Did this guy lose interest in me after 6 dates? Is this even possible? Or just busy?

[prettypeach20]

I have been dating this personal trainer from my gym for 2 months and we have gone on 6 dates during this time (I was on vacation for 2 weeks at the start so we didn't see each other). He initiated the first 4 dates and I initiated date 5. I was waiting for him to initiate a 6th date but he didn't, yet he continued to initiate texts (texts seem to be 50:50) and ask open ended questions when we text (i.e., me: how was your day? him: good ____. How was yours?). Thus, I decided to initiate a 6th date because I like seeing him once a week. He told me that he was busy but suggested we see each other the following week and texted me to schedule a date. We went on our date (once again, great!) and then another week went by without a date. Despite this, he continues to text me and come up to me to chat every time I am at the gym which is twice a week. Yet, lately we've been going on one date every other week...it started off with seeing each other once a week...

 

Every time we talk he keeps mentioning how he is super stressed with planning his mom's birthday and brother's bachelor party/wedding - both happening in 2 weeks!

 

I don't really know what is going on...is he busy/stressed or just losing interest in me?

[nerd]

Could be either. I know who knows the answer though. Why don't you ask him?

[PogoStick]

Above poster is right. Some trainers work lots of hours or even 2 jobs so he could be pretty busy. But my gut says he's only mildly interested.

[jolie_baby]

I have been dating this personal trainer from my gym for 2 months and we have gone on 6 dates during this time (I was on vacation for 2 weeks at the start so we didn't see each other). He initiated the first 4 dates and I initiated date 5. I was waiting for him to initiate a 6th date but he didn't, yet he continued to initiate texts (texts seem to be 50:50) and ask open ended questions when we text (i.e., me: how was your day? him: good ____. How was yours?). Thus, I decided to initiate a 6th date because I like seeing him once a week. He told me that he was busy but suggested we see each other the following week and texted me to schedule a date. We went on our date (once again, great!) and then another week went by without a date. Despite this, he continues to text me and come up to me to chat every time I am at the gym which is twice a week. Yet, lately we've been going on one date every other week...it started off with seeing each other once a week...

 

Every time we talk he keeps mentioning how he is super stressed with planning his mom's birthday and brother's bachelor party/wedding - both happening in 2 weeks!

 

I don't really know what is going on...is he busy/stressed or just losing interest in me?

 

a little analysis... you have initiated the last 2 dates and he actually agreed and went out with you... am thinking, if he was busy, he wouldn't be able to go out no matter who initiated.... just a thought...

 

alternatively, you can also give him some time and see if he would initiate a date again... but overall, better not to expect much...

[USMCHokie]

6 dates in 2 months...? That seems like a very small amount...unless you're both dating others as well...