redsand424 Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 Hi, this is Ryan. Alright, this girl that I'm in love with broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years about 4 months ago. Right after they broke up we started seeing each other alot because we kept in touch all while they were together. We have been seeing each other for about 3 months and we both like each other sooo much, but recently her ex boyfriend has been calling her and apologizing for breaking up and wanting to get back together. Now, she is confused and doesn't know what to do. She says she doesnt want to get back together with him because she's happy with me, but she does still think about him and she isn't completely over him. She says she just doesn't know what to do. Does anyone know what I can do to help her make up her mind?
Merin Posted October 2, 2004 Posted October 2, 2004 Originally posted by redsand424 Hi, this is Ryan. Alright, this girl that I'm in love with broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years about 4 months ago. Right after they broke up we started seeing each other alot because we kept in touch all while they were together. We have been seeing each other for about 3 months and we both like each other sooo much, but recently her ex boyfriend has been calling her and apologizing for breaking up and wanting to get back together. Now, she is confused and doesn't know what to do. She says she doesnt want to get back together with him because she's happy with me, but she does still think about him and she isn't completely over him. She says she just doesn't know what to do. Does anyone know what I can do to help her make up her mind? Sorry Ryan... It sounds like she might have been on the rebound... Her boyfriend of 2 years broke up with her, and obvioulsy that isn't what she wanted when it happened. You were there for her... (and I'm not saying she doesn't like you) but instead of taking some time to get over the feelings she had for this other guy and getting resolution... she started something with you. Now he is calling her again and wants another chance... she might be afraid to give him the opportunity because she is afraid he might hurt her again and if she went back to him and it didn't work out... well then there is the potential that she will have lost you in the process. The only person who can make up her mind... is HER. Hope it goes the way you want it to:)
redsand424 Posted October 2, 2004 Posted October 2, 2004 It's Ryan again, I understand what you meant in your reply to my original message, but the thing that makes the situation more difficult for her and I (mainly her) is that she doesn't really want to get back together with him again. She told me that herself. I think the only reason she would is because it's like her comfort zone, and it's what she's used to. So you're gonna call me sometime?
bluechocolate Posted October 2, 2004 Posted October 2, 2004 Does anyone know what I can do to help her make up her mind? There are 3 of you involved here. Let her go. By her own admission she has yet to finish with that relationship.
Merin Posted October 2, 2004 Posted October 2, 2004 Originally posted by redsand424 It's Ryan again, I understand what you meant in your reply to my original message, but the thing that makes the situation more difficult for her and I (mainly her) is that she doesn't really want to get back together with him again. She told me that herself. I think the only reason she would is because it's like her comfort zone, and it's what she's used to. So you're gonna call me sometime? Ryan, She may be telling you that she doesn't want to get back together with him... However, IF she hasn't told HIM that she isn't interested in getting back together with him... well then it really remains to be seen as to what she really does want. "So you're gonna call me sometime?" Yes, I'm gonna call you sometime! haha!
ROBMONSTER Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 Alright Ryan Heres The Delio Shmeelio. I'm A Guy To And The Exact Same Thing Happended To Me. First Off You Tell Her '' Look Alright, I Know You Just Broke Up And Stuff But I Need A Solid Answer, Do You Want To Be With Him Or With Me?'' And Give Her A Time Limit Dude. No Biggy. Warning: Do Not Act Like Her Mom You Know, When You Do This Don't Make It An Order. It Is Her Mind.
Jose Posted September 15, 2005 Posted September 15, 2005 Rebound syndrome! Even if she does not go back with her ex, it´s going to take some time for her to fully recover, if you stay by her side, chances are that you will experience great emotional pain, because she will continue to think about her ex, she will probably continue to comunicate with him, or have fantasies about the reunion with her ex and so on. It seems to me that she has not completed the termination process so it is not a good idea for you to get involved in a relationship that has not totally finished, you will probably get hurt, move on, let go.
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