lailax3 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Hey everyone. I solely signed up to post my issue. I hope I can receive some insight. On Sunday, my boyfriend said he wasn't sure how he felt about me but wanted for us to talk in person about it. I went into panic mode and it erupted into an argument. All this was over whatsapp. We hadn't been dating long, only two months. But I believe a time frame doesn't necessarily mean a relationship isn't as important or as 'real'. We both believed we were 'soul mates' My last words to him over whatsapp on sunday were 'You've really hurt me but I guess your life will go back to normal right?'. I had wanted a conversation over the phone but he had said his battery was about to do. After my last words to him, he blocked me. Monday morning I saw I was still blocked so I sent him a SMS saying he was playing games with me and if that's how he was going to be, then good riddance. No reply. Tuesday I sent him an email, apologising for anything cruel I may have said and that I acknowledgedand rrespected he didn't want to proceed with me. I also asked him for some advice regarding a job in his city (40 mins away from me, possible relocation, he knew about this while we were dating). Again, no response. Today is Friday, and feeling rejected and upset, I finally blocked him on whatsapp too. I guess I need some confirmation about whether it's over. One thing I do know about him is when he's 'messed up', he avoids me. He's told me this before. He is the first man I've cried over. That's how much of a deep connection I felt with him. If it helps, I'm 23 and he's 24. Thanks.
TaraMaiden Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 On Sunday, my boyfriend said he wasn't sure how he felt about me but wanted for us to talk in person about it. I went into panic mode and it erupted into an argument. All this was over whatsapp... My last words to him over whatsapp...After my last words to him, he blocked me. Monday morning I saw I was still blocked so I sent him a SMS saying he was playing games with me and if that's how he was going to be, then good riddance. No reply. Tuesday I sent him an email.... Again, no response. Today is Friday, and feeling rejected and upset, I finally blocked him on whatsapp too. I guess I need some confirmation about whether it's over. It's quite evident that the above is all the confirmation you need. He's Blocked you and gone complete No Contact. Confirmed: This is over. One thing I do know about him is when he's 'messed up', he avoids me. He's told me this before. Then leave him alone. You know, the way to make a puppy 'come' to you, is to sit on the floor and ignore it. Pretty soon, it approaches you.... If you want him to reinitiate contact - then leave him alone. Eventually, he will try to re-engage with you. He is the first man I've cried over. That's how much of a deep connection I felt with him. If it helps, I'm 23 and he's 24. Going to just get a little gripe out here. You're both adults. Yet all you did in this debacle was to communicate electronically. There's a lot to be said for just picking up the 'phone, dialling and actually using the good ol' fashioned way of communicating: By talking to one another. If you're mature adults, you'll find this is by far the best way of actually dealing with stuff. if you're so 'closely connected', would that not be logical? What stops you guys actually speaking, instead of all this 'whatsapp', SMS or email stuff? Go silent. he will call.
Leigh 87 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Will he call? Hmm I am not so sure.... Only a coward will just cut all contact without actually seeing you in person about it. Especially if you were " soul mates" Seriously...
Author lailax3 Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 Thank you for the replies ladies. Yesterday I noticed he had unblocked me on whatsapp, and then he blocked me again. Last night he did the same thing. I know I was unblocked because I could see his image updates. Since he's still not contacted me, but played some blocking game, to me, it's evident he doesn't want to contact me. With that, I deleted his number. His silent treatment seems to be a power thing for him, so I'm better off moving on. 3
LostGirl11 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 What the **** is it with these men? The silent treatmeant, the punishing, ect. It's just cruel. My ex always played the silent treatment game. It will never stop. Everytime you have an argument this will happen. Even if it was him that was in the wrong it was always me that would call and I'd always end up saying sorry. Most of time I had nothing to be sorry for. He just liked having control over me and the situation. Must have made him feel like a man.
Kristopher1 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 What the **** is it with these men? The silent treatmeant, the punishing, ect. It's just cruel. My ex always played the silent treatment game. It will never stop. Everytime you have an argument this will happen. Even if it was him that was in the wrong it was always me that would call and I'd always end up saying sorry. Most of time I had nothing to be sorry for. He just liked having control over me and the situation. Must have made him feel like a man. oi! I'm a guy and I'm not like that!!!
LostGirl11 Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 (edited) oi! I'm a guy and I'm not like that!!! I said 'These' men Argh, I just don't get it. The more I asked my ex to stop the more he done it. Says a lot about him I guess... Edited May 27, 2013 by LostGirl11 1
Author lailax3 Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 I've been feeling pretty upset today, as I've heard nothing from him. I thought I was over the 'hurting' stage and I have grown kinda immune to his absence. I do have to be honest though, there is still a glimmer of hope in he will contact me soon. But then again I highly doubt it. Sigh.
crazy1234 Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 U need the understand the depth of his words and emotions.Think about it,is there anything we can do to make someone stay with us when they clearly dont want to?No right?even if we cut our heart out and give it to them,u think it will evolve any emotion in them?No love.I'm sorry i know u dont need to hear this but its for you'r own good.Stop calling him cause u can see what he wants and is doing..he sounds like an irresponsible adult.It'll be fine..give it some time.
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