RTX Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 I have decided to take my 16 year old daughter to visit her 21 year old sister in jail who is there for one year for a hit and run DUI. I was against taking her since I didn't want her to be in that prison environment and also I didn't want her to go through the hassle of getting in and then not even getting much time to speak, but I have decided to let her since she asks asking and expressing desire to visit her. One thing I wonder is what they can talk about in their short visiting period. Also, what should I tell my younger daughter in advance? Some say to use this as a "learning experience" for my younger daughter. What does that mean? is it even a good idea to allow her to visit?
Author RTX Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 Minimum security facility? well I believe so. I hope she is not with a bunch of murderers or anything.
ASG Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 Well... they'll talk about whatever they want to talk. I don't think it's up to you to decide what they can or cannot talk about. Your younger daughter is 16, not 6. At 16, while it might still be a bit of a shock, she is almost an adult. Let her figure it out and don't interfere too much, but be there for support! 1
SincereOnlineGuy Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I have decided to take my 16 year old daughter to visit her 21 year old sister in jail who is there for one year for a hit and run DUI. I was against taking her since I didn't want her to be in that prison environment and also I didn't want her to go through the hassle of getting in and then not even getting much time to speak, but I have decided to let her since she asks asking and expressing desire to visit her. One thing I wonder is what they can talk about in their short visiting period. Also, what should I tell my younger daughter in advance? Some say to use this as a "learning experience" for my younger daughter. What does that mean? is it even a good idea to allow her to visit? It should occur to a parent of multiple children, one of whom is in prison, that nothing could be wiser than to show the others just what the inmate is having to endure. Beyond that, and on behalf of the 21yo sister, allow them to talk about anything they see fit (within the bounds of prison rules, of course). You might even consider ways to let them talk alone, without your being immediately near to monitor. They're still sisters, more than anything, and at the very least you want to maintain any relationship they have, as it will most likely outlast you (we hope). Are there candy machines available in the visitation area, at which you might be able to dawdle indecisively, so as to let your daughters talk?? Beyond painting a picture of the process through security, I don't know that there is too much you'd need to tell your younger daughter in advance.
hppr Posted May 29, 2013 Posted May 29, 2013 Let the talk on the phone there are phone cards you can buy prisoners and then they can call pretty much all they like. When my idiot retard moron younger brother was locked up in county I bought him one so that he could call me up and whine like a bitch about how horrible it was lol.
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