ThatGuy195 Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 My girlfriend of 5 years broke it off because she didnt feel the love in the relationship anymore , this was about a month ago, i have only done NC for about 2 weeks, things didnt start to go south till about a month and a half before the end and that was about the time we moved in with her parents. She says she loves me but is not in love, we were a great couple and always taked **** through, i didnt have much of a chance to fix anything till it was too late, 2 weeks before she broke it off she told me she had doubts about the relationship and would see how it went over the next 2 months, never got the chance. what are the chances of getting her to fall fall for me again, and do i let nc take its path and hope for the best or do i make some effort to do something about it,
Leigh 87 Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 yeah you don't ever get an ex back if they are not IN love with you. Even when exes leave and they ARE still IN love with you, they rarely come back for a genuine second chance anyway. NC is the best for all break ups in any case. My ex said he never stopped loving me and loved me as much as he could love a person, but he left because the actual relationship was not working. I have still gone NC on him, even though he hinted that he still loved me and wanted to be with me again one day. Although initially I still had hopes for us, since he still did love me. With you though: if he ex had told me that he lacked feelings for me romantically, I would have INSTANTLY blocked him out, as not having enough feelings for you is never going to change. Either way, I hope you can cut contact with her and move on! It normally takes about 3 months to move on to a good extent, IF you cut all contact and have no hope for a reconciliation; any contact will set you back and take you longer to move on from her.
BustedUpInside Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 what are the chances of getting her to fall fall for me again, and do i let nc take its path and hope for the best or do i make some effort to do something about it, I feel for you. It really is hard to recover when your significant other seems to want to break up out of nowhere. That being said, I don't think that your focus should be on ways to get your ex back. I think it would be a waste of your time to focus on how to get her back. The chances are that she won't come back. If she does, you won't be able to tell when that might be. Your best option is to take care of yourself. Work on getting through the emotions of the break up and try to make yourself as happy as possible in the meantime. I know that you want her back, and that not being in contact seems counter-intuitive to achieving that goal, but your best shot of getting over her or getting her to miss you is to leave her alone for awhile. Good luck and I hope you start feeling better soon
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