ex says'you'r like my dog..i'll kick u and u'l come bak'.?

[crazy1234]

hi again everyone..I saw my ex yesterday and he saw my too(as we live in the same road)bt i dont know why somehow i feel like he'll call me to say sorry after he saw me..bt there were no calls..nothing..and it keeps bothering how he could be so harsh and heartless..how could he just fell out of love after making me go through so much ****..its just really bothering..how can some1 be this cruel?the last days when he was ignoring me..he told me'you'r like my dog..i'll kick you and u'll come back?'(we got back after like 3 years and this is what he tells me)..how cruel is that??how can someone say that to the person who loves you like crazy?

[TheMink]

hi again everyone..I saw my ex yesterday and he saw my too(as we live in the same road)bt i dont know why somehow i feel like he'll call me to say sorry after he saw me..bt there were no calls..nothing..and it keeps bothering how he could be so harsh and heartless..how could he just fell out of love after making me go through so much ****..its just really bothering..how can some1 be this cruel?the last days when he was ignoring me..he told me'you'r like my dog..i'll kick you and u'll come back?'(we got back after like 3 years and this is what he tells me)..how cruel is that??how can someone say that to the person who loves you like crazy?

This guy sounds like a complete ******* and he definitely doesn't deserve your time of day. I know it's probably not what you want to hear this but you just need to give up on this guy and move on with your life. And because it's the only way that you're going to heel. To answer your question about how he fell out of love. There is no real answer, it's just one of those things that happens and there's nothing that we can do about it. I'm going through it at the moment as well. My girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago because she had lost feelings for me and had become bored of me. This person that I had loved and cared for for a large part of my life, just completely exited and has cut me out of her life. It sucks, but all we can do is pick up the pieces of our hearts and move on.

 

This will sound weird to you, but this is probably the best thing that could have happened because this guy doesn't deserve to be a part of your life. And this is a great opportunity for you to open a new chapter of your life and find someone that you deserve and will love you more than this guy ever could and ever will.

 

You need to go to immediate NC. It'll probably be hard considering you live in the same street but you've got to do it. If he tries to contact you, just ignore him, this is your time to show him that you don't need him. Because honestly, you don't! Prove him wrong in all of his impudence. This is time to be strong. Don't go searching for answers as to why he's done this, or apologies. Because you're not going to get any closure, and it's not going to make you feel any better.

 

If he says hi to you in the street or something similar, and you can't build yourself to give him the cold shoulder (of which I think you should) just say hi and 'smile and wave' if you don't mind the figurative language and just move on with your day, even though it might ruin it.

 

Smile and Wave:

 

Do not contact him, come on here. We care about you more than this guy does, trust me. Stay strong. Take it one day at a time

 

Make sure to read this post as well, it has really helped me out so far: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/395589-heartbroken-must-read

Edited May 24, 2013 by TheMink

[crazy1234]

thank you so much for taking the time out and read my post..i stopped talking to him the moment he told me he's not sure of his feelings for me and that he needs to talk to someone(the other girl ofcourse)about it and then decide..i stopped talking to him the minute after and didnt talk to him or contact him in any way..even though he tried for a week texting saying he loves me and he's sorry and all that ****tt..bt they'r together now..so i dont think any of that meant anything to him..he said it just out of sympathy..i will die alone bt never talk to him ever again..giving him a second chance was my biggest mistake..and i dont intend on even looking at his face as he passes by me..it just makes me so ****ing angry i cant tell you..its the anger that follows the other frustrating question of whys and hows..and i am taking it one day at a time:)..i will face my fears even if it means my world coming down to my feet..thankyou so muchh for you'r advice.:)I gues we have to accept that people change and so do feelings..We'll be okay..so will you...We'll be happy soon..

[itto ogami]

Pardon my French but this guy is an *******. And he sounds like the type who manipulates by always insulting or degrading the SO. Its a way for insecure bullies to gain "power" -- which you need to take away by staying far from this jerk.

 

But when he compared you to a kicked dog that always comes back, not only is that the proof of his bad character but he was giving you a grain of truth and wisdom in telling you that he doesn't respect somebody who doesn't walk away.

 

He's actually verbalizing a major aspect of NO CONTACT. You need to walk away for your own self, but the byproduct is him having to respect your decision to not be treated like a dog by a son of a bitch.

[GG3]

I would never speak to someone again that said something like that to me. He doesn't deserve your time of day.

 

I don't care how awesome a person thinks they are, if they treat someone like that on purpose then they don't respect themselves or others and who needs people like that around.

 

Don't speak to this guy again and don't care what he thinks or how cold he is. His opinions don't matter.

[TaraMaiden]

Anyone whose English is so articulate and coherent, is certainly a catch....

 

 

You really don't need to be asking any questions about him at all, other than "Why the hell did I stay with him for this long??"

 

Do the right thing: Do not give him a second of your thinking time.

 

Every moment, is that moment wasted - and you can never get that time back.

[crazy1234]

Thankyou everyone for you'r replies and concern..I wont even talk to him nomatter what..It just hurts how he could say such a thing..But i guess he was so blinded by this other girl that he forgot to see where i stood for him from the time i was 17..till now i'm 21..i was just with him all along..but anyways i gues I have to look at the brighter picture here and bring myself up from that insult and let it go..Thank you again all of you for you'r advice..and yes he has a character problem he cheated on me twice i still gave him chances..he cant stick to one girl for long..i was his longest m guessing.Its funny how i feel like i dont know this guy anymore..lol.Life is a bitch>however I need to stop thinking about it and be happy because i saw his true colors before he could hurt me even more.Peace everyone.We will all overcome this hurdle.

[Chi townD]

WOW!!!! That statement got me FIRED UP!!!

 

" You're like my dog, if I kick you you'll still come back?!?!"

 

Really?!?! What a POS, asshat, douche rocket, weasel, pencil d*ck scumbag!!

 

What you should have responded to that was, " Yeah, I'm like a dog, but if you kick me, I'll bite your nuts off. Might take a while to find them because everything down there is so small. And YES, it is! So, stop using the excuse that it was cold outside because your not fooling anyone."

 

What a douchebag!

[crazy1234]

WOW!!!! That statement got me FIRED UP!!!

 

" You're like my dog, if I kick you you'll still come back?!?!"

 

Really?!?! What a POS, asshat, douche rocket, weasel, pencil d*ck scumbag!!

 

What you should have responded to that was, " Yeah, I'm like a dog, but if you kick me, I'll bite your nuts off. Might take a while to find them because everything down there is so small. And YES, it is! So, stop using the excuse that it was cold outside because your not fooling anyone."

 

What a douchebag!

i know..i just hate myself cause i didnt say anything to that..i was so surprised at what he had said..i feel really mad at myself now..it keeps ringing in my head like a reminder everyday.he is a douchbag..and everything and anything u can think of.

[Chi townD]

Girl, look. You are not a damn dog. I sure you are a kind and beautiful girl that, unfortunately, got involved with such a brazen asshat.

 

You have self-worth and even though you feel that your self esteem is in the toliet, DO NOT LET THIS D*CKHEAD BRING YOU DOWN!!!

 

You are a strong and independant woman. So, prove him WRONG! Make self improvements, stay busy and work on healing yourself. Come here and vent anytime you need to. People will be here to listen.

 

Prove this guy wrong!

[d0620]

If a person shows you who they are believe them. I am in the same boat that you are and it hurts like hell to offer someone your heart and they stump on it like its worth nothing. I am only on Day 2 and I am in a state of depression. Nothing hurts worse than the rejection, so I will accept NC instead. Hopefully, at some point it feels better than this. It's going to be hard but the most important point is to rebuild your self confidence as going through so much rejection and basically emotional abuse has made us believe that this is all we are worth and once we get away from these toxic emotion sucking a**holes we will then get to the point of seeing our self worth. Until then, we support each other here until we are strong enough and then we come back to LS tell our success story and then help other people. See you on LS and take care.

[itto ogami]

Best thing is that you're only 21 - this ass is a blip on the radar of your life and look at it as a lesson you need not repeat. We all learn and you can get this kind of guy and treatment out of your life for good.

[underpants]

You teach people how to treat you by your responses, actions and attention or lack thereof.

 

This is someone to weed out of your life, so something better can grow.

 

The who kicks dogs thought, is where I would have stopped.

 

Someone who hates doggies and women, and someone to see on the news one day.

[crazy1234]

hi there..i know what as ******* he is..I just feel very angry all the time..and everytime i see him..how could i shut my mouth and not put a slap on his face right then..but that's not me..i cant stoop to his level..this is me..i dont want anything but to forget what has happened...and i want to do things for myself..i just cant find the motivation anywhere..i dont know what to do:(..i'm studyin currently..but i should do a job too..but i cant find the motivation.However i have to buckle up and just get back to life..he has been as *******..but i failed to see it..but its okay i guess..i didnt know he would be such a bastard..he just didnt deserve it..please pray that i start doing some work..i cant get the motivation anywhere..

P.s:I dont talk to him anymore and dont intend on ever..i stopped talking to him after he told me he's falling for someone else and needs to decide with HER what should be done..lol..funny isnt it?another woman decides my destiny..ofcourse i told him i dont need it and blocked his call right away.

[amaysngrace]

Stop talking to him completely. He's saying mean things to you every chance he gets so stop giving him the chance.

 

Does he really kick his dog?

[crazy1234]

Stop talking to him completely. He's saying mean things to you every chance he gets so stop giving him the chance.

 

Does he really kick his dog?

he doesnt have a dog..he just referred to it saying im like a dog that he'll kick and will come back again

[TaraMaiden]

crazy1234 the biggest favour you could do yourself - and the biggest 'slap-in-the-face' you could give him - is to quit obsessing or thinking about him

You know what he's like.

Now you won't go near nim.

There's no question about him that can be answered, or even should be.

His attitude and behaviour speaks for itself.

 

Move on, and buy a dog like this one.

 

 

If he tries to kick that, let it bite his leg off.

 

Up to the neck.....

 

[MrRightNow]

He sounds like a cruel and heartless person. You deserve better. Move on with your life with no regrets. Good luck and best wishes.

[crazy1234]

I will move on..except that my moving on doesnt include dating..it includes building myself,improving myself,building my self-confidence that has been hampered badly..thankyou all for you'r time.