lso802 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 first off, i'm not that great of a catch. i'm descent. what am i is, i guess, caring. that tends to attract a lot of people to me. recently, i've had to turn down a really great person. i told her i didn't like her romantically and would like to be friends. for some reason, she still had some hope that friendship would lead to romance. i don't want anyone to have hope for me and wait, when they could open themselves up to someone much better. what i've been doing when someone obviously likes me is be less caring than i usually am, & they eventually hate my guts b/c of the change. i figure at least their hating me would lead to getting over me that much quicker? seriously, it hurts to keep losing people who could have been great friends, and having people hate you doesn't feel all that great either. should i just suck up the hate? am i doing the right thing?
AsonUnique Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Are you really not interested in that girl or do you feel like you don't deserve her? I'm assuming it's the former, but buck up man, you sound like you're selling yourself short! I use to do the passive-aggressive thing to ease girls away too. Some got mad initially, but I've always been good at turning them to friends eventually. I'm still friends with most of my exes and girls I've dated...probably b/c I was never an actual jerk to them. What I do now is try to emphasize just meeting as friends at first. This lets them know not to expect too much and it can also help take off some pressure. Just an idea for the future.. 1
crederer Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Why do you not have romantic feelings for this person? Just curious. I hate it when people say "it's just a feeling" because to me, that is a weak answer. 1
Author lso802 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 i think most of these girls don't even know me to be honest.
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