littleandy Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 How , where , when do i start dating again after splitting up with my gf ( ex ) , im not interested in finding anyone at the moment but i know i hopefully will . i broke up with her about 2 weeks ago now she really messed with my head and feelings ive had N/C now for a few days and im feeling loads better im starting to let go ( finally ) even though i know we was not " right for each other " + she was a bitch ( how i feel anyway ) but i still think about her , not in the same way as i did but just in a caring way , i had written her a letter a few days after we split up ( took me ages to write it ) i didnt want 2 send it straight away i wanted to leave it a few days so we had time to think about stuff and calm down , any way long story ill cut it short . She showed no emotion / feelings when we broke up she said she knew it would happen , but at least she coulda been a lil bit upset about the whole thing , she never did get my letter i wrote her cus a few days after we split up she txt me an told me she was withsome 1 else and she was happy an they get on really well ( well that just kinda killed me ) i had been with her for about 1yr 6months , i tried so hard to please her an make her happy i felt like i did loads for her and its all worth nothing, she didnt seam to miss that i was gone . Im happy now we split up , im just still hurt how shes moved on so god damn fast ( lol bet i dont sound to happy ) but if thats the way she is im glad we finished
neptoon Posted October 2, 2004 Posted October 2, 2004 I think it differs for everyone. For some, it could be a few months. For others it could be years. Depends on the relationship you had with them at the time. A word of caution: dating too soon after a great love won't take away the hurt from those wounds.
ziggue Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 Just make sure to be honest when you start dating again. Make sure the girl knows what you have been through in your last relationship and that you are not looking for anything serious. (Maybe, not sure) Otherwise you may hurt the new girl if the Ex decides to come crawling back.
neptoon Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 It's almost a rule with me to never get back with ex's no matter what. There was a reason why they became an ex. Do I want to go back down the same crappy road or do I want to find a new and better road? I'd rather take my chances with a road I don't know than go back down a road I already know doesn't work for me. There's a difference between a fight-only type breakup and a real break up. After two weeks, I consider it a real break up and I start to think, "What's the point?"
Stylin26 Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 Your significant other should be your biggest cheerleader in the world. If she's rude or disrespectful or bitchy, you really want to keep her around for the rest of your life? If she ain't chanting your name, it's better that she forgets it. ... Things happen for the best reasons. If she comes back at another time and she's grown up cool but be at peace so the next awesome one will stick around. My sister (who is so much smarter than me and she's 8 years younger) told me, well good thing they left now so that better person can get here sooner. Good luck pal
Author littleandy Posted October 5, 2004 Author Posted October 5, 2004 Thanx Stylin26 and thanx 2 ur sis aswell , good words of advice . My ex has started txtin me again no after i had no contact with her , shes askin how i am ? what ive been up 2 ? and today she asks me if im upset with her ? I dont know what she wants from me ? Anyone got any ideas whats shes thinking or what she wants ?
joanne Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 im going through the same problem too. my boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me after deciding that we were too different and his feelings for me had changed...very unexpected since i thought we were perfect for eachother. i dont talk to him anymore but recently he has been texting me with the same questions....how am i, what i've been up to, if i'm mad at him....the truth is, your ex is probably thinking about you..but she doesn't want you back. I believe that they just want to know if we are still suffering while they are doing better...they want to know if we will always be there when they need us, but thats it. cuz if all they are gonna do is TEXT your phone and not call you, then forget that. they are stupid and you deserve better. a text message is a simple way of showing that you are still thinking about someone but you don't want a long conversation...so don't get to worried about the texts...she's dumb just like my ex is dumb.
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