seahawker64 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 The past month or so I've been having dreams. Probably 4 or 5 nights a week about her. This has never, ever happened before so it freaks me a out a bit. The problem with it is when I wake up and know they are not real it sets my morning off in a bad way. Not every time, but more often than not. The dreams themselves are not horrible but not great either. Just us usually talking about us. I did have one that was kinda funny the other night. I dreamt I was laying on her couch with my feel on her lap and her new guy walks in and is so jealous he just keeps on walking and she just ignores him. In my dream I was just laying there with a s*** eating grin on my face. That was the only one that made me kinda chuckle, the rest have kinda bummed me out. Anyone else go thru this?
aisuru Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 I had a few sex dreams with him in them... which is not my norm at all. Earlier this week, I dreamed he invited me to travel with him for a few months, but also told me he had a girlfriend. I woke up at that point. But it didn't phase me in my real life. I know dreams are just a production of our thoughts during our wakeful state. Apparently I want sex. with my ex. loved to travel with him. and am concerned he'll replace me with a new girlfriend. Don't have to be an expert to figure that out. 1
bella_vita Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Yes, i've been dreaming about my ex almost every night. I feel like theyre so real and then i wake up with nothing from him and i feel so empty
crazy1234 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 The past month or so I've been having dreams. Probably 4 or 5 nights a week about her. This has never, ever happened before so it freaks me a out a bit. The problem with it is when I wake up and know they are not real it sets my morning off in a bad way. Not every time, but more often than not. The dreams themselves are not horrible but not great either. Just us usually talking about us. I did have one that was kinda funny the other night. I dreamt I was laying on her couch with my feel on her lap and her new guy walks in and is so jealous he just keeps on walking and she just ignores him. In my dream I was just laying there with a s*** eating grin on my face. That was the only one that made me kinda chuckle, the rest have kinda bummed me out. Anyone else go thru this? Yes I do..infact i think most of us do..i see hin being with other girls in my dream all the time..cuz i'v always been scared of this..so somehow i end up seeing him with some1 else always and wake up with a very fast heartbeat.
1908 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Indeed. I'm sure she's dreamed of me a few times as well, though she'd never admit it too me or anyone else. Four years of memories don't just disappear for either of us. It makes the following day slightly tougher than normal but nothing that will wreak havoc on me. But dreams are just dreams. More often than not, my dreams are completely chaotic, random and don't mean a darn thing. 1
lop98 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 yes, it annoys me to no end because these dreams tend to ruin a good portion of my day, if not my entire day. They're particularly frustrating when they happen after a great night out or after being with the person I'm now dating, they're either sad or involve his girlfriend... I don't have any nice dreams, just pretty tormenting ones.
BustedUpInside Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 My dreams about my ex are so weird. I usually dream that I was the one that broke up with him. He is begging me to take him back and I keep rejecting him. He follows me from room to room in my new house (he has never been here) and starts listing all the good times we had, but sometimes he says things that we actually never did like adopting another pet or going on a specific vacation. Anyway, he pleads and I just keep rejecting him. We both end up crying. Sometimes I wake up at this point and sometimes he slams out of the house and then I wake up. This has happened once or twice a week for the past month or so. It only started happening when we stopped talking completely. I am not really sure what it means. I tried looking it up in dream books but they weren't particularly helpful. Any ideas?
jennaf Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 My ex-boyfriend recently broke up with me and I can definitely say that the morning when I first wake up is the hardest part. Through the course of the day I can remind myself of what has happened and reason my way through the relationship and how I need to let go and am worth more, so that at night I go to bed still thinking of him but not totally panicked and heart broken. But, when I sleep I have these dreams and then wake up feeling like somebody has punched my chest. So just know that you're not alone I've found that when I wake up, even though it's usually very early, the best thing to do is not try to go back to sleep but just to get up and go on a run. For me, being outside and breathing fresh air helps. Also, I've made signs with some quotes and put them all over my room and bathroom which helps a lot so they are the first things I look at in the morning.
forgetmenot75 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Yes, dream about him two times last week, and two times this week. Since I'm NC, he wasn't present in the dreams either, just his pictures and his name, and people talking about him. I hate to say it, but they were comforting.
tinker683 Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 Three times now. The first time was very sweet and romantic and when I woke up I felt very sad. I barely remember the 2nd time, only that I woke up missing her. The third time was a dream about her having sex with her new boyfriend in front. Words do not even begin to describe the hurt and anger I felt when I woke up
cinta_satu Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 Multiples times about her getting engaged and married to her current bf and once about us getting back together. Can't do nothing about it. I agree it sets of a bad start to the day, which is why every morning I step outside, get some fresh air and sunlight and tell myself that I'm thankful for the day and that I'm going to have a great day.
smokey bear Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 Im a long way out and I still dream about him. Its happened so consistently for so long that I don't feel anything when it happens now, I don't even think about it either, it still happens though..................hmmm
Author seahawker64 Posted May 25, 2013 Author Posted May 25, 2013 It's actually been 2 nights in a row now without any dreams. I probably just cursed myself and I'll have 10 of them tonite....ackkkk!!!! The more I think about this, the more insane and bizarre this whole thing is. I'm lonely as hell but the women I meet when I try and put on my fake happy social face I'm not the least bit interested in. What a weird time in my life. I at least feel some hope for the future that at some point I won;t feel like this anymore and will actually feel like letting someone get close to me again.....maybe.
Giha Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 This stuff really make me doubt my progress... I had a dream today in which we met and kinda tried to work things out, but then I discovered she's just playing with my feelings. Obviously I woke up devastated. But I guess with time it will happen less often...just gotta hang in there I suppose.
simplyamazing Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 I've done it a couple times, not recently though... which makes me happy.
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