Giha Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 Hey. Me again. I've had a dream about my ex last night. Doesn't really matter what it was about, but it did bring up tons of emotions all day long. Self blame being the most dominant. I just don't know how to shake this feeling. We've had our ups and downs but nothing too bad, really. When I try to think rationally I think "If it really bothered her and if she really cared, she should've talked to me and try to work things out instead of just bailing". And maybe she just really didn't care enough to try. But still for some reason the whole coulda-shoulda-woulda phase is back from nowhere. I know I was a great boyfriend to her (though not perfect) but I just can't shake this feeling that I'm to blame for driving her away. Any tips\insights\tough love to help me get my mind straight again? to shake this feeling? It's really breaking me and I was doing so well...
Author Giha Posted May 25, 2013 Author Posted May 25, 2013 stop sitting aal day long looking around. get busy. make your day busy with family freinds, hobbies, job etc. have a walk in the nature and look at the relationship for one last time and see what you did good and what you did bad and work on it and get a lesson out of it and move on . and do it better in the next relationship. this can make you a better person or a worse person, its up to you. by being busy soon you wil see that you did not spent time thinking about her. Honestly I've been out with friends from morning till now (its evening here). I've been keeping busy most of the time. I'm just having one of those days...
siankat Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 ok i read the op but not the subsequent messages. I have asked most of my exes what my bad traits were in a relationship and despite being told i was a great person, and girlfriend....there were a couple of trends to the negative. Stuff i never would have guessed at. These were from guys i dated long term, years apart, different backgrounds so the common theme was me, not just their take. Was really interesting and useful to be aware of! I suggest asking the exes (once time has passed and the ones you may still be in contact with on friendly terms) what it was that drove them away or if they weren't driven away, what they found difficult about you.
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