Johndoe123 Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 So a new neighbor moved in downstairs from me. Didn't really talk to her aside from the hello when leaving the apartment. One evening I had a couple drinks in me and she knocked on my door. It was obvious she had a couple to drink as well. After flirting we ended up having sex. Next day we agreed to keep things casual but after 7 months of staying the night together 4-5 nights a week things were anything but casual. She is a recent college grad and i made some calls and got her a great job in her field. Always happy to help and introduce her to other professionals in her field. That's what couples do. They help. Last week we were in bed and she got a text message about 2:30 in the morning from a guy. I don't read her text messages but in the preview message I saw my name. She was asleep so I read it. It was her ex boyfriend and they had been talking about me. He asked if she was still sleeping with me. She replied yes but only because I have a lot of connections and I help her out. I was crushed and naturally ended things. She went on and on about how I'm not her boyfriend referring to our initial conversation about keeping things casual 7 months prior. I thought that was ridicules as you don't spend that much time with someone and not call it that. Anyways doesn't matter as its over. The problem is that she lives directly under me and I have a ton of anxiety about her bringing home a guy and me having to listen to them have sex. I can't sleep at night and feel like I'm losing my mind. I can't afford to move so I'm stuck. She hasn't done it yet but eventually it will happen. I'm not petty and not looking for payback so I'm not going to get her fired. I'm not even mad at her. Happy to move on but I care for her very much and our proximity makes it hard to move on. I feel used and like a fool. I have so much anxiety and having trouble with this. What do I do? Please help me with this.
smmille1122 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 It sucks, I dated the girl living directly below me for a couple months. After we split, it was tough for awhile but you will move on with time. My bedroom is directly over this girls so I was a little freaked out for awhile. Didn't want to hear some other guy and her getting it on. It's the same deal for her. Even if she has another guy, I guarantee she doesn't want to hear you having sex with someone else. Couple things you can do. Get out more, this was an awesome excuse for me to do more things outside. Get involved in an adult sports league, coed of course. Get a noise cancellation machine and turn it on in the evenings. Don't focus on what she is doing. Don't look to see if her car is outside. Cut all contact with her except to say hi in passing. After you meet someone new, you really will not care what she is doing. Good luck!
aisuru Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Ahhh yes... I had a FWB situation with a neighbor. I should've thought that one through a little more. He eventually moved.
crederer Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Oi. That sucks. Ya, spending nearly every day together for 7 months I could see how you'd feel attached. Also, it is downright disrespectful for her to say she's only sleeping with you because you hook her up with stuff. Wow. But you should have made things more clear about your intentions after you guys started hanging out all the time. I mean were you going on dates and acting like bf/gf or was it just sex?
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