Elias18 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 I need some opinions: if you like to move on after the breakup (mine was 3 months ago, after a short relationship), is it advisable to keep visiting LS? It's very nice to vent your feelings and frustrations and there are lovely people with good advice, but everytime you visit LS you will remember your ex. Isn't there a time to really "get over it" and stop thinking and obsessing about your ex? Isn't there a point when you must stop thinking about the ex and stop the thoughts? What do you think?
GI_Joy Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 I believe the experience is different for everyone on here. Many who are fixated on a break-up will tend to only post in the break-up/moving on forums in hopes that they'll find an opportunity to talk about their own story in new threads. But there are also many others who find that LS is actually an interesting community to contribute in. I found that for myself. I started going here because of a break-up but I found that LS has a lot of people who give great advice on many other different things. I am now able to post on here without having to ruminate about my past relationship. And may I add that many others on here have a newfound sense of wisdom and maturity and use that to help others who are suffering.
BustedUpInside Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 I believe the experience is different for everyone on here. Many who are fixated on a break-up will tend to only post in the break-up/moving on forums in hopes that they'll find an opportunity to talk about their own story in new threads. But there are also many others who find that LS is actually an interesting community to contribute in. I found that for myself. I started going here because of a break-up but I found that LS has a lot of people who give great advice on many other different things. I am now able to post on here without having to ruminate about my past relationship. I completely agree! If a person is visiting this site mainly to help with the trauma of a break up then it certainly makes sense that when that trauma is no longer felt, then the person should probably move on, but if you're the kind of person who, at first, came here to get over a break up but then really start to feel that your contributions are actually helpful to others, then it can be a good way to share your experience and success story to those who are at the beginning of the process. Give something back for all the advice that you got at the beginning. Without that advice, I know that my process would still be a lot harder than it is already.
Chi townD Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 I've been coming here for a long while and my only reason is to help people cope and get their life back on track. I've been here so long that I've seen a tons of people come and go (and that's the way it should be). They should be able to come here, get the help and the tools that they need to heal. Once they get on the road to recovery their postings become less and less until they're not here anymore. So, at that point, I can safely say that, that particular poster has found the strength to move on. Job done! Next case!!! Although,it is really nice when folks come back 6 months or a year and update us on how well there lives are now. Those are fantastic to read. 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 I find I like to just vent or ask for support and advice. It helps when I really need it. I also like to throw my two cents in after I feel I have learned a valuable lesson or reached a mile-stone. I would really like to be one of those who slowly ween myself off as I get better and stronger. However, not there yet, so you will probably see me around for a while. But I'm working on it . Sometimes, though, I do feel I need a break as I will read something or get a piece of feedback that sets me back. Something I hadn't thought of or realized before. Or just something that triggers some memory or other sadness. Luckily, I have gotten better at weeding through these and only getting just what I need. Still happens from time to time though… BU's are tough and sometimes just when you think you are climbing out of the whole. BAM, right back down you go. At least now I recognize that for what it is when it's happening. Still sucks though 1
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