mhykie Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 (edited) It's been over 4 months. We haven't communicated. I'm a Filipina of 25, and he's American of 42. We haven't met yet, but our relationship lasted for 4 months. After few weeks of breakup, we sorta texted for a while then I stopped. I didn't logon (i didnt use phone), so that I can't see his msgs and that i wont be tempted to txt him back. But his birthday is coming. Should I text him a flat-rated, emotionless "Happy birthday"? What do you think he would think of me? I don't have any intentions to further the communication, just mere greeting him because of what he did and gave to me on my last birthday while we are still on. He's the dumper by the way... Edited May 24, 2013 by mhykie
Elias18 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Ask yourself what will you gain wishing him a happy birthday? You are the dumpee, you owe him nothing! If you are NC for about 4 months, why should you break it? It's just a ordinary day.. 1
TaraMaiden Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 mhykie, the short answer to your question, is 'No don't contact him at all, for any reason.' The long answer to your question is... Well, actually, there is no long answer. That's it.
Author mhykie Posted May 25, 2013 Author Posted May 25, 2013 Well, I've read somewhere that it may be a good sign of no hurt feelings. At least he may know that after all what he's done to me, I'm not bitter, and that I still remember his birthday, letting him know also that he hasn't been just nothing in my life. Also, for the sake of good ol' times... How about that? Like what I mentioned, it's just to greet him, nothing more. I don't expect for communication to came flowing back, because I don't want him back to my life either.. Thanks for the answers btw..
mbee Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 You need to be honest with yourself. I know what it's like to find reasons to contact your ex and rationalize it. Be honest. Are you NOT completely over him? Do you want anything from him? Do you have expectations that he will respond? Do you want to spark anything or see if he misses you? If any of these are a "yes" then DO NOT contact him. If you have moved on and don't care. If you are content with not getting a response, then sure go ahead and say "happy birthday" and that's it. Honestly, if you are asking us this question then it sounds like feelings may still be there. Avoid it if there are. Only do this if you have moved on and really don't care one way or the other if he responds.
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