iouaname Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 So I won't go into detail about the breakup, but it was not fun for either of us. It got vicious at times, but since we were long distance, it was relatively easy to remain no contact. Now that I'm home for the summer, I imagine that my ex and I will be hanging out with a lot of the same people. A part of me feels that I've allowed myself to be somewhat of a doormat. He is resentful towards me and I am a little resentful towards him as well, the difference is that I try to be kind and make things amicable while he seems to prefer that I drop off the face of the earth. However, I don't feel like isolating those friends and removing myself from having a life this summer just because my ex feels uncomfortable. I mean - that's his problem then, right? He can stop coming to things. He is quite two-faced with me. Polite to my face and then very catty behind my back, but whatever, I don't address it because I don't feel like creating drama, so I just let it slide and am hoping to just keep my head held high and just be myself, as uncomfortable as it is for me sometimes. I guess I'm just looking for advice on what to do in this situation? The breakup was 5 months ago (almost 6), there has been a lot of drama and a lot of bad decisions on both ends. This has killed actual romantic feelings for each other. I guess the awkwardness is unavoidable, but are there things that I could do to make it better between us in that situation or no? as far as being 'friends' with an ex, I don't think that we'll ever be able to be true friends but I no longer have feelings for him. All of the feelings that I have are just self-esteem issues left over, and I genuinely do not care if he is seeing someone else or not. As far as his dating life goes, I do feel pretty indifferent. Should I just go about my own business, chatting with these people and being friends, and then let him go about his without putting in any effort to make things amicable?
Author iouaname Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 any advice? My mother has said that I should just cut all of the friends out so that I don't risk being around my ex at all, but I am worried that if I did that I would spend the summer quite depressed and isolated.
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