Pardon_me Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 I visited a relationship counselor, to get out of my situation with my, I guess now, exMM. I think it is really going to help, my assignment before next session is to write a "Good-bye" letter to him, but don't send it. I have to read it to her next week. The thought of that really hurts me because I feel like a part of me still refuses to let him go completely. I am going to do it, begrudgingly. She also referred me to a support group, which again is daunting for me. I think that I will go next Saturday, I just didn't feel ready today. I am also contemplating posting our (my?) story on here, but not really sure about that one either. I hope it gets to the "feeling better phase" soon, because right now every day seems harder.
lilmisscantbewrong Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 It takes time - lots of time. I'm glad you are seeing a counselor - that will help immensely and even though you may see some of these exercises as futile they really do help. I wrote goodbye letters (a couple actually) - one I buried, another I burned. I thought I got rid of his love letters to me but about a year ago I was cleaning out a cabinet and I found copies I must have made - I went out and buried them and planted flowers over top - I don't know why but it felt good. Tell your story when, and if, you are ready.
whichwayisup Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 I visited a relationship counselor, to get out of my situation with my, I guess now, exMM. I think it is really going to help, my assignment before next session is to write a "Good-bye" letter to him, but don't send it. I have to read it to her next week. The thought of that really hurts me because I feel like a part of me still refuses to let him go completely. I am going to do it, begrudgingly. She also referred me to a support group, which again is daunting for me. I think that I will go next Saturday, I just didn't feel ready today. I am also contemplating posting our (my?) story on here, but not really sure about that one either. I hope it gets to the "feeling better phase" soon, because right now every day seems harder. Don't be afraid of truly letting go and giving up all hope. Accept that it's really over. While you're writing that letter, from your heart - let your emotions out too. Grieve the loss, once and for all. That pain is final! Once you get through that bit, you'll hurt but life will go with the continued help your therapist and group therapy too. Of course too, rely on good friends that you trust and will make you laugh while they wipe your tears.
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