krazikat Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 I just heard this song this morning and...wow. It is a bit older, but is all about a cheating man... Allure, All Cried Out Some of the lyrics: Leaving me all alone Dont you know my tears will cause an inferno Romance often fades Why should I take the blame? You were the one who left me neglected Apology not accepted Add me to the broken hearts you've collected I gave you all of me How was I to know You would weaken so easily Now Im all cried out Over you Man part of song: Never wanted to see things your way Had to go astray Oh why was I such a fool Now I see that the grass aint greener Is it to late for me to find my way home How could I be so wrong 1
Athens Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Here are three from my husband with better theme for you Loves me like Jesus God gave me you Hard to love When they come on he grabs my hand and says I love you, thank you for allowing me to still be in your life- 1
Author krazikat Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 Thanks Athens, I will check them out! There is another song that is a bit more on the positive side that has become our theme song in a way... Love by Musicsoulchild. It is a beautiful song. It sounds like things are going great with your h. I am so happy for you. Things are good with our r. I still have moments of anger and sadness, but he is showing me he is dedicated to us. Its like falling in love all over again. 1
Athens Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Good to hear from you too Kat! You were one that I connected with right at the start as I think we found out around the same time and have similar situations. It does my heart good to hear you are doing well. We are too, ups and downs for sure, but the conversations are calmer as we deal with the issues, it's not as raw as it was and yes, we are falling in love all over again. 1
Author krazikat Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 Good to hear from you too Kat! You were one that I connected with right at the start as I think we found out around the same time and have similar situations. It does my heart good to hear you are doing well. We are too, ups and downs for sure, but the conversations are calmer as we deal with the issues, it's not as raw as it was and yes, we are falling in love all over again. So good to hear! Yes, we definitely have simularities. And even in the r process. It has been so good for me to be able to find that...I felt so alone in the beginning of this whole ordeal. I took a break from posting after the mods killed some threads, but I missed it! 1
NewSouth Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 This is a neat thread. Here is one for the men. I heard this obscure country song by Wanda Jackson from the 60's, I think, for the first time about a month ago. I have to laugh but I think it may have been a partial trigger for the flashbacks I started having last week. But I have to smile It's called: The Dirt Behind My Years It's over I filled our world with hurt I cheated and I lied to you and piled up so much dirt Now I'd lost the only one in life I held so dear I slowly bury your love in the dirt behind my years You had every right to leave as far as I'm concerned You gave all your love to me got nothing in return You tried and I'll bet you'll cry at least the million tears But they just couldn't wash away the dirt behind my years You had every right to leave as far as I'm concerned You gave all your love to me got nothing in return You tried and I'll bet you'll cry at least the million tears But they just couldn't wash away the dirt behind my years 2
Author krazikat Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 This is a neat thread. Here is one for the men. I heard this obscure country song by Wanda Jackson from the 60's, I think, for the first time about a month ago. I have to laugh but I think it may have been a partial trigger for the flashbacks I started having last week. But I have to smile It's called: The Dirt Behind My Years It's over I filled our world with hurt I cheated and I lied to you and piled up so much dirt Now I'd lost the only one in life I held so dear I slowly bury your love in the dirt behind my years You had every right to leave as far as I'm concerned You gave all your love to me got nothing in return You tried and I'll bet you'll cry at least the million tears But they just couldn't wash away the dirt behind my years You had every right to leave as far as I'm concerned You gave all your love to me got nothing in return You tried and I'll bet you'll cry at least the million tears But they just couldn't wash away the dirt behind my years Those are some powerful lyrics...thank you for sharing them. I can see how they could trigger, and the painful memories of an A may fade, but never be completely gone. Especially when the ws really did love their spouse. I will be listening to this when I get the chance. 1
Author krazikat Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 I have another 3 songs...this is more for those angry bs moments...I found they helped me in my anger...and are a bit humorous in a way...I think of them as anger venting songs...and they accompany a boxing session perfectly 1. Kelis - Caught out there 2. Jazmine Sullivan - Bust your windows 3. Rihanna - Breakin dishes 2
waterwoman Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 How about 'hate you you so much right now' by kelis:D 4
Author krazikat Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 How about 'hate you you so much right now' by kelis:D That is on my list but maybe I had the wrong name...caught out there...and I listened to it over and over after dday....so fitting. 1
Spotme Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 There's a song I mentioned in another thread that's not specifically about cheating, but about surviving the "storms" of life that affect relationships. It's called "Love's Recovery" by the Indigo Girls. In particular there's one phrase that I feel captures how I felt right after DDay when I had to figure out in the midst of this storm of emotion if there was a marriage left to save/worth saving: Rain soaked and voice choked Like silent screaming in a dream I search for our absolute distinction The song overall speaks to the value of fighting for your love/relationship. 2
Author krazikat Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 I just heard another song I wanted to share...this would be for a bh.. Lately by Jodeci originally by Stevie Wonder) Lately I've had the strangest feeling With no vivid reason here to find But yet the thought of losing you been hanging Around my mind Far more frequently your wearing perfume With you say the special place to go But when I ask will you be coming back soon You don't know never know Chorus] Oh I'm a man of many wishes I hope my preminition misses But what I really feel My eyes wont let me hide Cuz they always start to cry Cuz this time could mean goodbye Lately I've been staring in the mirror And I'ts very slowly picking me apart I've tried to tell myself I have no reason With your heart Now just the other night while you were sleeping I vaguely heard you whisper someone's name But when I ask you of the thought's your keeping You just say nothing's changed Well I'm a man of many wishes I hope my premenition misses But what I really feel My eyes wont let me hide Cuz they always start to cry Cuz this time could mean goodbye
Author krazikat Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 Miranda Lambert - White Liar Hey white liar* The truth comes out a little at a time* And it spreads just like a fire* Slips off of your tongue like turpentine *And I don't know why *White liar* You better be careful what you do *I wouldn't wanna be in your shoes *If they ever found you out* You better be careful what you say *It never really added up any way *I got friends in this town* Hey white liar* The truth comes out a little at a time *And it spreads just like a fire* Slips off of your tongue like turpentine* And I don't know why* White liar* You said you went out to a bar *And walked some lady to her car *But your face has more to tell* Cuz my cousin saw you on the street* With a red head named Bernice* Tirns out you don't lie too well *Hey white liar* The truth comes out a little at a time *And it spreads just like a fire* Slips off of your tongue like turpentine* And I don't know why* White liar* Here's a bombshell just for you *Turns out I've been lying too* Yeah I'm a white liar
Author krazikat Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 There's a song I mentioned in another thread that's not specifically about cheating, but about surviving the "storms" of life that affect relationships. It's called "Love's Recovery" by the Indigo Girls. In particular there's one phrase that I feel captures how I felt right after DDay when I had to figure out in the midst of this storm of emotion if there was a marriage left to save/worth saving: Rain soaked and voice choked Like silent screaming in a dream I search for our absolute distinction The song overall speaks to the value of fighting for your love/relationship. Um, heck yes it does! That would have had me curled up in the fetal position if I heard those lyrics around dday...very deep...and the silent screaming really gets to me...because that is EXACTLY how I felt, screaming and dying inside, but I had to keep on my game face for kids, for work. Thank you for sharing. And I have noticed that bs and ap could share MANY of the broken hearted love songs.
Older 'n' wiser Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 I wrote a song after H's words kept bouncing off my brain for a few days. His paltry "guess I should've known better" opened up so many angry retorts. I'd like to re-record some day full volume. Lyrics posted here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/infidelity/384469-shoulda-known-better + link to recording 3
Author krazikat Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 I wrote a song after H's words kept bouncing off my brain for a few days. His paltry "guess I should've known better" opened up so many angry retorts. I'd like to re-record some day full volume. Lyrics posted here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/infidelity/384469-shoulda-known-better + link to recording I do love those lyrics. Very true, and powerful. Thank you for sharing. And you have great talent. 2
findingnemo Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 One of my favorite songs as BW was Mary J. Blige's "Not Gon Cry". Made me think if I wanted to be singing the same song 11 years into my M. No way!! I'd wasted enough time. [Verse 1:] While all the time that I was loving you You were busy loving yourself I would stop breathing if you told me to Now you're busy loving someone else Eleven years out of my life Besides the kids I have nothing to show Wasted my years a fool of a wife I shoulda have left your ass long time ago [Chorus:] Well I'm not gon cry, I'm not gon cry, I'm not gon shed no tears No, I'm not gon cry, it's not the time cuz you're not worth my tears Well I'm not gon cry, I'm not gon cry, I'm not gon shed no tears No, I'm not gon cry, it's not the time, cuz you're not worth my tears [Verse 2:] I was your lover and your secretary Working every day of the week Was at the job when no one else was there Helping you get on your feet Eleven years of sacrifice And you can leave me at the drop of a dime Swallowed my fears, stood by your side I shoulda left your ass a thousand times [Chorus] I know there are no guarantees In love you take your chances But somehow it seems unfair to me Look at the circumstances Through sickness and health 'till death do us part Those were the words that we said from our hearts So now when you say that you're leaving me I don't get that part [Repeat Verse 2] [Chorus] 2
Author krazikat Posted May 26, 2013 Author Posted May 26, 2013 One of my favorite songs as BW was Mary J. Blige's "Not Gon Cry". Made me think if I wanted to be singing the same song 11 years into my M. No way!! I'd wasted enough time. [Verse 1:] While all the time that I was loving you You were busy loving yourself I would stop breathing if you told me to Now you're busy loving someone else Eleven years out of my life Besides the kids I have nothing to show Wasted my years a fool of a wife I shoulda have left your ass long time ago [Chorus:] Well I'm not gon cry, I'm not gon cry, I'm not gon shed no tears No, I'm not gon cry, it's not the time cuz you're not worth my tears Well I'm not gon cry, I'm not gon cry, I'm not gon shed no tears No, I'm not gon cry, it's not the time, cuz you're not worth my tears [Verse 2:] I was your lover and your secretary Working every day of the week Was at the job when no one else was there Helping you get on your feet Eleven years of sacrifice And you can leave me at the drop of a dime Swallowed my fears, stood by your side I shoulda left your ass a thousand times [Chorus] I know there are no guarantees In love you take your chances But somehow it seems unfair to me Look at the circumstances Through sickness and health 'till death do us part Those were the words that we said from our hearts So now when you say that you're leaving me I don't get that part [Repeat Verse 2] [Chorus] Omg yes!!!! I cant believe I forgot about that one! Even of your ws isnt leaving and is actually begging to stay, the words are emotional and brought tears to my eyes. As a bs, and even with the downs in the marriage, I have always had my fwh back...and when I found out he had been cheating...for years, I crumbled. I have never felt such pain in my life...to know the extent he went to lie and etc...and how could I have been such a fool to not know? So yes, this song really resonates with me. My anger and hurt was overwhelming, ugh. Thank you for sharing this song! I love music, and feel that music can soothe the soul, even painful lyrics like this. 1
findingnemo Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 Omg yes!!!! I cant believe I forgot about that one! Even of your ws isnt leaving and is actually begging to stay, the words are emotional and brought tears to my eyes. As a bs, and even with the downs in the marriage, I have always had my fwh back...and when I found out he had been cheating...for years, I crumbled. I have never felt such pain in my life...to know the extent he went to lie and etc...and how could I have been such a fool to not know? So yes, this song really resonates with me. My anger and hurt was overwhelming, ugh. Thank you for sharing this song! I love music, and feel that music can soothe the soul, even painful lyrics like this. I know...music really helps me too. The reason this song resonated with me was the whole sacrifice thing. As a W you automatically put your H first in most things. Then as a mother, you definitely put the kids above everything else. Sometimes I felt bad that I missed my old single life because it put my loyalty and level of maternal instinct in question. But in truth, it can all get too much sometimes. Yet we get up in the morning and keep going. Then the fool goes and f's around??? Just doing that is putting the family in jeopardy whether he is leaving or not! Argh! It pisses me off just remembering. 2
tbf Posted May 26, 2013 Posted May 26, 2013 ~ Evanescence. How can you see into my eyes like open doors? Leading you down into my core where I’ve become so numb Without a soul my spirit's sleeping somewhere cold Until you find it there and lead it back home (Wake me up) Wake me up inside (I can’t wake up) Wake me up inside (Save me) Call my name and save me from the dark (Wake me up) Bid my blood to run (I can’t wake up) Before I come undone (Save me) Save me from the nothing I’ve become Now that I know what I’m without You can't just leave me Breathe into me and make me real Bring me to life (Wake me up) Wake me up inside (I can’t wake up) Wake me up inside (Save me) Call my name and save me from the dark (Wake me up) Bid my blood to run (I can’t wake up) Before I come undone (Save me) Save me from the nothing I’ve become Bring me to life (I've been living a lie, there's nothing inside) Bring me to life Frozen inside without your touch Without your love, darling Only you are the life among the dead All this time I can't believe I couldn't see Kept in the dark but you were there in front of me I’ve been sleeping a thousand years it seems Got to open my eyes to everything Without a thought, without a voice, without a soul Don't let me die here There must be something more Bring me to life (Wake me up) Wake me up inside (I can’t wake up) Wake me up inside (Save me) Call my name and save me from the dark (Wake me up) Bid my blood to run (I can’t wake up) Before I come undone (Save me) Save me from the nothing I’ve become (Bring me to life) I’ve been living a lie, there’s nothing inside (Bring me to life)
Author krazikat Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 Here are the lyrics to "Love" by musicsoulchild...it is me and my h theme song, so to speak... "Love"[Verse 1:] LoveSo many things I've got to tell you But I'm afraid I don't know how Cause there's a possibility You'll look at me differently Love Ever since the first moment I spoke your name* From then on I knew that by you being in my life Things were destined to change cause...... [Hook:] Love So many people use your name in vain Love Those who faith in you sometimes go astray Love Through all the ups and downs the joy and hurt Love For better or worse I still will choose you first[ Verse 2:]Many days I've longed for you Wanting you Hoping for the chance to get to know you Longing for your kiss For your kiss, for your touch, for your essence (your beautiful essence) Many nights I've cried from the things you do* Felt like I could die from the thought of losing you I know that you're real With no doubt or no fears Or no questions[ Hook:] At first you didn't mean that much to me But now I know that you're all I need The world looks so brand new to me *Now that I found love Everyday I live for you And everything that I do I do it for you What I say is how I feel so believe it's true You got to know I'm true, love
Author krazikat Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 This song is possibly going to set someone off, but hey, its a real song and sometimes a song like this can get you feeling a bit stronger...anyways, this is Monica...Sideline Ho... "Sideline Ho" [Verse 1:] When you called his phone, did he pick it up? No, 'cause we was making love. Did you meet his moms, have you met his kids? No, oh, did you know my kid was his? No, oh .[Chorus:] Get your s**t together you're making a fool of yourself, don't matter if he spends the night, his home is somewhere else Ain't you tired of being on the side line, tired of getting yours after I get mine baby? second place don't get a prize when you gone realize you're wasting your time babyAin't you're tired of him getting, hitting real quick, then rolling and Ain't you're tired of when you need a little change and he lies about what he holding? Ain't you're tired of spending all the holidays alone, tired of being his little sideline ho? Do he take you out, do he foot your bills, no oh, 'cause I know what his balance is have you been to his church,do he ask you to pray, no oh 'cause Sunday's Family day [Chorus][bridge x2:] Do you got benefits, no, credit cards, no, house keys, no, then youse a sideline ho ,do you get pillow talk, no, held at night , no ,if you don't make his breakfast then youse a sideline ho 1
findingnemo Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 Krazikat, Monica was definitely expressing the thoughts of a BW in that song! Isn't it true though that what pisses off a BW most (I don't know about the BH) is not the sexual contact per se? It does feel like one's WH has undone every good thing he ever did and taken back every promise he ever made. Good thread, by the way!!! 1
Author krazikat Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 Krazikat, Monica was definitely expressing the thoughts of a BW in that song! Isn't it true though that what pisses off a BW most (I don't know about the BH) is not the sexual contact per se? It does feel like one's WH has undone every good thing he ever did and taken back every promise he ever made. Good thread, by the way!!! It is all the lies that bothered me the most...the promise of never cheating, saying he would never cheat on me while he was, in fact, cheating. So yes, it is about the promises, and the lies. I know that I would never cheat, and even after his A, I know I am not the kind of woman who could lie and cheat. My line of thinking in the situation is that I will not compromise my own morals. But yes, finding out that your partner and "best friend" has betrayed you is devastating. It makes it feel as if it was all a lie. I know my h loves me so much, and he shows me every day. But I have a feeling I will be looking at him sideways for a while. 1
Author krazikat Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 This song is possibly going to set someone off, but hey, its a real song and sometimes a song like this can get you feeling a bit stronger...anyways, this is Monica...Sideline Ho... "Sideline Ho" [Verse 1:] When you called his phone, did he pick it up? No, 'cause we was making love. Did you meet his moms, have you met his kids? No, oh, did you know my kid was his? No, oh .[Chorus:] Get your s**t together you're making a fool of yourself, don't matter if he spends the night, his home is somewhere else Ain't you tired of being on the side line, tired of getting yours after I get mine baby? second place don't get a prize when you gone realize you're wasting your time babyAin't you're tired of him getting, hitting real quick, then rolling and Ain't you're tired of when you need a little change and he lies about what he holding? Ain't you're tired of spending all the holidays alone, tired of being his little sideline ho? Do he take you out, do he foot your bills, no oh, 'cause I know what his balance is have you been to his church,do he ask you to pray, no oh 'cause Sunday's Family day [Chorus][bridge x2:] Do you got benefits, no, credit cards, no, house keys, no, then youse a sideline ho ,do you get pillow talk, no, held at night , no ,if you don't make his breakfast then youse a sideline ho YouTube Link to hear the song is above...she has a beautiful voice.
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