calgary Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 Hey, Basically, this girl has been in a relationship with a guy for 5 years. she was on a break from him when we met a couple of years ago, we ended up hooking up that night, we met up every weekend at a club with our friends, and we'd just see each other on nights out. it was fun and nothing serious as I was moving away we both knew I couldn't commit.. she cried the night I said goodbye. I was the second person she had slept with at this point.. When I came home 4 months later, she was in a relationship with one of my best friends ( and I mean ridiculously good friends) so I just let it be, I was happy for him. I bowed out gracefully. got myself what I thought was a nice girlfriend who I ended up dating for a year. just as I started going out with my girlfriend at the time, this girl broke up with my friend.. so it was a bit awkward. but I stook with this new girl... In the space of a year this girl slept with 3 of my best friends.. she's managed to sleep with 11 people in total including me. she cheated on her boyfriend and admitted that to me. I think she's got herself a bit of a reputation now which sucks.. I broke up with my girlfriend 5 months ago.. this girl started texting me and we started hanging out a little, she's broken up with her boyfriend since.. we're texting daily, I've slept at hers twice ( but no sex, she said she wants it to be special as cheesy as it sounds ) she makes an effort and makes really lovely food, buys in drinks, gets a movie. we walked my dog and had a picnic the other day.. just kissing and cuddling but nothing more. it's been really nice, I really enjoy her company a lot. she's a fun person and she's really kind and really attractive.. I'm worried about commiting to her, because I've been messed around so much in the passed, and obviously with her cheating on her boyfriend of 5 years, and hooking up with 3 of my friends, I really feel as though she'd do the same to me ? I don't even know how I feel about the thought of her sleeping with my friends, it actually doesn't bother me all that much, compared to what it does with the strangers. I don't know why ? I should probably stay well away from this one. But it's a shame because I genuinely like her and spending time with her. I don't know what to think. I think this girl is trouble. I think i'm paranoid as it is.. at least she'd been honest and admitted she cheated and how many people she's been with and she's making the effort and taking things slow with me ? she told me all the others were just one nights stands and didn't really mean anything, she regretted a lot of it. I think she's sort of at the other side of G.I.G.S, what should I think? she's liked me for a long time. It's like she's wanting a fresh start. Help. I love this website.
AsonUnique Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 I've never been able to sleep with a girl that slept with my friends...a girl is permanently off limits to me as soon as they sleep with a friend of mine, but that's just me. It sounds like you'll have a tough time keeping emotions out of it. Keep in mind that the chances for happily ever after are much more slim than trouble in the future. I can't tell you what to think, but I do wish you luck in whatever direction you take.
Tinie Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 I think your fears are not unreasonable. I'd be careful with her. If you find you can't handle your emotions around her, stop seeing her. At the moment, to her, you are a shiny new toy, but some time later she might get tired of you and go screw around with someone else behind your back like she did behind her boyfriend's. Behaviour like hers can be changed, but it's difficult and she'd have to be willing herself.
jolie_baby Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 You seem really into her if sleeping with 3 of your friends doesn't bother you... Given how much you like her, I would give it a try... BUT be very cautious, and even BE READY TO RECOGNIZE SIGNS /patterns of behavior that could tell you she hasn't changed... At the dawn of any one such sign, I would run away and never turn back...
Author calgary Posted May 25, 2013 Author Posted May 25, 2013 thanks everyone! Like I said, I've been messed around a lot in the passed. So I get really paranoid and jump to conclusions fast / get upset easily. It probably won't work out, but in the mean time I should just probably enjoy spending time with her, without getting too attached right ? She's going out drinking tonight, she wanted me to go but i'm not going to. I should assume that she may hook up with somebody else tonight. It still says on facebook that she's in a relationship with her boyfriend. and yet she's invited me over to watch movies tomorrow night. there's other girls after me, I could really just have fun with a few girls and not commit to any, which I think would be the best thing for me personally right now, as i'm afraid to get attached, but it feels like the wrong thing to do, to lead a bunch of girls on.
Shepp Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 The girl im big time interested in and have been for ages has slept with a lot of guys, shes got a reputation and shes trouble but that dosent bother me - im not fussed about being the first guy shes slept with, I only want to be the last! Im in a similar situation, ive got girls interested in me, but as nice as they are there not her and I would just be leading them on cause im not interested in them really. For the right girl, her past dosent bother me, I guess I just know that none of those guys were right for her and that's why it dosent work - and if it dosent work at least I can say I tried and that I never just chucked the towel in! I mean its definitely a gamble, but all the best things in life come with risk, its whether your prepared to take it?
apple OR orange Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 if a woman knows anyone i know (and i dont know many at all) then i wont go near them.
Mack05 Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 LS you want to take a guess at what happens in this ongoing soap opera? Let's call this soap opera 'Calgary'. I'm going to give these characters names. Calgary is Dwayne His ex mate, lets call him Shane His ex lets call her Stephanie His new girl lets call her Katie.. So what have we so far... First you have Katie turn on Stephanie.. Stephanie turns on Dwayne.. Shane turns on Dwayne.. Stephanie screams at Dwayne.. Stephanie screams at Katie.. What's next? Stephanie's dog takes a crap on Shane's living room carpet, cause in a twist no one saw Shane can't get an erection for 8 months... So what name will we give this 'new' character? Calgary you seek out drama. The question is why.....Once you figure that out you might start making some progess, because this is just another train wreck waiting to happen.... 1
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