YOLO OVOXO Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Hi All, My ex-boyfriend contacted me after 7 weeks of NC. He texted me and said "Hey, how are you doing? Can I give you a call?" I responded an hour and a half later and said I was doing good and that I hoped he was doing well too. I asked what he wanted to talk about, which he didn't send me a reply to. Some background info: We were together 6+ years, almost 2 of them long distance (he moved for grad school). He initiated the break-up and said he didn't love me anymore, but we ended on good/amicable terms. We both never cheated and he didn't leave me for someone else. I never said I was going NC, but I did it to let myself move on. I know he is in town either this week or next (his cousin is graduating) and his birthday is actually today. My questions are: -What could his intentions be for contacting me? -Should I still wish him "happy birthday", even though he didn't respond? -Any reason why he chose the day before his birthday to break NC? I'm really just trying to take any contact at face value and not read into it too much. I don't have any hope of us getting back together (at least not in the short-term) and I've accepted that...guess I'm just curious. Any advice/answers/tips would be much appreciated! Thanks!
HumptyDumpty Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 You had some breadcrumbs there! But well, they dry up and disappear the next time you clean up with your vacuum cleaner Well, for his birthday- do whatever you feel right! Does he deserve your attention for his birthday? Could you cope without a response? Could you cope with yet more breadcrumbs to clean up? I mean, they can get stuck in your carpet and all... But really, there's no response! For me, it's a very strong act, to look beyond all this silly bullsh*t and to be friendly and kind! A happy birthday isn't engaging! It's just that this person has to deserve it! Mine is even unable to remember mine, so I didn't bother this year to do it on time! i wished it now 2 months later lol What's imporrant here is that you don't get hurt and upset about this! If you feel you might regret it, do it! If you can't stand writing, if you cry even thinking about it, back up! NC is not a game, it's precious you-time for you to heal! An open wound can't be left open can it? NC is the plaster Good luck, do whatver feels right, just don't get upset about it or waste more than 5min thinking about him please
Treasa Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Show him he can't jerk your puppet strings around anymore and DO NOT contact him. If he wants to get hold of you badly enough, he will find a way to make it happen. Do not wish him a happy birthday.
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