Author ShiningMoon Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 (edited) I ended up sending him a text to which he responded within the minute (pretty quick for someone who supposedly is on vacation). I basically said no biggie. Hope he's having fun. We'll just hang out later, no date, no etiquette. I didn't know how to reject his date suggestion in a polite non-confrontational manner, that's all I could think of. I thought if I told him we'd just hang out as opposed to a date, he'd get the rejection message because the date was his idea. It might be far fetched, but whatever. To which he said : "Hang out, date, whatever, it all sounds good to me" (still not over himself, no apology). I just responded "we'll schedule this later". The conversation ended there, nothing from him. Edited May 26, 2013 by ShiningMoon
jolie_baby Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I ended up sending him a text to which he responded within the minute (pretty quick for someone who supposedly is on vacation). I basically said no biggie. Hope he's having fun. We'll just hang out later, no date, no etiquette. I didn't know how to reject his date suggestion in a polite non-confrontational manner, that's all I could think of. I thought if I told him we'd just hang out as opposed to a date, he'd get the rejection message because the date was his idea. It might be far fetched, but whatever. To which he said : "Hang out, date, whatever, it all sounds good to me" (still not over himself, no apology). I just responded "we'll schedule this later". The conversation ended there, nothing from him. My idea is that if you wanted to tell him it bothered you you'd better said what exactly bothered you, and not letting it out in something else, such as changing the status of your set up from 'date' to 'hang out' because that, to him, may sound unreasonable and maybe a bit unjustified.... and in case he was genuinely interested before, this may put him off... again from the exchange of texts, it seems you are taking this more seriously than he is... which could be simply a difference in character and general attitude and not a sign of more/ less interest... my advise for you is to relax a bit... and just let him communicate next time and schedule something... when you actually see him, that would be the time to discuss this whole issue... good luck!
Eddie Edirol Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 You should have called him. You cant keep deliberatly keep the tone cold in text to avoid looking needy to him, while getting miffed that he's keeping it cold to you in a text. You should be talking on the phone to gauge his voice instead, then you will really know if he is a egocentric as you project him to be. You cant judge cold texts if you continue to send cold texts.
Author ShiningMoon Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 You should have called him. You cant keep deliberatly keep the tone cold in text to avoid looking needy to him, while getting miffed that he's keeping it cold to you in a text. You should be talking on the phone to gauge his voice instead, then you will really know if he is a egocentric as you project him to be. You cant judge cold texts if you continue to send cold texts. @Eddie Edirol : Thank you for your response. If it were up to me, I would have called. However, calling would have indeed made me look needy and he's on vacation with his friends, so I didn't want to bother him. But I agree on the fact that me sending cold texts is not going to help as it's more likely to put him off. @jolie_baby : Thank you very much for your response. You're right, retrospectively, changing the status was not necessarily the best move. However, he didn't seem to care (the word 'whatever' shows). He's definitely taking it more lightly because that's how he is in real life, very easy going and collected. I should probably tone it down.
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