Ctown3715 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 My ex girlfriend and I dated for almost 2 years. The last month if the relationship she changed dramatically. She just had so much hatred for me. In her words, she was a raging bi*ch to me. She cried a lot during the last month if the relationship. Next thing I know she breaks up with me over the phone. About 3 weeks later she's dating some other guy who is 30 (she is 22). I don't know if it is a rebound relationship or not but at the moment she seems happy. She wouldn't tell me when she started seeing him because "it's none of my business." Her reasons for breaking up with me are that we are two different people. She has contacted me in some various forms but I'm not sure if I want to take anything from it. She blocked my number and Facebook (she acts hot and cold with me). I'm a month into NC after 2 months since the BU...I feel so lousy at the moment
Chi townD Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Yeah Dude, sorry, but this is textbook behavior. The reason why she was a raging bitch to you is because she developed feelings for this other guy and was probably cheating on you. That's why NOW it's none of your business when it started. Well, come on dude, you have your answer right there! She had to demonize you in her head so she didn't have to feel guilty about what she was doing. " If he wasn't such a jerk, I wouldn't be with this other dude. SO, this is all his fault and he deserves it for treating me badly." But, the funny thing is, she's the one that probably STARTED 85% of the fights! Let me guess, there were times that she picked a fight and then left shortly afterwards? Take a scientific wild ass guess where she went! Thing is she didn't jump ship until she was absolutely sure she could get into a stable relationship with this other dude. And as soon as she confirmed his feelings for her, she dumped you right into the gutter. Now, sooner or later, when the newness of her new relationship cools off. She may start to feel guilt about how she treated you at the end of your relationship and she may reach out to you to see where your head is at. IGNORE HER!!! Time to move on dude. 1
KathyM Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 I'm sorry. As far as what you should do, try to move on and don't contact her, and don't answer her calls if she tries to contact you. She treated you badly. That should be a dealbreaker in a dating relationship. Life is too short to spend your dating years on people who treat you badly.
Author Ctown3715 Posted May 25, 2013 Author Posted May 25, 2013 I'm blocking her Facebook and number. I'm already 28 days into NC. My friend yesterday said he wants to delete her off Facebook since all she does is post pics of her and her new boyfriend. He said its sooo sad....
MrRightNow Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 Great post from Chi town. She definitely had something going on with the new guy before she broke up with you. It could have been worse, she could have done this years down the road after you two were married. Enjoy the freedom you have now. Focus on school/work, hang out with your close friends, take a trip to some country you've always wanted to visit. A woman capable of cheating is worthless anyway. Her loss,not yours.
Author Ctown3715 Posted May 25, 2013 Author Posted May 25, 2013 Would this be an example of grass is greener syndrome?
mbee Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 Yes and no. Given what you told is, it fits the definitions by how this forum describes GIGS however let's remember that this is just a term to describe something that happened. If your woman was 22 and left you for a 30 year old, then there were probably a ton of reasons. What she did was wrong, definitely, and you shouldn't waste anymore time with her since she seems unstable. A 30 year old man will probably not be able to handle her for too long either. I'm sure right now he's just providing her with maturity, stability and other things that she THINKS you couldn't give her. Let it go. In the end it's not about her but you. She's clearly unstable and has a lot of growing up to do. This a woman who needs to undergo some serious changes before even being relationship material. If anyone should be doing GIGS, it's you. Cause right now I KNOW the grass is indeed greener for you with someone else. Let this one go.
Author Ctown3715 Posted May 25, 2013 Author Posted May 25, 2013 The funny part about maturity and stability: he's 30 years old and works at a restaurant...I'm 23 and a working engineer....
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