but i do wish he already moved on. Now you decide if you want to wait for him to respond or move on. Id say move on and one day if he decides to respond and try again, see how you feel.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 It is real,I must not love him because now I really don't care. I broke up with my real life bf to be with him,the email I sent him was really emotional because I was having the worst weekend of my life otherwise I probably wouldn't have emailed him,maybe it was too much emotion for him. he did reply to me after my original post saying he was away but I told him he was lieing,which was kind of silly.
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