disconcertainly Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 How do you tell if a relationship is worth sticking out? I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now, we are semi serious. I am not looking for a ring any time soon I am still young (22). Last night he talked to me and told me how unhappy he was with his life---but it was not me. I am extremely confused. I love him but I don't want my efforts in the relationship to go to waste. So anyone can give some advice that would be great! Thanks
Jilly10340 Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 He may be unhappy with his life but he's already said that it wasn't you. You're probably the only good thing in his life right now. I don't see what the problem is. Everyone has there ups and downs in life, I don't think that leaving him over it is entirely necessary unless YOUR unhappy in the relationship. How has your relationship been besides this?
Author disconcertainly Posted October 1, 2004 Author Posted October 1, 2004 Its not that I am leaving him b/c things in his life are not going well. Its that last night when we were talking he said things to me like " some things are just not meant to be but I do love you" and he is extremly worried about what is going to happen 5 years down the road. I want to be with him but I on the other hand do not want to feel as if I am wasting my time. Giving my all to make a relationship work and then having it end b/c he can not tell the future. I am very much in love with him and want it to work. But just b/c I would want it to work does not mean that he is willing to work. Our relationship has was great for the 1st year and 6 months then things started getting rocky. He has ocd and aniexty problems that causes problems in our relationship.
Jilly10340 Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 No one knows what's going to happen in the future. That's the risk you take when you love someone. Think about your past relationships. If you knew then that they weren't going to work would you have just "not wasted your time." No relationship is a waste of time, especially a 2 year one. You always learn something.
Stone Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I have read some of your reply's today on other topics... You seem to be a VERY informed and VERY inteligent person... I am sure you will make the right choice. But how can he love you if he can't love himself?
Splatty Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 If he was anything like me... the only thing I was sure of in my life was my ex-gf. Samething as you bf, lost and unhappy but not unhappy withthe relationship. I will tell you this about myself, although I was happy with my ex (she ended up dumping me) in the end I needed to be by myself and figuring out how to change my life. The main reason she dumped me was because I knew I need to figure myself out and decided to work half way across the world..... obviously that was not something our relationship could withstand. Not to mention my ex probably felt and questioned the relationship alot like you and in the end she saw that I need to do this alone. This is a hard choice for you... there is no answer....
Author disconcertainly Posted October 2, 2004 Author Posted October 2, 2004 Please tell me what was going through you mind at the time.....mean did u talk to old girlfriends? Think about other girls?
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