guest55 Posted October 2, 2004 Posted October 2, 2004 He said that I completed him........but he cheated. How can that be? I always thought when you complete someone there is no room for anyone else,nor do you want to have anyone else. Can someone please explain this to me??
disconcertainly Posted October 2, 2004 Posted October 2, 2004 Your man may love you but when someone cheats that means that in some part of the relationship that they are not happy. Its probably nothing you did. Sme guys freak out when they realize that they really like a girl. Just follow your heart you will be able to make the right choice.
DazednConfused Posted October 2, 2004 Posted October 2, 2004 Cheating does not always mean that he/she is unhappy with any part of the relationship. Some people do things out of character and are just weak in the face of temptation.
disconcertainly Posted October 2, 2004 Posted October 2, 2004 Dazed....please give me an example of someone who cheated that was totally happy in a relationship. Anyone else is free to leave a post as well. I have never heard of some one saying GEE I AM SO IN LOVE MY G/F BUT I THINK I WILL JUST GOT f*** ANOTHER WOMAN B/C I AM TEMPTED.
dyermaker Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 I think the point being made is that sometimes it's not a premeditated act out of dissatisfaction, but a momentary yield to temptation.
guest55 Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 IMO, if you find someone who completes you then you have no room for anyone else. We are faced with temptation everyday but if you truly love someone you will always think about them before doing something that would or could hurt them or destroy the relationship. My guy, when confronted, told me that they have a connection and in the 10 months that they have only been together twice. Which made it worse for me because it was not for sex but rather an emotional affair. He came clean about everything and when I asked him if he told her he loves her, he said yes. But, that he loves me. I told him to leave and figure things out, while I do the same. I think that I'm doing the right thing, but part of me is unsure. Any thoughts??
izzybelle Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 guest, i guess my main questions for you are whether or not you really believe there was no sex involved and whether or not you trust that it won't happen again? i've always wondered what exactly my exMM told his wife when he got caught and "came clean." we also had only been together twice when she found out but had developed a very strong emotional tie. she originally asked him to leave but then went back on that and they are trying to work things out. there has always been the temptation, on my part, to call her and find out. but i also know that it will serve no purpose except perhaps to clarify some things for me as to how honest he really was with me. she had emailed me once telling me that i knew nothing about their relationship and i've always been curious whether it really was as bad as he said, or if it was just a plea for sympathy from me. she had told me that i was not his first affair and wouldn't be his last so obviously, at least on some level, she believes it will happen again. even if he tells you it was a mistake and it won't happen again, do you honestly believe in your heart that he's telling you the truth or just saying what he knows you want to hear? i'm sorry if some of this sounds hurtful and like i'm trying to say "don't trust him" but i do believe it is a question you need to ask yourself if you're going to make a decision to stay, or go.
crowdreamer Posted October 6, 2004 Posted October 6, 2004 What he *meant* to say was, "You, in addition to this other woman, complete me." He just misstated himself is all.
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