irc333 Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 Here's another angle or slant on dating single parents. Sure, some may not mind dating single parents, even they may even like children...but, do you ever find yourself being blown off for a kid's social life? "Sorry, I can't go out this weekend, I am supervising the Cub Scouts camp out this weekend " or "Sorry, Little Johnny wants to have his friends over to hang out, so I can't go anywhere" or "Little Johnny and his friends want to go to the mall Fri night, so I have to take the suburban and drive them around town" Etc, etc, etc. Ever had to compete with a child's activities?.
phineas Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 All the time. I have a 4&6yr old. On one than more occasion i've had women I sort of know ask me last second on a friday to "hang out". That's about as close to asking me out that most women can handle. LOL! 9/10 I can't do it because I got my kids every Friday & I hate trying to unload them on my parents for the night last min. Plus i haven't seen them in a few days by that point so my kids need to know ahead of time they won't see me until Saturday & that their sleeping at my parents or then they get upset. Give me a few days notice so everyone can be prepared. So when I tell them I can't, they take it as rejection & avoid talking to me for a while. Whatever. This is why when I ask someone out with kids I give them advanced notice. If you ask someone out & they say they can't because of kids it isn't a blow-off. If they cancel last min. because of something with the kids it could be a blow-off because she should of already arranged for someone to take the kids. Women who are using their kids as an excuse don't reschedule. So i will consider us done if she doesn't reschedule. 1
Author irc333 Posted May 25, 2013 Author Posted May 25, 2013 Well, I"m not talking really about what parent has what kids for alternating weekends, that's the standard and expected. But there are some parents that have kids, even Jr. or even HS aged..that kind of cater to their kids social life "Sorry, Johnny's got a soccer game tonight, can't do it" or "Jonny's friends are over for the weekend, I have to stick around to supervise" etc etc etc All the time. I have a 4&6yr old. On one than more occasion i've had women I sort of know ask me last second on a friday to "hang out". That's about as close to asking me out that most women can handle. LOL! 9/10 I can't do it because I got my kids every Friday & I hate trying to unload them on my parents for the night last min. Plus i haven't seen them in a few days by that point so my kids need to know ahead of time they won't see me until Saturday & that their sleeping at my parents or then they get upset. Give me a few days notice so everyone can be prepared. So when I tell them I can't, they take it as rejection & avoid talking to me for a while. Whatever. This is why when I ask someone out with kids I give them advanced notice. If you ask someone out & they say they can't because of kids it isn't a blow-off. If they cancel last min. because of something with the kids it could be a blow-off because she should of already arranged for someone to take the kids. Women who are using their kids as an excuse don't reschedule. So i will consider us done if she doesn't reschedule.
phineas Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 Well, I"m not talking really about what parent has what kids for alternating weekends, that's the standard and expected. But there are some parents that have kids, even Jr. or even HS aged..that kind of cater to their kids social life "Sorry, Johnny's got a soccer game tonight, can't do it" or "Jonny's friends are over for the weekend, I have to stick around to supervise" etc etc etc Oh I see. Yes! A manager at work has this problem. Her highschool aged kids are big into sports & have GF's & she is constantly going to their games or not leaving her house for fear of them getting it on. LOL! I call her the biggest happy hr tease I know because she tells us her & her husband are going but never show because of something with the kids. But again, if you are asking someone with kids to do something that night or the night before expect the answer to be no. People with kids need time to fit you into their plans. If they are into you, they will.
apple OR orange Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 Ive head this as excuses alot many years ago, infact was almost number one reason to not want to communicate, "my son came back after repairing his car, i need to get him a drink" (evidently the whole night). He had the car fixed, when i order drinks it takes 5 mins tops....
phineas Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 Ive head this as excuses alot many years ago, infact was almost number one reason to not want to communicate, "my son came back after repairing his car, i need to get him a drink" (evidently the whole night). He had the car fixed, when i order drinks it takes 5 mins tops.... I've had those excuses also. Funny thing, when we were just friends I never heard them. It was only when she said she wanted to date to keep me from dating other women that I started hearing them. So, whenever I start hearing those excuses again (and that is all they are, excuses) I stop wasting my time on them.
Luckydad Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 LOL! I'm one of those offenders! My kids play soccer, have PT jobs, are involved in fundraising, have busy social lives, etc. I'm forever blowing off requests from friends to socialize (Thankfully, I don't date or have any extracurricular activities with members of the opposite sex) because I'm always tied up with some kind of kid-related endeavor. While the majority of my friends "get it", the ones who don't and become the biggest complainers that "I never do anything" are the ones who are not parents. Not really that much of a surprise.
hppr Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 I have had single mommies blow me off for the kids before and I don't mind it. Lots more admiration for them since they are actually raising their kids vs. the ones who dump em with grandma so they can go out and get loaded at the clubs.
Author irc333 Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 I have had single mommies blow me off for the kids before and I don't mind it. Lots more admiration for them since they are actually raising their kids vs. the ones who dump em with grandma so they can go out and get loaded at the clubs. Yeah, but, there is such thing as overdoing it, you know.
mammasita Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Yeah, but, there is such thing as overdoing it, you know. It's all about balance.
hppr Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Yeah, but, there is such thing as overdoing it, you know. In those cases she either doesn't really want a relationship with you, or she doesn't want a relationship with anyone. Yeah those kinds of people will say they do but when dating time comes they always flake. So don't think too much on it.
Author irc333 Posted May 29, 2013 Author Posted May 29, 2013 In those cases she either doesn't really want a relationship with you, or she doesn't want a relationship with anyone. Yeah those kinds of people will say they do but when dating time comes they always flake. So don't think too much on it. Actually, women with kids that are on the younger side, they might be better off waiting until their children are at least driving age and getting into their own social lives to a point where they don't want to be around their parents as much in order for the mother to date. Wait till they're a bit grown first.
tbf Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Not so much the children but my husband gets in the way of dating. 1
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