Girl problems... is she into me or not.

[CheckIt]

This girl came onto me and at first i was like, "meh" about her, but then i started to text her. We are both 17 by the way. We've started to hang out and although she wanted to pay for the things we did, i paid. (She paid for herself on some stuff). First time we hung out we had a awesome time and she said it was good. We talked about a lot of personal stuff and all that. It was really obvious to me that she liked me for who i am, and i started to like her also. The questions were related to like,"are you good for me" if you know what i mean. Like if things didn't bother me about her, are you the jealous type of person, she said she has a lot of guy friends just so i know, stuff like that. All the qualities that i have she said she liked and it didn't bother her. We've hung out a few more times and we already knew quite a lot about each other. Few days later i kind of gave her the hint that i wanna ask her out, and she said she likes me but doesnt want to jump into anything and isn't ready for a relationship. she said that she still wants to talk to me. So now we both know that we liked each other. She wanted to hang out once more and during that we got into a conversation and i told her that i have a slight stammer which is barely noticeable i guess. She said she was glad that i told her that and we went home but we still talked and what not. I felt like she wasn't really into me anymore, but still asked those questions. I'm pretty impatient and i hate when girls play around with me. I tend to overthink **** way to much and we're not dating or anything yet. She takes quite a while to text back sometimes, and then sometimes she replies instantly. I know for a fact that she has her phone on her most of the time so i dont get it. I'm going to try an hang out with her again and then ask her out. Anyways... do you guys think shes into me still?

 

Also the 3rd time we hung out which is when i told her that i stammer or w/e. When i dropped her off she just kinda said thanks and stepped out of the car. She invited me to a small gathering before that, but they canceled it because it was too late. I mean i thought she could of gave me a hug or something u know what i mean... idk.

Edited May 24, 2013 by CheckIt

[Lani]

It doesn't sound to me like she's into you.

 

Plus, if you're overanalysing things before you're even together, then it's probably not going to work.

 

Keep talking to her, but don't put all your eggs in one basket. Keep your options open.

[Chief Wiggum]

She probably likes (or liked) you, but didn't wanna' commit because she wants to keep her options open. Like she said, she has plenty of guy friends. There's every chance that she likes one or two of them, and is keeping you at arm's length because she wants to see how it plays out with them first.

 

And the reason why she's not texting you back as often, is probably because she feels you're being a bit too pushy. Again, she wants to keep her options open. She'd prefer it if one of her options didn't rush her.

 

I know it may not be what you wanna' hear, but, it happens, man. Girls can be very calculated when it comes to this kind of stuff. As evident by her already having that compatibility discussion with you. She's scoping her potentials out, and is trying to find the best match.

 

My advice: continue being friends with her, do NOT keep asking her for an answer (or constantly text her), and most importantly, do what she's doing - scope for other potentials, too.

[phineas]

What the chief sad.

But most importantly, treat her as no longer a real option & look for other women to date.

 

This is what some women do, they flirt with a bunch of guys, get them interested then pick the one she likes best as they trip over themselves competing for her.

 

Don't be one of the collective chasing after her and stop spending money on her also.

Paying for her is not going to help you.

It could actually hurt you because she'll be thinking "i'm not even dating him & he pays for me. what a chump"

 

After 3 dates/hangouts she says you are friends, treat her like a friend.

Would you pay for one of your guy friends the way you paid for her? No way.

[CheckIt]

I know for a fact she doesn't have someone on the side besides me. I mean she was at a friends house and left with me for a bit so we can hang out. I only text her if she texts me back, and i don't text her instantly. The only thing that's bothering me is the texting though lol. Although it hasn't been a day where we havn't texted at least a couple times. I know for a fact that her friends wanted to know who i am, because she told me. I'm probably just over thinking this. If she knows that we already like each other, maybe she doesn't try as much? When she said that she has a lot of guy friends, she followed it up by if im a jealous type.

[Scrab22]

That girl sounds picky.

Don't ask her out again, since it's ignoring her words, and it shows you don't take her words seriously. But you don't have to be in favor of her, and you don't need to spend your respect juices on her, since SHE's the one who has lost the opportunity.

Think about it, you're probably the ONLY (or one of few) guys who proposed to her. She doesn't seem to accept non-perfect gifts, so she's very picky with guys, and it will take her AGES till she finds someone, and then it might end due to 143,531 possible reasons.

 

If you want to be friends with her, then you may. But don't feel bad if you want to keep a distance from her. Sometimes friendships can be a waste of energies we want to put more into relationships.

 

I never rush to share my feelings with someone I start dating. I also don't rush into talking about my personal problems. I have a girl friend (not girlfriend) who shared some personal details with me. I got those feelings of "I can provide her with lots of support and intimacy", but she seemed to share her personality with almost EVERYONE.

 

I'm getting carried away here, so I'll stop.

[CheckIt]

That girl sounds picky.

Don't ask her out again, since it's ignoring her words, and it shows you don't take her words seriously. But you don't have to be in favor of her, and you don't need to spend your respect juices on her, since SHE's the one who has lost the opportunity.

Think about it, you're probably the ONLY (or one of few) guys who proposed to her. She doesn't seem to accept non-perfect gifts, so she's very picky with guys, and it will take her AGES till she finds someone, and then it might end due to 143,531 possible reasons.

 

If you want to be friends with her, then you may. But don't feel bad if you want to keep a distance from her. Sometimes friendships can be a waste of energies we want to put more into relationships.

 

I never rush to share my feelings with someone I start dating. I also don't rush into talking about my personal problems. I have a girl friend (not girlfriend) who shared some personal details with me. I got those feelings of "I can provide her with lots of support and intimacy", but she seemed to share her personality with almost EVERYONE.

 

I'm getting carried away here, so I'll stop.

 

Meh. You guys are interpreting a different thing then what actually happened between us. Kinda hard to explain how everything is lol. Shes been single for a few months, but was in a pretty long relationship by the way. I'm not trying to make excuses why she should like me if you know what i mean. Whatever. I'll give it a week and see how it goes.

[therhythm]

This girl came onto me and at first i was like, "meh" about her, but then i started to text her. We are both 17 by the way. We've started to hang out and although she wanted to pay for the things we did, i paid. (She paid for herself on some stuff). First time we hung out we had a awesome time and she said it was good. We talked about a lot of personal stuff and all that. It was really obvious to me that she liked me for who i am, and i started to like her also. The questions were related to like,"are you good for me" if you know what i mean. Like if things didn't bother me about her, are you the jealous type of person, she said she has a lot of guy friends just so i know, stuff like that. All the qualities that i have she said she liked and it didn't bother her. We've hung out a few more times and we already knew quite a lot about each other. Few days later i kind of gave her the hint that i wanna ask her out, and she said she likes me but doesnt want to jump into anything and isn't ready for a relationship. she said that she still wants to talk to me. So now we both know that we liked each other. She wanted to hang out once more and during that we got into a conversation and i told her that i have a slight stammer which is barely noticeable i guess. She said she was glad that i told her that and we went home but we still talked and what not. I felt like she wasn't really into me anymore, but still asked those questions. I'm pretty impatient and i hate when girls play around with me. I tend to overthink **** way to much and we're not dating or anything yet. She takes quite a while to text back sometimes, and then sometimes she replies instantly. I know for a fact that she has her phone on her most of the time so i dont get it. I'm going to try an hang out with her again and then ask her out. Anyways... do you guys think shes into me still?

 

Also the 3rd time we hung out which is when i told her that i stammer or w/e. When i dropped her off she just kinda said thanks and stepped out of the car. She invited me to a small gathering before that, but they canceled it because it was too late. I mean i thought she could of gave me a hug or something u know what i mean... idk.

 

If she has already given you the line "I am not ready for relationships" I think she has been clear ... I am sorry mate, you can try an perseverate but I think she is just not that much into you. You don't lose anything by asking her out anyway, if she tells you no then you are just in the exact place you are at this exact moment.